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Shut up! Announcing your plans makes you less motivated to accomplish them.

Shouldn't you announce your goals, so friends can support you?

Isn't it good networking to tell people about your upcoming projects?

Doesn't the “law of attraction” mean you should state your intention, and visualize the goal as already yours?

Nope.

Tests done since 1933 show that people who talk about their intentions are less likely to make them happen.

Announcing your plans to others satisfies your self-identity just enough that you're less motivated to do the hard work needed.

In 1933, W. Mahler found that if a person announced the solution to a problem, and was acknowledged by others, it was now in the brain as a “social reality”, even if the solution hadn't actually been achieved.

NYU psychology professor Peter Gollwitzer has been studying this since his 1982 book “Symbolic Self-Completion” (pdf article here) - and recently published results of new tests in a research article, “When Intentions Go Public: Does Social Reality Widen the Intention-Behavior Gap?

Four different tests of 63 people found that those who kept their intentions private were more likely to achieve them than those who made them public and were acknowledged by others.

Once you've told people of your intentions, it gives you a “premature sense of completeness.”

You have “identity symbols” in your brain that make your self-image. Since both actions and talk create symbols in your brain, talking satisfies the brain enough that it “neglects the pursuit of further symbols.”

A related test found that success on one sub-goal (eating healthy meals) reduced efforts on other important sub-goals (going to the gym) for the same reason.

It may seem unnatural to keep your intentions and plans private, but try it. If you do tell a friend, make sure not to say it as a satisfaction (“I've joined a gym and bought running shoes. I'm going to do it!”), but as dissatisfaction (“I want to lose 20 pounds, so kick my ass if I don't, OK?”)

http://www.flickr.com/photos/30368039@N06/2891452910/

Thanks to Wray Herbert's article about this.

Comments

  1. paul (2009-06-16) #

    agreed - as a band, we only tell people what's going once it's 100% happening/confirmed. that way we spend all our efforts getting it to happen, instead of splitting time between doing it and promoting it.

  2. Carla Lynne Hall (2009-06-16) #

    "Secrecy is the first law of Magic" - from Julia Cameron's Artist's Way.

    Talking about your project seems to spread your energy in every direction other than towards completion.

    Just sayin...

  3. Marja (2009-06-16) #

    I believe that this is absolutely true. Sometimes, I find myself talking about things I have to do. . . and it gives me a sense of achievement and fulfillment. This isn't that great because I have noted that it takes away my motivation. However, I also find that I really dislike talking about the things I feel most deeply about, and the things I most desire to do.

    Interesting... Thanks for bringing this to our attention Derek!

  4. Patrick Dunn (2009-06-16) #

    Interesting...I wonder if there's some balance to be achieved between this, but then also saying it in a way to certain other people enough to have to hold yourself accountable. I know I've had certain goals that I feel like I HAVE to accomplish because I've already told people about them. Thoughts?

  5. Carla Lynne Hall (2009-06-16) #

    Also - when you share your intentions with the wrong folks, they may tell you that it can't or shouldn't be done. BUZZKILL!

    Don't lay your pearls before swine...

  6. Andrew Hand (2009-06-16) #

    Derek...that is just what I needed to hear. I think that perhaps this is something that happened to me during my project. Thanks for dropping this insight with your direct language that cuts through!

  7. Adrian Ellis (2009-06-16) #

    A very interesting point about 'premature sense of completeness'. I have this about ideas sometimes - 'great' ideas that once complete in my mind, are basically 'done - ha ha - they never make it in the real world.

    If you tell someone, you want it to be about you being accountable to them and them helping by following up on doing what you should be doing (ie: kick my ass, plz).

  8. Otono (2009-06-16) #

    While I agree that this has truth to it, especially if you only have to be accountable to yourself. However, in groups, isn't it helpful to openly lay out goals for projects, commit to tasks as well as deadlines? This, of course only works if the members of the group hold each other accountable.

  9. Will (2009-06-16) #

    Interesting as it goes against convention wisdom. For the past few months I've taken massive action getting new products to market, after realizing how much I talked about it in the past but hadn't done much of anything.

  10. Natalie Gelman (2009-06-16) #

    How interesting! I have read so much about putting your intentions out there that I hadn't even realized that when I keep it a secret so to speak that I keep its motivational power.

    I love Carla's comments too. I'm trying not to let my energy be splattered anymore and get focused on exactly what I want - be extra clear with myself!

    Its so true about the Buzzkill when you tell someone too and they aren't excited for you or doubt your abilities.

  11. Marja (2009-06-16) #

    Thinking about this further. . . I guess it would depend on WHO one talked about plans with.

    There are several specific people I go to talk with after coming up with good/interesting ideas I would like to implement and feel quite deeply about. These people tend to be very entrepreneurial and of the go-getter mentality (and are all firmly in my corner). I find that if I take an idea to these people, I usually implement it. If I don`t, a good percentage of the time the idea remains simply that: an idea.

  12. vivian sessoms (2009-06-16) #

    I am in complete agreement, and have always thought this was the best way to get things accomplished and keep myself motivated as well..

    It could possibly be that it works differently for everyone though..

  13. JDelage (2009-06-16) #

    What about the effect of writing down your goals (even for yourself)? I've often been told that was a strong motivator, never understood why.

  14. Scott (2009-06-16) #

    It's important to note that these studies address identity-related behavioral intentions "(e.g., the intention to read law periodicals regularly to reach the identity goal of becoming a lawyer)."

    "when other people take notice of an individual's identity-related behavioral intention, this gives the individual a premature sense of possessing the aspired-to identity"

    " More generally, when a person pursuing a given activity can talk about the self positively, or otherwise attempts to gain more recognition for performing that activity, the audience for these words and gestures is likely to conclude that the person is indeed well prepared and competent. But such an inference is often erroneous. "

    It's the difference between being blowing smoke and actually doing something. If people erroneously give you enough of the sough after identity by talking-the-talk, then there is little motivation to walk-the-walk.

  15. Thomas Rydell (2009-06-16) #

    I noticed that the statement "I’ve joined a gym and bought running shoes. I’m going to do it!” do not say anything about the final goal, while “I want to lose 20 pounds, so kick my ass if I don’t, OK?” clearly states that I want to lose 20 punds. In that sense it is similar to Law of Attraction- The final goal is clear but the details on the way is not something to worry about smile

  16. Ben Atkin (2009-06-16) #

    I think social networking sites like Twitter encourage this kind of behavior. I've probably announced dozens of times that I'm working on such-and-such type of side project. If I don't announce it directly, I tend to drop hints about it, sometimes inadvertently.

    This is another good reason for me to cut down on my Twitter use.

  17. Nathanael Matthias Weiss (2009-06-16) #

    Wow.. Counter-intuitive. Sexy advice..

    Shhh..

  18. David Chaitt (2009-06-16) #

    the more i read, the more i COMPLETELY agreed.

  19. Sarssipius (2009-06-16) #

    Funny... I faced the exact same problem with a project I'm trying to set up for several months now... The boosts and advances on the first steps of the project occured when I stopped announcing it...

    No... Don't insist!! I won't tell you about it!! smile

  20. Natalie (2009-06-16) #

    It's good to know there is another side to every story but perhaps different people need different degrees of balance between telling and not telling. I know that for me, it helps me to tell my partner and my friends about my goals because when they ask me about it, I don't want to say "actually, I've done nothing about it".

  21. Kevin (2009-06-16) #

    Thanks Derek! I didn't know there was scientific evidence of this until now, but I've always felt this to be true.

  22. david (2009-06-16) #

    I like the Einstein quote

    "If A is a success in life, then A equals x plus y plus z. Work is x; y is play; and z is keeping your mouth shut."

  23. Mike Roberts (2009-06-16) #

    In my experience, it is the other way around. Any time I've told someone I'm going to do something, I feel a strong obligation to get it done.

    I learned this about myself early on in life so I was always hesitant to tell people about any of my plans because that meant that I would have to do them!

    Now days I use it as a tool. If I want to get something done and "force" myself into action, I just start blabbing about it. It also helps in the way of getting some great feedback.

  24. Vishal Patel (2009-06-16) #

    How did these studies account for people that just talk all the time but don't achieve vs. people that walk the talk?

    A CEO I once worked with had a habit of shooting his mouth about what he was going to do with the company and then actually making it happen. I myself have talked about my plans extensively before achieving them. For me talking about my plans often adds some pressure and motivates me to execute the project and make it a reality.

    There are many factors that affect success (and failure) and I highly doubt that talking about one's plans is anywhere near the top of the list.

  25. Bruno Miranda (2009-06-16) #

    I was going to leave a comment but though I should keep it to myself. ;-)

    Just kidding, great post, concise and full of goodies.

  26. Luis Fernando Imperator (2009-06-16) #

    second that:

    # Nathanael Matthias Weiss wrote on June 16th, 2009

    Wow.. Counter-intuitive. Sexy advice..

    Shhh..

  27. Jesse (2009-06-16) #

    I have a roommate that is pretty much the perfect fit for someone doing this! He is always telling us what he is going to be doing, but admits to being very lazy and not getting things done. I want to forward this to him, just wish the first two words in the title weren't "shut up."

    Definitely an awesome article though!!! I stumbled across it, but am going to start swinging by more often!! Keep writing!!

  28. BigDaddy L of GP-101 (2009-06-16) #

    I agree with Vishal, We're constantly asked why we play the style we do and what do we hope to accomplish(goals) as GP-101 and MadMouse Records and our opinions as to do we really believe we'll get there? Our answer is simply watch and see what we do. Then they'll be saying "Yes They Are!,moving forward and getting to where they want to be!" Furthermore, what if yo DO slip a little? Miss a date by a few days or even change directions a bit? As long as you are honest with your fans and yourself they see your honesty and keep with you ANYWAY !!

    BigDaddy L of GP-101

    MadMouse Records

    "Electronica from the Hills of the MidWest"

    http://www.madmouserecords.com

    just look at our front page and you'll see what I mean...IT WORKS

  29. BigDaddy L of GP-101 (2009-06-16) #

    I agree with Vishal, We're constantly asked why we play the style we do and what do we hope to accomplish(goals) as GP-101 and MadMouse Records and our opinions as to do we really believe we'll get there? Our answer is simply watch and see what we do. Then they'll be saying "Yes They Are!,moving forward and getting to where they want to be!" Furthermore, what if yo DO slip a little? Miss a date by a few days or even change directions a bit? As long as you are honest with your fans and yourself they see your honesty and keep with you ANYWAY !!

    BigDaddy L of GP-101

    MadMouse Records

    "Electronica from the Hills of the MidWest"

    just look at our front page and you'll see what I mean...IT WORKS

  30. Karen (2009-06-16) #

    I think that it depends on whether it's for work, or for personal goals. For work, I think that you do need to communicate your thoughts and plans and ideas constantly, mainly to get buy-in from other people. Also, at work, there is accountability there, because your manager is expecting you to finish certain goals.

