Imagine you're in the audience of a play. Big theater. Opera house.
Imagine there are one thousand actors on stage.
Which ones would stand out? Which ones would you remember?
It's not always going to be the loudest or most hyperactive.
Maybe you'd be drawn into the misty-blue woman with the long black hair in the deep blue cape with half her face hidden, standing silently at the edge of the stage.
Now you, as a musician, are one of the actors on that overcrowded stage.
Would you stand out? Would people remember you? Are you being a strong enough version of YOU, so that people who DO want who YOU are can find you in the crowd?
(P.S. The most memorable actor on stage might be the one that gets off the stage, walks up to your seat, and gives you a kiss.)