Derek Sivers

Programmer, writer, avid student of life. I make useful things, and share what I learn.

Quitting something you love

Personal change needs some space to happen. To bring something new into your life, you need somewhere to put it. If your current habits are filling your day, where is this new stuff supposed to go?

The English word “quit” comes from old French meaning “to free” or “to release”.

We know about quitting something that’s bad for you, or something you hate. But what about quitting something you love?

I can tell you from experience, it leaves a lot of room for change.

I used to have an awesome job. I loved it so much that I became too comfortable. So I made myself quit. That empty space made me figure out how to be a full-time musician.

Then I was a full-time musician for many years, living the life of my dreams. I loved it so much that I quit that life to start a company.

Then years later, I quit that company for similar reasons. It was hard. I loved it. I was addicted to it. And that’s why I had to leave.

In 2010, I felt addicted to America. It was my comfort zone. I loved it too much. I couldn’t imagine living anywhere else. So I made myself quit. I haven’t lived there since 2010, and probably never will again.

People often ask if I miss any of it. Any regrets?

Not at all.

I still love everything I quit. But not as much as I love all this room for change.

If you think this sounds horrible, congratulations! I’m thankful for people like you. I’m glad AC/DC has been playing the exact same music for 43 years, without quitting. But that would be Hell for me.

Today I’m quitting something I’ve loved doing part-time since 1994, and basically full-time since 2008. I’m no longer answering email questions.

In the last eight years, I’ve answered over 192,000 emails from 78,000 people. Most of them had giant life-sized questions that took me hours a day to answer. I’ll continue to reply to all, but just can’t answer questions anymore.

I still love it, so it’s hard to quit. But it’s time to make room for change.

Empty cage photo by Hartwig HKD.

Please see my now page at for what I’m doing now, and my contact page at for why you should still email me to introduce yourself.

P.S. Yes my last few articles were leading up to this. “Tilting my mirror”, “Frequently Asked Questions”, and “Solitary Socialite”. All in the context of “Saying no to everything else”.