    But for personal stuff, I think that stating your goals doesn't work. For example, my husband tells me often that he wants to learn the keyboards. We have keyboards and a piano at home, and a built-in teacher (me). But he doesn't have enough to kick himself to practice. He wants me to bug him to practice. But that's not my job. People have to be self motivated. So I think for personal stuff, it's better to really think about what your personal goals are, and rely on yourself to kick your own butt.

  31. WebAndNet (2009-06-17) #

    Simplistic guideline.

  32. Mircea @ MyTestBox.com (2009-06-17) #

    Talking about your plans can motivate you because then...you don't want to be seen as your people as just a talker.

    It actually makes you do something because your people will tell you (especially friends) that you are full of it if you just talk and don't do anything (if you do this repeatedly)....

  33. Jach (2009-06-17) #

    Interesting. I had thought (and practiced with varying success) that announcing your goals makes you less likely to fail, out of fear for social disapproval. Although there have been times it has backfired hard, and it doesn't particularly help that I don't care much about my social status... Stuff to consider, thanks.

  34. Wicked D (2009-06-17) #

    Totally agree! I thought I had some kind of psychological hang up, didn't realize studies were ran on this.

    I've actually noticed in the past that announcing what you were going to do was like blowing hot air. Much better to let actions speak louder than words, right?

  35. Brian Theoret (2009-06-17) #

    That makes so much sense. I do this to myself all the time. No wonder my ideas tend to not make it to fruition. Thanks for the incite.

  36. gaston monescu (2009-06-17) #

    ive been thinking about this since jr. high when my buddy made about a million plans out loud, but rarely completed any of them.

  37. Kenli Mattus (2009-06-17) #

    Let's try it.





    Hugh MacLeod in "Ignore Everybody" says that new ideas change the nature of relationships and that people, innately, don't like their relationships to change, so your new idea (hopefully it's new) will likely be met with some kind of wet-blanketism, consciously given or unconsciously given.

    I think the majority of people who ever "climbed their own Mt. Everest" could've care less about what anyone else thought about their ideas and had no need to bounce them off everybody they met.



    I'm doing my own experiment and shutting up now...

  38. Victor (2009-06-17) #

    I wonder if simply writing your goals down has a similar impact. Wonder how I can test that on myself.

  39. Jeff McLeod (2009-06-17) #

    Very interesting... I am going to pay more attention to this now. Although I do believe that in some instances announcing your plans helps to keep the pressure on you to deliver.

  40. David Hooper (2009-06-17) #

    I think there are two types of people in this situation...

    1. Those who talk a lot.

    2. Those who keep their heads to the ground and make things happen.

    Those who accomplishing things don't need to talk a lot, because they have the self-esteem that comes with that.

    Derek, I know you're a fan of Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. In that book, he talks about the "mastermind principle."

    If you have the support structure, you're more likely to accomplish things than without it. That's been my experience anyway...

  41. August Lilleaas (2009-06-17) #

    Wow, just wow. This article certainly clarifies a lot!

  42. Jeremy Ferrick (2009-06-17) #

    I agree with this whole heartedly, while simultaneously being a blabbermouth.

  43. Art Lamstein (2009-06-17) #

    Top athletes visualize themselves winning the event over and over in their mind. Sort of like guided meditation. A personal sort of keeping it to yourself. Of course, their coach encourages this practice.

  44. Brian J. Smith (2009-06-17) #

    One of the biggest things we do at Scan Monkeys is wait until we're completed with a new idea/program, (such as web page or promotion) before we announce it. This is much like Paul mentioned above (response#1) with his band.

    Take our web page for document scanning services for attorneys, for example. We intend to complete soon. We promise! Wait, I guess now that I've written it down here it will be a while. Oops smile

    Great article!

    PS: the page is actually launching early next week as it is in final approval stages.

  45. Atul from DonkeyBox (2009-06-17) #

    I agree with David Hoooper on this one. It depends on *who* you are talking to. The mastermind is there to kick your ass and put you into action again whenever you are off track. It is also there to motivate you.

    On the other hand (and I am guilty of this), getting too excited and telling just about *everyone* could do what you are suggesting.

  46. Nano (2009-06-17) #

    This is absolutely true. I've always kept quiet about my future plans and felt that I was sort of "in advance", if no one knows about it.

    Great article!

    David

  47. sebastian (2009-06-17) #

    Totally counter-intuitive. Making a gross recall of my own experience I agree. Not that I can generalize this for everything but there are lots of things that will get better communicated if facts are used. This in turn requires this kind of hush hush while preparing the thing

  48. eunice (2009-06-17) #

    great article. so this is what we called... "don't jinx it!"

  49. Shanti (2009-06-17) #

    Wow - this is topical!

    Thanks for posting this, Derek.

    Based on your quantity vs quality learning post, I had decided to make it a (public) goal to release a new song / piece of music every few days. Started feeling pretty nervous / anxious about the whole thing almost immediately.

    After reading this, I've taken down all posts related to the goal =)

    Thanks!

  50. Bart Gysens (2009-06-17) #

    Correct, but wouldn't it be great that you have a place where you can drop your idea and let people shoot at it; but it is somehow still portected in copyright-ways?

  51. Sheila (2009-06-17) #

    Finally, a proven fact that makes perfect sense!!! I've been banging my head against the wall for too long, asking myself,"Why can't I just do what I say I'm going to do?" Well, the excitement has already come and gone and I pretty much walk away wondering" Why did I just say tell her that"-I come up with great ideas but that's as far as they go because the reaction I get from letting people know Must be good enough for me>

  52. kur1 (2009-06-17) #

    As they say, the more time spent talking about what you're going to do is less time spent doing it.

  53. kkreft (2009-06-17) #

    I think this is true when it comes to motivation necessary to complete something. If it's something you have to exert effort toward motivating yourself to do, then yeah. Right on. Example: Losing weight/dieting/working out regularly.

    On the other hand, if it's something that requires no motivational effort, talking about it really shouldn't impact completion one way or the other. Example: Ordering something specific for dinner.

  54. vishnu (2009-06-17) #

    Great!

    And I agree COMPLETELY to it!!!

    My experience taught me this!

    Thanks for this article.

  55. B (2009-06-17) #

    I always suspected this was true. Goals never materialize when I talk first.

  56. JLar (2009-06-17) #

    Is it the act of telling others our plans really deterministic or are people inclined to inaction more likely to share their ideas and those inclined to action less likely to share ideas? Is there a causal relationship or are these just characteristics of people disposed to action and those that are not? How do we know people that shared ideas would have taken action if they keep them secret and those that keep their plans secret and took action would not have if they shared their ideas. I think whether one takes action or not has more to do with the persons character than if they share their ideas

  57. Robbie the K (2009-06-17) #

    @JDelage and Victor see

    http://www.controlyourlifeagain.com/setting-goals.html

    By writing your goals that sends those "vibrations" or thoughts out into the universe as you see the goals written out every day (assuming you post them somewhere visible)

    @Art, see the section of this article on visualization...

  58. John Ortiz (2009-06-17) #

    Brilliant belief system!

  59. Jason (2009-06-17) #

    Of course, not one shoe size fits all, just like there is not one philosophy that fits everyone. Personally, I'm averse enough to failure that I try even harder to achieve success when I make my goals public. The point to this study, in my opinion, is to find what works best for you and do it with passion and power and persistence.

  60. StephenMartin (2009-06-18) #

    "Four different tests of 63 people found that those who kept their intentions private were more likely to achieve them than those who made them public and were acknowledged by others."

    63 people does not make it so. Hardly.

    The law of attraction has to do with visioning and thought patterns not telling people what you're going to do.

  61. StephenMartin (2009-06-18) #

    "B wrote on June 17th, 2009I always suspected this was true. Goals never materialize when I talk first."

    So, if you say, "I'm going to the show next Friday night," it doesn't happen?

    I announced to everyone that I was getting married, and it happened.

    I announced to everyone that I was going to college and get my degree and it happened.

    The other day, I announced to my wife that it was my goal to go to Barnes and Nobles and check out some books and have coffee. It happened.

    Today, I got up and made several plans (set goals), announced many of them to my wife, a couple of people on the phone and I accomplished everything I set out to do.

    I announce plans, or goals if you like, and nearly all of them transpire.

    I disagree with this idea that announcing goals can keep them from happening.

  62. LeoDale (2009-06-18) #

    Yeah Derek, I agree.

    I can feel the balloon deflating as I talk about my unrealised plans.

  63. Sean O'Neill (2009-06-18) #

    once again Derek, sound advice. I've been doing the opposite for most of my life - it's a habit I'm trying to break. You've put it in a nutshell I can carry around. Please kick me whenever I'm doing otherwise.

  64. Secret Coach (2009-06-18) #

    WOW. how powerful.

    I also made the (evidently common) mistake of telling people my goals, thinking that that would anchor them in reality.

    this article definitely turns that on its head.

    I have goosebumps. thank you!

  65. Al (2009-06-18) #

    I've always found blurting out my plans makes me more likely to follow up on them. From getting my first gig before I had a band to developing web-sites for large corporations... I think sometimes you have to jump mouth-first and worry about whether you can fly on the way down.

  66. Yueni (2009-06-18) #

    Hi Derek. I hope you don't mind a spanish translation of the notice. I did it in my blog (direct url: http://neko-city.blogspot.com/2009/06/no-anuncies-tus-planes.html ) Credits are there. Of course if you have problems with it, I'll delete it. Just wanted to let you know ^-^

    Cool! I love it. Thanks! -- Derek

  67. Si (2009-06-18) #

    A quote from "Mental Efficency" by Arnold Bennett:

    "The second possible cause of previous failure was the disintegrating effect on the will-power of the ironic, superios smile of friends. Whenever a man "turns over a new leaf" he has this inane giggle to face. The drunkard may be less ashamed of getting drunk than of breaking to a crony the news that he has signed the pledge. Strange, but true! [..] Therefore don't go and nail your flag to the mast. Don't raise any flag. Say nothing. Work as unobtrusively as you can. When you have won a battle or two you can begin to wave the banner, and then you will find that that miserable, pitiful, ironic, superior smile will die away ere it is born".

  68. Donnie C. (2009-06-19) #

    I never really thought about it but man, this is so true - explains a few things I've struggled with.

    Great tip - I'm printing this and posting it on my corkboard!

  69. Jacob (2009-06-21) #

    This is probably where the idea of "Don't jinx it!" comes from -- saying something out loud to a bunch of people satisfies the ego so that you no longer need to actually take action.

    But it only works for goals. For example: "If you think no one loves you, skip a car payment." There are some externally motivated obligations that will result in action no matter how much you talk about them.

    Great article!

  70. econgirl (2009-06-21) #

    Given this insight, I find it funny that the site 43things.com exists, given that it is basically a social networking site to share goals and intentions. Oh, and it has 1.5 million subscribers...scary.

    You can see my full discussion here:

    http://www.economistsdoitwithmodels.com/2009/06/21/follow-up-be-careful-with-those-commitment-devices/

    The funniest part is that the founders of the site prove the point that Derek is making: “43 Things began with three friends who wanted to start a company but didn’t know what that company should do. The Robots (as they call themselves) made lists of their own goals outside of work. When they began sharing their lists of goals, they discovered that sharing their lists was more exciting than the work they were contemplating. And so 43 Things was born.”

    Great comparison, Jodi! Thanks! --Derek

  71. Akiko Candyce Baldridge (2009-06-26) #

    I've always known this to be true. When people ask me what my plans are, I cringe. I usually answer their question because I feel obligated to and then watch my plans fail and feel extremely embarrassed and disappointed.

    Are there any suggestions for handling the "What are your plans / goals?" question from nosy people trying to make small talk?

  72. bobbyS (2009-07-02) #

    for me, I am an indecisive person and change my mind on a whim. So if I declare someone my plans, there is a good chance that they will change. If I declare plans only to myself, there is also a good change that I will change my plans.

  73. dan (2009-07-03) #

    i disagree.for myself,stating a plan of action to many people gives me the incentive to not embarrass myself by not doing it.keeping it to myself means it never becomes real. but we are all different.

  74. Mark (2009-07-04) #

    There seems to be an assumption on causality here. As in, what if people who bark worse than their bite, bark often. Is it truly that people who talk about their intentions then no longer need to achieve them, or do people who already have difficulty achieving their intentions in general feel the need to talk about them to make them seem more real? Ultimately, I imagine it is the actual intention behind even making the statement itself - is it stated for ego fulfillment or is plainly as matter of fact (or even somewhere in between)... because clearly the obvious detail ignored here is that you can more easily align with people of similar mind who may in some way help you achieve that intention by making it known and accessible.

  75. Bill Bell (2009-07-06) #

    I've noticed this about myself for years. Thought it was just another aspect of my own weirdness.

    Thanks!

  76. llllllxlxlxl (2009-07-07) #

    http://twitter.com/jennyholzer/statuses/2465742764

    jennyholzer: TALKING IS USED TO HIDE ONE'S INABILITY TO ACT

  77. anne heaton (2009-07-08) #

    this is generally true. although i do know someone i admire a lot who announces that she will do things from the stage at her shows and then does them because she has now forced herself to follow through on something that otherwise she would not have. i have to admit that at times involving the pressure of others has been a tactic that works for me. if something is very precious to me, however, i rarely mention it because i don't want it's purity to get tainted before i create it.

    my 2 cents

  78. Elizabeth Hepburn (2009-07-08) #

    Thanks for this - I totally agree - My spiritual teacher Hilda Charlton used to say: "Don't take the cake out of the oven until it's baked." Our plans become half-baked if we dissipate the 'heat' of the creativity that's cooking them.

  79. Luna (2009-07-08) #

    Exactly!

    I've been instinctively leaning more in this direction, counter to what is recommended in the prevailing transformational mindset. It's nice to know that there's sound reasoning behind my silence smile

    And I agree with David Hooper's comment above regarding the self-esteem that comes with accomplishing & knowing what you are capable of. It tends to make one more "quiet":

    no need to "prove" it to anyone... Those who know you: know.

    The rest will find out in due time smile

    What a perfect post at a perfect time, Derek! And it sparked a very interesting conversation above.

    Thanks for sharing this!

  80. Mary Ann Farley (2009-07-08) #

    Florence Scovel Shinn, who first wrote about the Law of Attraction in the 1920s (and may have even coined the phrase) also said to keep our goals to ourselves.

    Why? Because not everyone will support our endeavors, and the jealousy of another puts negative energy into the universe that's directed at you. Reaching goals is tough enough without someone else dragging us down.

    If you pick up on this negative energy, you might actually back down on what you want to accomplish so that you don't incur others' envy.

    Once the task is completed, of course, there's nothing anyone can do to derail you as the goal is a done deal.

    Shinn advises to be very careful about with whom you share your dreams. Even those close to us can harbor negative feelings about a loved one doing well. If you need help or support in attaining your goals, share them with a therapist or life coach.

  81. Alan (2009-07-08) #

    That's been the way it worked for me. Even when I leaked the existence of a project to some totally somewhere-else person who wouldn't care at all, I felt the brakes start to grab.

  82. Julia Bingham (2009-07-08) #

    I prefer to announce plans I'm set on accomplishing because I like the challenge of living up to them. I get frustrated with people who tell me their plans all too often and then don't live up to them, so I think the trick is to choose wisely -- don't cry wolf all the time, but get your support system in place to help keep you accountable.

    On the flip side, do you find it easier to abandon plans you find too challenging if you didn't tell anyone about them or know where to get help? It can feel invigorating when you make an unexpected connection just by talking to other people.

    I the end you just need to create good goals that are clearly defined, that you believe in, and that are measurable and specific. Break them down into smaller achievable steps, recognize obstacles and how you'll overcome them, set dates to hold yourself accountable, and be flexibile as things change. If you do this better while keeping your plans to yourself then run with that internal motivation! However, if you're working on a team or collaborating, it helps to be on the same page working towards a common goal.

    So, find a system that works for you and stick with it!

  83. deep (2009-07-08) #

    If you tell someone about your plans only one of two things happen.

    1. You accomplish them and there is no longer any sense of surprise or satisfaction to surpass expectation.

    2. You don't accomplish them and are measured a failure.

  84. roger (2009-07-08) #

    I normally do it the other way round: I spread the news of what I intend to do till a lot of my folks knows about it. Once that is done, I have to stick to my word, otherwise I would lose their confidence. I definitly need that presure to get to the (bigger) goals...

  85. Mike (2009-07-08) #

    @Elizabeth Hepburn #106: "Spiritual Teacher"? Geez. Gimme A Break.

  86. Joboj (2009-07-08) #

    Yes, this reminds me of announcing the MuckWork project like more than a year ago, and still having the info page on it read, "I'm still in the process of inverviewing MuckWorkers..."

    Exactly! You know this post was really written from me to me. smile -- Derek

  87. Raylene Kemp (2009-07-08) #

    Hi everyone,

    I have found that reserving comment on my projects eliminates discouragement and negative feedback. From there, I can pace myself, research and build my project in solid layers. I have learned what NOT to do, first hand.

  88. Pete Berwick (2009-07-08) #

    Amazing to read this, for just this morning I was reading the same exact theory in a book on writing. The author said not to talk about your story/novel idea but to jus go and write it. His reason though I am sure was partly based on the self-identity pat-on-the-back concept here, was more based on the burning desire to release aomething artistically, and by talking about it we have released enough to lose the unbridled desire to follow through with it.

  89. Toon Vandevorst (2009-07-08) #

    I agree, but maybe not for the same reasons.

    If talking about something that doesn't come from the heart keeps you from actually achieving it - all the better (I wish I had talked to my friends back when I was planning to get a full-time job as an IT specialist).

    Talking about a great idea that is close to your heart has a risk: somebody else might pick it up and realize it before you do. Some of my 'best friends' have done this to me.

    I guess the trick is to talk about bad ideas so they lose their spell over you, and to shut up about the great ones.

  90. Tyler (2009-07-09) #

    I think that's over thinking it. I'd say it's a fair assumption to say that very few people actually accomplish a majority of their goals whether they announce them or not, so naturally it seems that those who announce their goals would be the ones that seemingly don't achieve them, but in reality that's just because they have announced it and and are known to have failed rather than if they had not announced them and failed silently, or changed the course of their goals during the process. For the sake of argument, how could you possibly come up with a percentage of people who have not reached their goals if they never mentioned anything to anybody about attaining them in the first place? You couldn't.

    Now somebody give me my free coupon.

  91. Blind Divine (2009-07-09) #

    I agree with this wholeheartedly. My partner and I are artists, designers, and musicians and love to "not" talk about what we do. Letting the cat out of the bag gives the soul of it away. And really if the excitement is not there for you why do it? When we are socializing with talkers we feel more energized talking about their projects, if we talk about our own we feel empty and robbed...mum's the word!

  92. Anje West (2009-07-09) #

    Very interesting. There have been times when I've been sending out newsletters and writing the 'coming up for the band' stuff realising that its been 'coming up' for quite some time, and wondering if our fans were getting sick of hearing the same thing from us & when the hell were we actually going to DO what we've been saying? I am going to start making 'surprise' announcements instead!

    Conversely though, in declaring a particular festival show earlier this year as our cd launch - fairly big news - when we hadn't actually recorded the cd was almost for us a way of ensuring we actually did it. By putting it out there, we gave ourselves no option but to make it happen. We had a very focussed two months!

    And to Victor, querying whether writing down your goals works as a tool for motivation...in short, for me, absolutely it does. At the beginning of last year, I made a list with about nine points. All quite huge achievments, but with each one being a step into the next goal (writing a grant application/getting the grant/travel o.s to study & perform/write songs for next album/record/release etc. The last one on my list was something along the lines of " we will launch our cd as part of the festival in a beautiful venue, and it will be sold out". Tick, tick and TICK!


    I looked at my list every single day, (goals/affirmations - however you see them), and cemented those ideas in my mind as fact. No ifs, no buts. Every single thing I wrote down became a reality. I know this doesn't always work for everyone, but it works for me..along with the actual *real* work you have to do to make things happen!

    In the end, I think it's about balance & understanding how you work best. Some really interesting thoughts posted here...thanks D & everyone

  93. JDP (2009-07-09) #

    I'm fortunate, I don't tell people my plans AND don't accomplish them. It's like not having my cake, and not eating it either!

  94. Geoff Kinde (2009-07-09) #

    That's why New Year's resolutions never work. Nike was right, "Just do it".

  95. LL (2009-07-09) #

    I strongly disagree with this and I think it misses the mark as to what it means to speak your goals out loud. Sure, it's one thing to make empty declarations that are not thought through. But I'm a firm believer in the power of the spoken word and it has worked for me better than anything else. I'm willing to bet that if nobody else knows what you want to achieve, you don't either. Certainly feeling a premature satisfaction which causes you not to follow through is one pitfall, I suppose - along with a host of others. Actually, I don't think it makes any difference whether you speak it out or keep it quiet, as much as it matters if you have a specific goal in mind. Then you are much more likely to achieve it.

  96. Sam (2009-07-10) #

    This is probably true in the aggregate, but I think in some cases, the opposite is true. I told myself and everyone else that I would write 50 songs in January. Everyone kept asking me about it and I kept talking about it, so I would have been embarrassed if I didn't accomplish it. I ended up with 52! -- and 12 are going to be on my next album.

    Concrete goals, I think, are good to share. It makes them more concrete. Ambiguous goals maybe are ones to keep secret.

  97. Amanda (2009-07-11) #

    Is this why, when you're a little kid, you're taught not to tell anyone what your wish is when you make a wish? This is an interesting article. As an aspiring writer, I try to live by the rule, "Never tell ANYONE that you're writing a book!" partly because people can be so discouraging. However, this also causes lots of loneliness...no one to talk to about the process of moving toward your goal. Hmm.

  98. Lindsey Horner (2009-07-11) #

    I think there is a difference between "plans" and "dreams". I have found time and again that discussing my plans especially with people who would be involved in them (other musicians, for example), is the crucial first step to making them real. My dreams on the other hand, stay in my head where they belong. Once in a long while, a "dream" makes its way to becoming a "plan", but not often.

  99. Kyle (2009-07-12) #

    I'd like to see a follow-up study: Of those that did not discuss their plans, how many shared that intention and, of those, how many accomplished them?

    In other words, if you announce that you are NOT going to announce your plans, are you more or less motivated to accomplish them?

  100. jameswhitney (2009-07-13) #

    Hi Derek: I agree with you I once read a book called Message from a master check it out sometime.

    I Have missed hearing from you,and I hope all is well with you. I appreciate all the information I recieve from you. Please continue whenever you can.

    I've been in the studio working on the audio book"The Goddess Prophecies" for my wife. It's been 3 months now day and night,so I'm sort of out of the loop for the two more weeks.(75 chapters}with music and special effects, and dialogue with professional actors. Very fun, but tidious.

    I'm getting great response on my cd, even with no time to push it, and I'm ready to get back to it. Anyway life is good! Please stay in touch!

    Peace

    James Whitney

  101. Sally (2009-07-15) #

    I find it to be true because usually my friends will say how are you going to do this and that? the thing is there are alot of little details that you know or learn and you shouldn't have to be defensive or explain every obstacle away that might happen. My-friends either say well that's great and then proceed to say all the reasons why I can't do it or ask me how soon i will finish or succeed. I find their approval and disapproval just another obstacle when they know much less than I do about what it takes and what is possible. I need to have my own self-confidence and realize that not everyone knows the same things I know-and i shouldn't have to defend myself to every friend.

  102. Ryan C. (2009-07-15) #

    Great write-up! It's crazy that I've been having this exact thought running through my head for the past few months. I always share my goals and what I'm currently working on with my family and friends, it's almost as though that’s what I was raised to do in order to, I guess you could say, satisfy everyone. At least, that's how I felt. From now on though - my lips are sealed. Thanks!

  103. alleyal (2009-07-17) #

    that is sooo true because every time i mention im going to do some thing for my family it never workes out im going to shut up now

  104. Scott_T (2009-07-19) #

    Very cool post, thanks for writing it.

  105. Vlada Synenko (2009-07-21) #

    Also I see Hollywood advertises new movies loooong before they hit the cinema theaters. There also is a proven benefits of advertising before any perduct hits the market.

  106. Bizzy Bender (2009-08-26) #

    Wow, so that's what happened to my training for a marathon!! Guess I'll just start over and not tell anyone and see if I can stick to it.

  107. m (2009-08-26) #

    completely agree with this!!..it can distract from completely the task..
    i get sooo much more done if i don't say anything about my plans, and just get it done...
    it does do something on a sub conscious level where you feel the idea is partially complete because its announced, i think there is a big difference between declaring it to yourself that it will happen and taking steps to announcing an idea, what you want to alot of people, and suddenly less effort goes there...

  108. Charlie Cheney (2009-08-28) #

    Now you tell me... aaaarrrrgggghhhh.
    smile

  109. http://niswanderrocktheater.com (2009-08-28) #

    I agree that major projects shouldn't be revealed until they are ready to launched. In the meantime, there are different things that can be done. I like making video shorts while I am planning my 'next big thing.' They are still creative outlets and they help me develop ideas for the bigger projects as well.

  110. hunter (2009-08-28) #

    While I understand what you're saying can be true in some circumstances it's certainly not true for me in most circumstances.

    I talk to people I respect and like to exchange inspiration and positivity. I would rather converse about plans and motivations than pretty much anything else. I love the rush of energy I get from sharing with people.

    And I love getting things done and celebrating with those same people.

    Which happens frequently.

    So there - nup ;-b

  111. Charles Nwabueze (2009-08-30) #

    I totally agreed with you Derek, and mostly for a job that one individual can birth it out. However, if the project is a group work that concerns more than one person, the objectives should be shared.

    Talking must never take place until all the pieces to put it together are in place.

  112. Georgie C (2009-08-31) #

    Interesting article. I think there is no absolute rule one way or the other. There are times when intentions can be stated, ie I will release my album in november, and times when you should not speak, eg I plan to run the 100m in under 10 secs.

    Architects have a term called a 'Design Freeze'. Simply put, they designate a date when a creative process is stopped, and what had been achieved has been achieved. Give it out to the world. The amount of boring stories I have heard about someone's masterpiece not being quite ready to release blah blah blah are too many to mention. I often hear my album release from last year and think, mmm perhaps this could have been done, but it would be a year later and I still would not have released it.

    My point being, is that I openly spoke of when the release date would be, and my 'word' dictated that by June 2008 I would have an album out.

    So, in summary I disagree. Its good to state your intention.

    Thanks for your time
    Georgie C

  113. Shoshanah (2009-09-02) #

    Excellent advice. As ever, always so succinctly put.

    Say no more.

  114. Jeremiah Sutherland (2009-09-03) #

    Actually, I can't really agree with that. In spite of all the well thought out studies, on a personal level, I like to tell people what I plan to do.

    Why? I would feel like a failure in front of my friends if I didn't follow through on my plans.

  115. Lesley Young (2009-09-10) #

    You could also try the embarrassing yourself into action approach. Make a public announcement of a plan (i.e newsletter or press release). Then you will likely follow it through, or be forever humiliated and feel like a loser. It works for me.

  116. Frank Smith (2009-09-12) #

    It is not so much the Law of Attraction but the Art of Allowing. We do have to set our intentions but doing it publically does not work for everyone. For some it makes them stay on track so they don't look like fools to those that told their dreams to. I feel if we can't dream, how can our dreams come true? If we set our intentions it is then up to us to allow what doors open for us. They might not be the door we imagined to lead us to our dream but the "right door" will always open even if it is in disguise. Look for opportunity in every turn.

  117. R Sutaria (2009-09-13) #

    I used to completely subscribe to what you have mentioned here. That was until I read this article:

    http://beyondfreelancing.com/2009/09/how-to-kill-a-great-idea/

    It says great ideas (and plans) can starve and so they should be given the light of day (aka be shared).

    So, would you recommend sharing a great plan with someone or keeping it with yourself?

    I am genuinely trying to understand the difference between your post and the above link. Thanks!

  118. Dan Tindall (2009-09-16) #

    It seems the big problem is making things happen - anything that prevents useful positive action (be it financial or creative) should be avoided. Talking something to death is as bad as worrying over it in private. It's like making the same list over and over again and never changing anything.

  119. Angie Ricci (2009-09-21) #

    like the article says, this only effected 63%,the other 37% is in my favour, actions are louder than words whether spoken out loud or in your head

  120. Stephen Rivera (2009-09-21) #

    Agree 100%, the best way for a dream not to happen is to share it as soon as you had it, seems to be the way things work in this Universe...

  121. Dee Janey (2009-09-21) #

    I find your theory interesting but must admit being directly in the middle of an opinion either way? I agree that it may be true, in certain circumstances, but I also think that interacting with those individuals we so trust may be the very support we need to forge onward. The opposite may be true for others--expressing may be completion for some?

    I enjoy sharing with those I trust and love--they are often the very encouragement I need. For some--lack of self worth may need that boost? Some may not believe in themself enough to explore, creative or be successful without the love, care and encouragement of those who believe in them?

    So, Sir, I agree and disagree--depending on the individual. For me, I enjoy and invite both criticism and suggestions--the belief and compliments are the strokes that edge me forward.

    Thank you...

  122. Allison McKenna (2009-09-23) #

    My experience corollates positively with this theory. I never want to say something that I may not do. And have less respect for those who don't "show up". Still working out the kinks of never telling anyone anything--that also has its drawbacks, eh? ... But would still rather have yeses be yeses and nos be nos.

  123. Chuck Hughes (2009-09-27) #

    I agree with the psychology going on, BUT, when you tell people your goals people will help you with contacts and resources. You will be giving up this help by not announcing your intentions.

  124. Amy Conley (2009-09-28) #

    So true.... at 50 years old i finally figured this out on my own. One time I announced in an article that i was "working on an all original CD to be released" the next spring! I did this in order to "force" myself to write and record original material. But i have three kids and writers' block, who was i kidding?

  125. Katarzyna I. (2009-09-30) #

    I'm a dance choreographer and the most productive process to generate material is when the spot light is off. I don't share details of my rehearsals with friends, unless their my out side eye. Minding my own biz is when the story and purpose of new movement finds me.

    Appreciate the remainder!

  126. JD (2009-10-05) #

    I decided to feel good about this, then I rationalized this with personal actions.

    If not for saying something does it not become more obvious? I take notes during class because I'm liable to retain. There are many things I have to do, and many I never accomplish. Tasks I must remember, such as school work, I record in my daily planner (currently I'm lost without it).

    There are many items I think would be fun. For many projects, information is recorded within hard drives or notebooks. From completing my resume ( a project started this week), to starting a record store, or even composing the dialogs needed to write a thesis for the current state of democracy/imperialism. These are all projects. Each one can only be done with the alloted time given.

    I pick from where I left off. Key concepts are jotted down and looked back upon when given the time.

    I find to cut silence I throw in a quick no nothing topic. Sometimes it could be about a project of mine, or it could be fun ideas. "Lets come up with a comedy!" Sometimes, deep in dialog, we ponder how it can be.

    This is where I believe many see they are only achieving a premie accomplishment. "One day we're going to clean up this town," coming from the one who misses the trashcan and continues to walk. Ya had good intentions.

    Setting goals without objectives is what makes a person fail. They see the finish line but can neither walk nor run.

    Best of luck.

  127. Jacqueline (2009-10-12) #

    I should've read that a long time ago. I announced the launch of my clothing line at least 3 times since 2005, I still haven't done it. Neither have I released my solo album...OK, I'm gonna zip it now!

  128. CondoCrown (2009-10-12) #

    Haha, this is so true, I love the feeling of surprising people!

  129. Ben Long (2009-10-13) #

    wow...can't believe I just read this. It is so true. This stuff falls into the realm of 'initiative' as well. Usually, thinking about what you have to do is alot harder than actually doing it. I have been guilty of yapping about something so much that I lose the inspiration/motivation! Maybe we should be more careful of just who we are announcing our best plans to. The key is choosing folks that are open to inspiration. I heard Derek speak years ago at the Durango Songwriters Expo and that experience still propels me to this very day. He chose to lend his energy, ideas and enthusiasm to a group that was already primed and ready for the content! THANKS AGAIN DEREK

  130. Joël (2009-10-13) #

    Is this the story of Derek and Muckwork? smile Is this project abandoned? Peace.
    After announcing Muckwork, I realized I needed some time off before diving into a new company. I'm back at it now, though. Definitely not abandoned. -- Derek

  131. Jay Chambers (2009-10-13) #

    I disagree. I tell someone I'm going to do something. I do it. Or I do something and then I tell someone. It doesn't matter.

    I make my own reality. Always.

    Sorry but this is just babble.

  132. Moi (2009-10-16) #

    "Tell the world what you intend to do, but first, do it!"
    - can't remember who said it...probably someone who walked the walk more than he or she talked the talk.

  133. Vironia (2009-10-20) #

    I realise the study is only true when I used to place more importance on "ideas" and "concepts" in the past.

    Now that I've switched my mindset to be completely "execution-focused", the study doesn't apply anymore. In my mind, a job is done only when it's done, doesn't matter if I talk about it or not.

  134. Marcel Pamphile (2009-11-04) #

    Thanks Derek. I got one less motivation killer.

  135. Mitchell Fox (2009-11-23) #

    D-man....this could not have come at a better time..but, enough of that...gotta get back to it...M

  136. Aaron Trumm (2009-11-25) #

    Indeed. Of course I've really seen the law of attraction work - but the law of attraction works whether or not you're spewing your load talking shit. The law of attraction is instead about what you're thinking and believing.

    Glad someone more successful than me is saying this.

  137. Bizzy Bender (2009-11-25) #

    I believe this to be true but I wish I had known about it before I announced to the world that I was going to run in a marathon next year! I started "training" then promptly stopped after a few short runs. Oh well you live, you learn, hopefully that is!

  138. Dave Harpe (2009-11-25) #

    This could be true. I have wanted to make a Christmas CD for a few years, and have told a few people so. It's also true that I have been working a lot harder this year just to keep my boat afloat. Would I have the Christmas CD if not for that? I really don't know. I do know I didn't get it done the previous years, which were easier.
    One thing I will say, is that money is a big motivator. If I expected to sell a lot of Christmas CDs, it would get a lot more priority, and maybe get done. I stopped making flutes for over a year, because this economy made it just about impossible to sell one. Then I met someone who really wanted to buy one of my "praying mantis" flutes. When I realized I could actually sell a flute, it didn't take me too long to get one done.
    In all my life, I have only known one person who the "law of attraction" appears to work for, and he didn't ever take any courses on it. All those people who claim they can teach you how to do it are just ripping you off. I have a rant about it on my site, because I hear so much about it. It is true that some people are consistently lucky, and others not so, but I don't think you can change your luck by taking one of these courses. I always ask people who are involved in this why these teachers have to charge a lot of money for the courses if it works so well for them. They can't answer that. There are so many people who are hurting for lack of money, and they get reeled in by these con artists. It's totally bogus.
    If I knew of a way to actually do this, I would teach it for free.

  139. Penny (2009-11-25) #

    I think this is a bit superstitious, and probably works well for some. That said, I tend to keep certain plans private until I am certain they're in the works, and then begin to extend outward for feedback and help. (How can we get help, get the buzz started, if we don't ask for it?) I like to announce things when they're happening, launching, talk about what I'm actually working on (not thinking about working on). However, I just don't like the superstitious notion that speaking of something in advance dooms it to failure -- too "woo woo" for me. I share with my partner (and some close friends) my ideas, which helps me shape them into reality. I have to admit I do get somewhat annoyed with people who are all talk, little action. I don’t want to be one of those, so I work to make things happen. Ideas are cheap, making ideas a reality, that's the fun (and work) part. I also try to remember that "Work is love made visible." Kahlil Gibran

  140. Jan J.P. van den Wittenboer (2009-11-25) #

    Working always strategic planning,always think strategic.Governments,banks,military,have always a strategic plan.

    The public can find such a example of (simple) planning on http://www.freewebs.com/textarchive

  141. Fire-dean (2009-11-25) #

    As soon as im done avoidng my next task by writing on this blog i will do the hardest job i know AFFIRM MY ACTIONS.
    People like me use affirmations to combat a feeling of never being enough...ie.-Never working hard enough. Everyone that has ever really known me says i work harder than anyone they know. And still my brain tells me i could do more. In my case therefore, my affirmations tell me that even though i havnt toured Italy, recorded my next CD (DIY of course), taken my girlfriend on an island vacation, finished my new buisiness plan, cleaned the bathroom,.....I WILL DO THESE THINGS BUT UNTIL THEN I AM PERFECT AND ENOUGH!
    smile

  142. Kelly Neill (2009-11-25) #

    Derek, you are brilliant.

  143. Rose Merrill (2009-11-25) #

    An answer for Akiko #71, when nosy people want to know what your goals are,,,,,just tell them, "to enjoy the journey".

  144. Ben Atkin (2009-11-25) #

    I think announcing the completion of small tasks has a similar effect. Lots of people do that on twitter. I think people start doing stuff in anticipation of announcing it, and that becomes the primary motivator, and it's a lousy motivator, compared to what would have been the primary motivator otherwise.

  145. Jerry Kennedy (2009-11-25) #

    Derek:

    Coming a little late to the party on this one (my friend Joel Canfield just sent me the link), and I must say that this post shattered a paradigm for me. When I look back at goals I've achieved versus those that I haven't, I have to admit that this may be the culprit. I'm going to test the theory out on a couple of ideas for projects I've got cooking, and see if "zipping it" works.

    Thanks for a great post!

    Jerry

  146. john tinger (2009-11-26) #

    i both agree/disagree(sounds like an oxymoron)! LOL!i am devout user(notice i didn't say just believer)of the law of attraction. some people talk, and some walk.i have learned alot over the past few years about these natural laws and living our lives following our dreams.i found it IS beneficial to speak of your intentions,but here's the BUT! only do so with discretion,because your heart knows if you are telling someone who may be a naysayer.tell those who are supportive. you have to reprogram your heart(subconscious) to belive your intentions.tell only select people. i ahve learned when to keep zipped and when to talk.all i know is that when i mention something i continue working towards my goals.i've actually learned that i have been putting in too much action at times.sound weird, huh! there is aflow where we can attract things with little effort if we know where to direct our energy.

    may everyone here achive their dreams(i'm still working on mine),john t

  147. dan geisler (2009-11-27) #

    I'm gonna reply to this article, so keep your eyes open!

  148. Matthew To Mccourt (2009-11-28) #

    I TOTALLY AGREE SHUT UP until its rollin...i made the mistake of blabberin"intentions" fgor years and thats all they stayed at....intentions not realisations big difference and one thingthat really annoys me is people who put FAKE tour dates in europe and elsehwere on their myspace pages..abso-lute-leeeee right blab it it goes out you feel good and then unmotivated to complete it...good one again!

  149. Matthew To Mccourt (2009-11-28) #

    i see many bands wanting to do a christmas cd and "cash in" phooey when i worked for johnny limbo the same thing occured they made a great xmas album but who needs a christmas album any time of the year besuides xmas??? how about a haloween album.. seems to be a bigger better holiday or if you are a band make a FREE christmas song or 2 and give em away at cdbaby or on your own......winter holidayis way too commercial as it is..

  150. Kristin Lems (2009-11-28) #

    My mom, also a performing musician, and I have noticed that INVARIABLY when people announce to us that they're coming to our shows, that's when they don't come. It's as if saying they would come completed the act of coming for them, and removed any further obligation to act. This has always seemed uncanny, but your article makes perfect sense of it!
    Interesting! You're right! I think I've noticed that too. Thanks for pointing it out. -- Derek

  151. michael (2009-11-29) #

    What I am especially and consistently astounded by, Derek, in these short brilliant squirts of yours, is/are the perfect pictures at the happy ending. Do you find these? Do you make them? Are they the originators of your speeches or the cherry on the top?
    Thanks! I use flickr.com Creative Commons-licensed photos, and always try to reference the photographer's URL in the HTML tags for the image. (And the images always come after I finish writing the article. The “cherry on top”.) smile -- Derek

  152. Patrick Rydman (2009-11-29) #

    I both agree and disagree. For my own part, I didn't really get to the point where I actually put out my music until I actually started telling people that it was happening. But be sure to tell the people that support you and not just any guy in the street. And also, I've noticed that I get more motivated to follow through when I involve more people in the process than just myself. But that means having to tell them, right?

  153. Isabel (2009-12-03) #

    Love this article!! Thanks Derek

  154. Nathalie (2009-12-04) #

    Agreed, I didn't quite smoking until I stopped saying I was going to and just one day out of the blue, QUIT!

  155. Ruth (2009-12-04) #

    I've been thinking about this post for months now, ever since I first read it. And I think I agree with the person who commented that telling others about our plans is one thing, but telling others about our dreams (goals, desires) is another.

    I think it's true that talking too much about our dreams can ruin them by making us less motivated about them because it gives us a feeling of having already partly achieved it. And also, telling others can also arouse alot of jealousy.

    I was once telling a friend about my ultimate goals as a writer and as I was speaking her husband leaned across the table, snapped his fingers in my face and said, "one, two, three...you're back in the room" and then he laughed loudly. I've never forgotten it. I'm not sure if it made me angry or upset. But I did resolve right there and then to never share my goals and ambitions with anyone.

    And now I'm quietly, happily and confidently, on my way to achieving my ultimate writing goals.

  156. Sheryl (2009-12-06) #

    I've also read exactly the opposite - that declaring a commitment INCREASES the chance of following through. I tried to find the link to the study before posting this comment, but couldn't.

    Sheryl Canter
    Author, Normal Eating for Normal Weight

  157. Janice Torres (2009-12-08) #

    I found this posting after my friend had sent me another one...

    I have ALWAYS had the feeling that saying it out loud would shatter the determination you feel when you keep it in. However, I DO trust my gut and if it tells me to say something to someone, I usually will. When you trust your instincts, sometimes they help guide you towards your goals or perhaps to something better than you could've imagined!

  158. Quincy (2009-12-08) #

    I tend to disagree in certain scenarios. The research of Julian B. Rotter suggests that people have different ways of attributing cause to effect. The majority of individuals share an external locus of control, basically meaning that they tend to feel that things in life happen because of something someone else did.

    Internal locus of control refers to the feeling that that most things in life that happen, happen because of something done by the person at hand.

    I think it stands to reason that externally motivated individuals are satisfied by sharing their goals (external affirmation), and an internally motivated individual is satisfied by actualizing their predictions (internal affirmation)

    My 2 pennies.

  159. Quincy (2009-12-08) #

    Also...Wikipedia says Rotter did his thing in '54.

    Just sayin'...

  160. Dan (2009-12-09) #

    I disagree.

    I've always dreamt of running a marathon. My father ran multiple marathons, so I wanted to continue the tradition. I had tried to start training but hadn't stuck with it. So I did the one thing I knew would force me to see it through to the end -- I told my father about it.

    That I got injured the week of the race and couldn't (and still haven't been able to) run it is beside the point. If I hadn't stuck my neck out, I would never have gotten as far as I did.

  161. Bryan Rehbein (2009-12-09) #

    I wonder if the zipit factor has anything to do with the success Apple is currently experiencing? They are a very secretive company and I'd be interested to see if this factor applies to companies too...

  162. Deena aka Adbloyt Abashi (2009-12-09) #

    That's greats Derek & Deena, Keep the greats words out One Love from Adbloyt Abashi

  163. Brian Felsen (2009-12-10) #

    I love the Wicklund / Peter M. Gollwitzer paper - and found a neat article in Slate which adds further supporting evidence: http://www.slate.com/id/2237674/pagenum/all/#p2

    Nice post Derek - cheers.

    Brian

  164. Robert Reynard (2009-12-10) #

    Counter-intuitive, but so true in some cases.

    Specifically, when you're announcing your plans to people that won't or can't hold you accountable for following through.

  165. Lucas (2009-12-13) #

    There are certain things that work like slapping yourself on the head - this is one of them.

    With the subgoals the easiest thing would be to consider them separate, but then again - this isn't such an easy thing to do after all.

  166. Ryan Dawidjan (2009-12-14) #

    Interesting post, it is definitely thought provoking.

    I will try to maintain a balance of showing others my future plans and announcing just to get that false sense of completion.

    Thanks for the great post

  167. DanaSz (2009-12-18) #

    This is so true (at least it is for me)!

  168. Justin (2009-12-22) #

    BUT you could also look at it like announcing your intentions gives you MORE motivation to accomplish what you said because otherwise it makes you look like a douchebag if you don't. It makes you a talker and not a walker, and no one wants to be "that" person. Who cares about some study that was shirley not 100% accurate because science has proven that 51% of 99% of studies show that 35% of the time there is a 69% chance of it being 97% innacurate. If you get my drift.

    It is what is important and what works for YOU!! How can some study say it is "more likely" yet 95% of the comments here agree with it?? Hmmmmm either the study is way off or some brown nosing is occuring.

    For me it is more like, if there is a women/girl/female that I am certain "likes" "loves" me, but I am only guessing, and I then pronounce that, I find in the long run it is less likely to go anywhere. If I leave those type things up to themself without announging it, it has a better chance of furthering itself.

    I do prefer not to "announce" goals or what I am going to do, but when I have, it has actually made me more motivated to accimplish them. Whether or not that increases the chance of them actually being accomplished is probably better left for a study ;)


    A better rule of thumb is...

    IF YOU HAVE TO RELY ON ANYONE ELSE FOR THE INTENTION TO HAPPEN, DO NOT ANNOUNCE IT!!!

  169. PAULETTE RICHARDSON (2009-12-30) #

    I AM WITH YOU ON THIS ONE TOO. BOY ARE YOU MAKING A WHO-O-O-O-O-LE
    LOT OF SENSE. WE ARE EGOTISTIC IN OUR OWN WAYS WHETHER OR NOT WE WANT TO ADMIT IT AND TALKING UP A STORM IS EASY AND DOES JUSTIFY OUR EMENCE EGO THEREBY NEGATING THE NEED AND DESIRE TO FOLLOW THROUGH ON THAT WHICH WE SPEAK. BUT THE "SHUT UP" AND "PUT UP" CONCEPT GIVES US THE DRIVE WE NEED TO EXECUTE. I LIKE NIKE AND MICHAEL JORDAN - DAMN IT - "JUST DO IT".

  170. Praca Ogłoszenia (2010-01-03) #

    Wow that`s so true

  171. Aladine Vargas (2010-01-04) #

    I agree. I often refer to this cause and effect as verbal masturbation. Since it gives you some level of satisfactions while remove the hunger to go for the real deal.

  172. Miles Patrick Yohnke (2010-01-21) #

    INNER SELF (DEMANDING MORE FROM ONE'S SELF)
    By Miles Patrick Yohnke
    © 2006 © 2010 All Rights Reserved. Used By Permission.

    In my life I've met many a person, many an artist. Unfortunately most never
    reach their goals. I asked myself why? Over the years I have been watching,
    studying, and analyzing how it is that some people make it and others don't.

    One of the reasons I believe some achieve their goals is their inner self.

    The people I've been privileged to watch succeed have an intensity about
    them. They demand everything from themselves. They show up everyday, in fact
    every moment, and they are accountable to themselves. Everything they do has
    a hard statement, and they know when to stop. Very impressive.

    I asked an artist recently why he wasn't where he wanted to be. His replied
    was, "It seems I want to learn, maybe you might say that learning was what I
    really wanted to do, more than achieve."

    We have to stop telling people what we are going to do, what we have not yet
    accomplished, and tell them instead what we have accomplished. Only in this
    way can we be accountable for our actions. I am not accountable for
    achievements I have not yet reached, but I am what I have accomplished.

    What steps are you going to take today to achieve?

    Widely recognized and award-nominated engineer, producer, writer, poet and
    founder and C.E.O. of 5 Star Productions, Miles Patrick Yohnke brings many
    years of experience to the music industry; including many awards in sales
    and marketing. If you are looking at developing your career, Yohnke offers
    consulting in person, by phone or via email. For more info, please contact
    him directly at: 306.227.6379 or email at: miles@5-starproductions.com.

  173. willy (2010-01-24) #

    I agree..thought waves I believe,are much more powerful than the spoken word to command,create,communicate,have dominion of,to direct, bring to actuality, one's dreams and aspirations..

  174. Sinem Saniye (2010-01-24) #

    I disagree smile Sharing my plans ahead of time, especially in interviews, kicks my ass into gear to actually accomplishing my goals because I know I'll look like a douche if I don't follow through. If I don't say anything at all, I get lax and have the highest rate of failure because there's no pressure or time frame to actually get it done, since no one knows about it. Yes sir, this is what works for me!

    Sinem Saniye

  175. Jennifer Johnson (2010-01-28) #

    I heard about this once but I took as superstitious stuff but from inside I always had a feeling that when I tell others about my plans it can just satisfy them not me until I am not succeed or completely done with it. I have noticed, discussing future plans damages the motivation for and I am gonna figure the more details about these survey.

  176. Maria Sadi (2010-02-01) #

    i don't agree with it may be to some extent it damages the motivation a little but its not completely true as i believe sharing and discussing plan is a good thing. it helped me many times to modify and put some thing better in my decision. My frnd with whom I discuss my matters she always make me aware of every aspect of the matter.

  177. Mike TV (2010-02-11) #

    Just get on with it. Make a start, with no announcements and you will soon find your flow. I spent years saying I was a songwriter, no one listened until I made my own ep and got signed. A product is better than hot air. People need to see and hear it to get it. Now I need to listen to my own advice.

  178. mohenko (2010-02-18) #

    'silence seals the power'

  179. The Global Jazz Network (2010-02-24) #

    What ever happened to "Walk your talk"?

    Some say when you state your intention it wakes up the UNIVERSE to provide that which we recieve through the foot work and elbow grease on our part and others say keep your plans to your self and create a quiet energy and blow everybody's mind.

    Bottom line... If you don't put in the time to make your intention real then there is no success whether you talk about it or keep it close to your bosom... you are either dreaming or you are manifesting.

    Make your decision to neet your big mouth and your brain will do exactly what you tell it to do!

  180. Inspired Robin (2010-02-24) #

    Wow! That's really interesting info and dare I say practical? It's worth a shot no doubt if you aren't having the success you'd like.

  181. Matt Stonehouse (2010-02-28) #

    As Frank Zappa said- shut up and play your geetar!))

  182. Peter Maizitis (2010-03-07) #

    Hi Derek:
    Great idea ... as always your ideas transcend the world of music and can easily apply to any other business. I once went to work for a Medical Device company that was attempting to implement its management system on a newly acquired facility. I had done an implementation consultation and contract before and basically we agree to a plan and implement. Unfortunately, with the medical device company management insisted on me developing and publishing a plan and a strategy. This went on for over a week and after interviews with employees they said that management never successfully implemented the implementation. I attempted to explain to management "let's get on with it already". Nope ... let's talk about .... blah, blah, blah blah .... I left. At some point I realized that this management was too stubborn to reason with. I left them with one plan ... and that was for every employee involved to send in a short summary of what they felt the goal was and how they would be contributing ... management did not care for that plan either but I still sent the email out and left ... yadda, yadda, yadda!

  183. J.A.A. (2010-03-19) #

    I have known 2 people who have announced huge plans that appeared to be pie-in-the-sky and seemed unreachable considering who and where they were when they announced their intentions to anyone and everyone who would listen. Both have accomplished them and much more. Now both considered the at the very pinnacle of their professions.

    Then there are those who talk a good game but never walk the talk. They face the psychological humiliation of others who finally say in frustration: "Poop or get off the Pot."

    Finally there are those who work hard and long toward accomplishing their goals but after years of time, effort and money spent have not yet succeeded.

    Here talking IS needed and could produce useful feedback about how and where to change in order to succeed or if their goal itself (turning lead into gold) is flawed.

    Success seems tied to having correct, clear goals and to the individual personality type rather than a hard and fast rule about talking or not talking about what you want to accomplish.

  184. Harsh Swaminarayan (2010-04-01) #

    I am from the lesser majority and announcing works for me...
    I know the secret and it works.
    It states announce in your mind and rarely mentions announce to the people around you.
    It preaches announce to yourself constantly, announce to your universe and your universe is you!
    Reversible business models!!!! ;-)

  185. Harsh Swaminarayan (2010-04-01) #

    I agree to your thought that announcing to others de-motivates.
    But if you follow the secret, announcing to yourself inspires you to a supreme extent.
    Imagine and behave as if your goal is achieved, in your mind, inside you not outside.
    I think you are misinterpreting the secret.
    It always stresses on your world(i.e. the inside you) and never mentions anyone else but only you.
    The secret is you!
    Your thought is right, but the reference to the secret is incorrect, according to me...

  186. Harsh Swaminarayan (2010-04-01) #

    By "the secret" i mean the law of attraction...

  187. Nick Breen (2010-04-04) #

    I really like this post, I use to announce my goals to friends and contacts.

    But in most cases I would fail to achieve them. I thought that if I told people I would work harder to make things happen..

    This was not the case at all. Now I keep m goals private and find myself working harder and faster to reach them so I can tell others what I have accomplished, not what I plan to accomplish.

    I have reached more goals this way than before, I think more people need to know this.

  188. Jane Rochelle (2010-04-08) #

    Just wondering whether announcing what I'm going to do blocks paths for the things that I would've done....committing to Path A and closing the roads to Paths B and C. Good reason for living in this moment, and being open to the unknown path ahead.
    Thanks for a thought-provoking post!
    Jane

  189. EC (Lisa) Stewart (2010-04-26) #

    Thank you for this article!

    I was never a 'go tell people your goals and they will be realized' kind of person. It wasn't the de-motivation factor as much as it was a 'tell me your goal's checklist and I'll play quality control.'

    When I found that my goals never materialized in the way that I imagined them, but in their own way, the 'authority du jour' began their micro examination. I got really tired of explaining myself, so I shut the Hell up. Now it's announcing what has occurred rather than what's going to occur -it's better for all parties involved now and later.

    @ecstewart

  190. Sean (2010-04-28) #

    This is exactly how I've always been, for exactly the same reasons. I've just never been able to explain it to people well. A lot of my friends talk WAY too much about their crazy ideas that NEVER materialize. I just can't bear to do the same thing.

  191. dennis teel (2010-05-06) #

    keep in mind that there are exceptions to every rule. results as such may apply to the majority but there are always exceptions

  192. Lena Potapova (2010-05-13) #

    God, yes. Thank you! I think there are probably different types of people. For some, it works one way, for some it works the opposite way. Last couple of years I was thinking about it, because one of my highly respected mentors recommends talking about his plans (and he has accomplished A LOT) and I was wondering, how come whenever I talk about things I came up with it's almost a sure thing that I will put it off no matter how bad I want it. I might hate myself for it, yell at myself, make myself do it but I would just absolutely not want to do it. Thank you so much for posting this blog. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  193. Wolsztyn (2010-06-21) #

    Wow. What a great article! Thanks!

  194. Tom (2010-07-02) #

    The lost art of keeping a secret.(qotsa)

  195. JOHAYANY (2010-07-08) #

    I think this applies to all aspects about our lives.

  196. Albert K Reid (2010-07-13) #

    This was pretty cool!

  197. Nicole (2010-07-15) #

    Thank you Derek for this brilliant insight!
    I've always been circumspect about telling others what and where I'm up to, and what I'm aiming for - and been left feeling vaguely like I'm wrong for it. (- and missing that people don't recognise where my time and energy is going.)
    How freeing to know it's a good track to be on!
    And how cool are you? - comments still flowing in on a post from twelve months ago! Thanks for sharing your wisdom!

  198. Rok Hardpak (2010-07-25) #

    i hold try to to the credo - tell people what did, not what you're gonna do.
    i'm a great example of motivational loss post proclamation. this tendency is absolutely true.

  199. Aurelia Vallieres (2010-07-26) #

    Great reading

  200. Kathleen Donovan (2010-07-27) #

    Wow! so many great replies complimenting the act of keeping quietsmile

    However, for me once I announce something, that's it. It's in the works and only a little time before being successfully completed. But maybe my announcements happen fairly late in the game after much thought.

  201. Nicole Ashburn (2010-07-27) #

    Unbelievable. I've been sabatoging myself. Reading this has empowered me...(secretly of course smile)

  202. Dan Johnson (2010-07-27) #

    Wish I had read this years ago. It's self-sabotage, I say!
    Thanks for the helpful article.
    -DJ

  203. adel (2010-07-29) #

    agreed completely.......I have a friend who told someone his plans to buy some land and put in a subdivision......lo and behold, this 'friend' went and tried to buy the land out from under him... shoulda kept it secret

  204. Landry Prichard (2010-07-29) #

    Perfect! This is perfectly said.

  205. debi oulu (2010-07-30) #

    I understand what is being said, and there is much truth in this, however I find that when I say something out loud to people about my attentions it makes it more real and gives me the motivation to make it happen. However, this is based on guilt complex - If I dont do what I said I was going to do, I feel like crap. So, maybe in the long run it is better to keep quite till after the factsmile

  206. Jan Goode (2010-07-30) #

    Really smart and worthwhile stuff here. Glad to say I followed your advice without having read it! Can't wait to read everything here.

  207. sally (2010-07-31) #

    I'm forever saying to my husband, 'less chat, more action'. as he proceeds to advise me what exactly his ideas are in exact detail for the next diy project on our family home. It has been in diy hell since just before the birth of my first son, 13 years ago: elec wires hanging down from non existent ceilings, walls taken down, put up and taken down again. I can sit on my toilet, see the light in the kitchen and he will ask me what I am doing in the toilet...is there no sanctuary for me? Don't ask what happens when we have visitors up for a meal.

    The he says 'what do u want me to do next?' and I say 'whatever' knowing one day he might get around to something. It doesn't bother me at all, I really don't mind any more if he doesn't finish the house...(however a ceiling in the kitchen would be nice)

    But what does bother me is him talking about what he is going to do when i know he just hasn't the time or motivation to do it!!!

    I like doing,silently doing and achieving but only within my known capabilities. He is not this, but he does try very hard and he will have a go where others fear to tread. He just isn't any good at finishing a job but will happily talk for ages about doing it.

  208. Dr. Cain (2010-07-31) #

    My goal is to buy a small prostitution slave ranch in Nevada and voting Republican. Discuss.

  209. Wendy (2010-07-31) #

    I've seen this happen in my life. My husband is constantly telling me that I talk to much and never do what I say I will. Talk is cheap.

    I'm learning to keep my mouth shut and this article really hit home. Thanks.

    Wendy

  210. Paul Griffin (2010-08-01) #

    Everybody wants to know a secret. So keep it a secret...everybody will want to know. In performance, never give 100%...the inner knowledge that you have more to give is your little secret to use strategically at the right time and place.

  211. Thomas Scholes (2010-08-02) #

    Hmm, I'll keep this in mind.

  212. Paul Michael Giovinazzo (2010-08-02) #

    i doubt this is true for everybody... but for those that it is true for, it seams to hold for them absolutely.

  213. Dean Whitbread (2010-08-05) #

    I just answered this tweet http://twitter.com/audio/statuses/20380757290 with this post.. smile

  214. Daniel Bresnahan (2010-08-06) #

    Damned interesting! One of humanities greatest problem is eliminating all the false truths of common logic/wisdom. Unfortunately, this doesn't progress too well. For example, in the age of the Internet it is so easy/tempting to tell the whole world what you'r doing (and then never do it?) You don't run across posts like yours very often (or the research that backs it up) That's why it is so important to publicize these facts as much as possible. Thank you for this one.

    -Dan

  215. Daniel Bresnahan (2010-08-06) #

    Great stuff!

  216. Tina Foli (2010-08-07) #

    ok, ok ok....i'm learning a lot. keep it up

  217. Rootsology (2010-08-08) #

    I am so glad I read this today. It opened my eyes to see the light!! People usually ask me what am I doing in my musical career, I end up telling them and then afterwards feel as though I have to be on a time limit to get things out there so it won't be long forgotten about to the fans.

    I think now I will stay on the surface as to what I'm doing and not go to the depth of my ideas with them. Our words hold great POWER and we should watch how we say them and limit them at times.

  218. KJ Cockrill (2010-08-10) #

    I think we tend to say things out loud as intentions to convince ourselves we are "going to" do something and to garner support for it (and to look like we're actively pursuing something worthwhile), when we may not be quite committed yet to doing it.

    Maybe the disparity in stating the intention and achieving it is buried in how solidly we are committed to it.

    I think sometimes we have to say things out loud or in writing to test ourselves, consciously or otherwise -- as in, how right does that intention feel when I say I'm going to achieve it? Is it realistic? Could I really do the work for what I want?

    And who cares if we fail? For personal goals, we are our only judge usually, and we can just regroup, move the deadline, and state another intention. There's no real consequence for failure. But for work goals, other people are judging our performance. Maybe there's more to lose and more incentive to follow through.

  219. Mike Posegate (2010-08-11) #

    Amazing how quickly we are satisfied!
    We tend toward "just enough" in our accomplishments, even when "just enough" ends at a pat-on-the-back for good intention

  220. Sammi (2010-08-15) #

    I never really thought of this scientifically {SP?} but I know that this is true. When something is special to you and you blab it all over the place you are bound to lose motivation or excitment because the people you are talking to (even close friends~) just don't 'get it.'

  221. Sarcood (2010-08-18) #

    Hmm, not sure i agree with this one based on my own experiences. I think it really depends on the person and if they are someone who sticks by "their word". I have told people i am doing things even before i have started doing them because i then feel like " well thats it ive said im doing it, i have no choice now" and i do it.

  222. Devi (2010-08-19) #

    Personally I agree with you. But I also believe it depends on the personality of the person though. I'm rather a person who needs to put all of my energy concentrated at one single thing to get it done. If I share my idea with others, I'd already lose part of my energy and I'd obviously need more time to re-gather the needed amount of energy to get it done.

  223. peter myers (2010-08-25) #

    what if people around you talk about the future baseed on youe interests example

    my dad said hey pete im thinking u would want a dj cause you like music alot
    and im thinking why why why did he have to say that cause i do wanna be one and its like wtf talking about future is bad and its negitive for me and

    can any one help ?

  224. Cursos Ingles Irlanda (2010-08-29) #

    so so true!

  225. basma (2010-08-29) #

    This is true and exist in the Islamic religion when prophet mohamed (peace be upon him said):"keep it secret to achieve your goals."

    in arabic(و استعينوا على قضاء حوائجكم بالكتمان)صدق رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم

  226. Stephanie Harmon (2010-09-02) #

    I just read through your notes on Personal Development for Smart People Where it says, "Tell people your goals so they can hold you accountable."
    I think both sides apply, maybe tell those who you know will hold you accountable.

  227. Kannapiran (2010-09-02) #

    Yes its true Derek. If you want to have a exact scientific data out regarding this. I can get this from my life since the past 10 years. Thanks a lot for letting me know. I thought speaking out is being open and I let made my motives and goals and shared and motivated people to be open .But now I know why I had been a failure in atleast the last 5 years when I had told my mind out many times.
    Guys, This is true 100%
    Keep yourself shut on your goals and big motivations.

  228. 55hikky (2010-09-02) #

    I know all of this. whenever i am alone doing something i never tell the truth about what i was doing, "oh i was just playing games, reading magazines, you know." rather than,"i was studying intensely, also cleaned my room and i was so responsible and productive." if someone asks, "have you been working out?" i have never said yes as long as i can remember in at least the past 5 years. unfortunately with a girl friend, this is actually counter intuitive. it is seen as, "you're lying to me, all this time, every time i ask you you lie to me. you think i'm stupid? is that all i am to you?" i love her, and that's not inteded, in fact what is she to whine about if she gets a smart, strong, handsome boyfriend if he lies that he studies and works out??? i'm not cheating on you, watching porno or going to strip clubs with my guy friends... but rationality does not work in such logic in women...

    what do i do?

    tell the truth and become a pot head couch potato, or keep some secrets to become who you are meant to be.

  229. Hicham (2010-09-04) #

    the Prophet Mohamed said: "help yourself to realise your project by not telling about them"

  230. Josephine Forrester (2010-09-07) #

    You are so right !!!! I have not been able to accomplish anything to move forward in the past year. "State you intentions" is out the window right now !!! Thank you so much for untwisting a false belief system.
    Who knew ??
    Blessings,
    Josephine

  231. not myrealname (2010-09-07) #

    You infer that secrecy, "dissatisfaction" and negative reward are the solutions to change, as can be seen in the quotes you supply indicating: a. the problem vs. b. the solution:

    a: “I've joined a gym and bought running shoes. I'm going to do it!"

    b: but as dissatisfaction “I want to lose 20 pounds, so kick my ass if I don't, OK?”

    Seems like a recipe for self-shame, asking others to shame you, and otherwise treating yourself poorly. Asking for accountability is one thing, beating yourself up, in secret, is another.

    If there's something serious going on, you talk about it. Then you see that what you thought was a goal was actually larger - weight or other compulsive avoidance issues, the 'goal' of losing 20 lbs. for example. You talk about it to other people, who have been through the same thing and come out the other side. Then denial breaks. Then you are told the problem isn't 20lbs - it's waaay deeper, and you've been stuffing your emotions and eating crap instead.

    (Replace this scenario with a goal of not getting hooked anymore into shallow dating, quitting drinking, what have you).

    Mentioning your frustration and proposed directions are just skimming the surface. WHO you talk to and in what context are key—will they hold you accountable? CAN they relate? Or are they shame-bound, utterly unaware people who won't cheer you on?

    If they're the right people, they'll let you know it's not about goals: it's about values.

    Living for goals keep people on the treadmill of crash diets, binge drinking, crappy romances, addictive behaviour all around. 3 minute TED clips and pop culture advice on poorly designed blogs. You deserve more: the real issues are spiritual.

    You don't keep your shit secret unless you want the truth to go back into hiding, comfortable in your agony as before. It's called denial. Secrecy fosters that.

    To make real change can take an army of people helping you out; sometimes just one other can make the difference too. In our culture though, we thriiive on shame-the shame of not having done it all on your own. In secret. The 'proper' way, just like them psychologists (actually, just one in the last 50 years...) say.

    Every major tradition around the world has a dialogue around intention setting—and it's usually done with one's self and god, whatever that may mean, all in community.

    I trust that wisdom much more than someone telling me to keep things a secret.

    Perhaps the good thing about this site is some people will altogether abandon their 'goals' after giving theirselves permission not to let themselves just be ok with having a goal and sharing, but instead constantly shaming themselves for not having met the goal - and then getting tired of being punished by theirselves or whoever they invited to 'kick their ass'.

    Perhaps they'll just stay away from the process of self abuse and settle onto more broad, deep values. When there's trouble with the 'goals', there's usually far greater trouble with values, and that is a wholly spiritual issue. Committing to great change, with compassion, with the help of others, is effective on a much grander scheme than muscling through the manifestations of a deep problem—you'll just keep from from the truth.

  232. Dave (2010-09-08) #

    what about long term commitments, how does sharing affect those?

  233. Richard Mathias (2010-09-11) #

    Young people are constantly asked to articulate their goals and accomplishments. The two are all too often unrelated and frequently merge in confusing ways. I know this was true of me and I see it in my students, especially as they prepare to go off to college. This is especially true in the arts. Harsh judgments are made about the work of seasoned professionals. Student "goals" are so much more profound than professional careers.

  234. Uli Kaiser (2010-09-18) #

    How about this: You get what you are getting, because you do what you are doing. If you don't like what you are getting you need to change what you are doing…

    Some people are "successful" others aren't. It's not just about the sharing of goals it's about the whole methodology...

  235. Lorne Pike (2010-09-19) #

    I have to admit that, based on my own personal experience, I just don't agree with this at all. Like many things, it may be true for some people, but certainly has not been for me. In late March of this year I started a Facebook group to announce that I wanted to lose 40 lbs by September 1. I also set up a page on my Website to measure my weight each Sunday morning, and my exercise every day. I did lose my 40 lbs by the target date, and there was no question to me that, on many nights, there was no way I would have gone out for a run if I didn't know that my friends could check and see whether or not I did.

    Again, it may be a very individual thing, but for me personally, announcing my goals and plans for getting there is a huge motivator and proven help toward getting there.

  236. Lisa Biales (2010-09-20) #

    I have found this to be true as well. If you tell everyone about your plans, it's like giving away your energy to follow through. I also love that "she's got something under her hat" look that I get when I've got something going.

  237. jehzlau (2010-09-20) #

    I want to say something, but I decided to keep it to myself.. Wooooooot!

  238. Tony Cunha (2010-09-27) #

    I believe in the Nike commerical just do it. And don't say anything what your doing. There are people that love to talk but there are less people that like to just do it. I like to hear a surprise what someone is doing. Great topic. Keep them going.

  239. Keith Barton (2010-09-27) #

    Robert Frost has a quotation that states your point succinctly:
    "Talking is a hydrant in the yard and writing is a faucet upstairs in the house. Opening the first takes the pressure off the second."

  240. katherine (2010-09-27) #

    I agree with this idea - for almost all circumstances. I can think of one or two exceptions.

    I attempted to give up smoking about 8 times over a twenty year period. For all but the last attempt, I kept my goal private. I resumed smoking within one to two years in all cases. The last time I smoked a cigarette, I had declared it to my friends - chosen New Year's Eve to do it, stubbing out my last cigarette in front of them, ceremoniously, to great applause. I have been a non-smoker ever since (four years ago) with no struggle whatsoever, finding the faintest whiff of cigarette smoke nauseating.

    I realise I didn't declare my first seven attempts because I was afraid I would fail, and because, deep down, I didn't really want to give up. I finally declared my goal once I had made a stone cold decision, deep in my heart, to stop for good. I was absolutely determined and so wanted to share this moment with my friends, knowing I would never have to explain myself to them if I took up smoking again.

    In the end, if you make a decision to do something - and you are as clear as ice about it - you will do it.

    If you are uncertain, then sure, declaring your intention will make it even less likely that you achieve it.

    Just an observation.

  241. Amelie Cornil (2010-09-29) #

    I tell ONLY to people I know will support me... just to feel a kick in the butt and positive energy... Some people you shouldn't tell, or they will put negative energer onto it... Otherwise, I think what you're talking about in this article works only in the sense that sometimes people say it but they still don't believe in it...
    thoughts?

  242. Marcus Taylor (2010-10-03) #

    Really interesting argument Derek!

    I think sometimes there needs to be a balance.. I find that talking to people about projects and goals fuels my motivation and despite giving a slight feeling of premature completition it does also make you more excited about making the goal a reality.

    I'm going to give it a shot and keep my mouth shut, thanks for the great tip.

  243. Steve Lerato (2010-10-05) #

    I find myself always telling people that projects are "almost" done. This seems to get my stuck in the almost done stage for awhile. Instead I'm just gonna shut up.

  244. T Double (2010-10-08) #

    Rumi the sufi mystic and poet spoke of this when when he wrote:

    Inner Secrets

    When your heart becomes the grave of your secrets, that desire of yours will be gained more quickly.
    The prophet said that anyone who keeps secret his inmost thought will soon attain the object of his desire.
    When seeds are buried in the earth, their inward secrets become the flourishing garden.

  245. Ian Harris (2010-10-18) #

    "Tell half the people half of what you have done - AFTER you have done it" was one of the best pieces of advices I was given a long time ago.

  246. Garreth Willcock (2010-10-21) #

    I loved hearing your TED Talk on this as it challenges everything I get from the motivational speaker bunch.

    And I do like a challenge. When I'm about to write a story, if I tell someone the story, I don't have the same motivation to write it, and it generally turns out poorly.

    And I like to think that I write my own life, so I'm unscientifically going to extrapolate this to my life and take your advice to zip it.

  247. Nabil (2010-10-31) #

    This is such a great point Derek. I also think that some people that announce their goals are insecure because they feel like they have to tell everyone what they are up to to gain validation. The best way to announce your goal is to write it on a piece of paper for yourself. Everyone will gradually know what you are up to once you start accomplishing your goals. Zen philosophy has helped me a lot in understanding how to control ego.

    Thanks for the post Derek.

    Have a great weekend.

    Cheers,
    Nabil

  248. arpit (2010-11-02) #

    first of all i wud lyk to thank u for bringing this to my attention abt secrecy of our goals but i have a question....what if we have already told our goals to some of the people and lost our motivation..??????....how to regain that motivation and the same interest in our goal again..????..pls help

  249. Used Cars in Delhi (2010-11-12) #

    Cant' believe this post has got so many comments. Well i also think it pays to keep your mouth shut until your work's done and you'v accomplished something.

  250. Gracelyne Fernando (2010-11-12) #

    I sooooooo concur with this!

  251. Kansas City Web Design (2010-11-13) #

    This principle makes a lot of sense. But it is really hard to trick oneself into the doing the right thing. It's like setting your clocks fast, you eventually take into account that your clock is fast and know you've got that extra 10 minutes anyway. And so surely eventually you'd go back to not being satisfied with a spoken goal you haven't achieved, right? I don't know. Maybe that's why I have a model plane and a model rocket I've never finished building with my son!

  252. Harry (2010-11-19) #

    Interesting finding.


    You may want to check out http://www.GoalsOnTrack.com, a very nicely built web app designed for tracking goals and todo lists, and supports time tracking too. It's clear, focused, easy to navigate, worth a try.

  253. onedem (2010-11-22) #

    So speak up, suicidal people!
    !!! Great point. -- Derek

  254. Christopher 'Jack' Nilssen (2010-11-22) #

    This is a one-sided story that empowers people that lack the motivation to make things happen.

    What these "studies" don't take into consideration is the rise of mass media and the increased tendency towards a sedentary lifestyle in developed countries.

    If you believe that announcing your intentions is a formula for failure, congratulations! You've found another excuse for your inability to execute on your visions.

  255. Eric | Starcraft 2 Strategy (2010-11-27) #

    This data strikes me as true. I find that I'm much happier if I just go out and do something vs. announcing to everyone what I will do. I also find it's much more motivating to imagine what people will say once it's done.

  256. Jared Cosulich (2010-12-01) #

    Hey all,

    We're launching a new site to try and help people with their goals by keeping them secret but still having access to a community to encourage them on.

    http://www.secretgoals.com

    Hopefully it will help people take advantage of this research.

  257. Jasper (2010-12-03) #

    This post makes sence, yet I wonder.

    If telling someone can make you "feel" a sence of acomplishment, than wouldnt it seem logical that over long periods of time of not saying whats on your mind, could lead to a self destructive point of view.

    "I cant tell anyone about this or it will never get done."

    Sounds to me like there are alot of psycological negitives in that.

    I thought that sharing ambitions with others and fleshing out ideas against sounding boards was the optimal part of planning that would lead to accomplishment.

    It kinda nullifiys any notion of colabertation and open communication within a teamwork enviroment.

    One other thing I would like to point out is, if these tests were done in 1933, wasnt there enough evidence to prove this theroy to institutionalize it? Why isnt this taught as this is the way its done?

  258. gregg glaviano (2010-12-08) #

    I've always thought the opposite. We'll that explains (in part) why I haven't gotten my demo done. smile

  259. Nell (2010-12-10) #

    It is definately true and I always follow this rule. Don't talk before you layed the egg. As far as LOA is involved I do know it is true that I need to 'tell' the universe what i want or up to to attract it.

  260. Jason (2010-12-29) #

    Wow! This makes so much fucking sense to me now. That's all I've been doing almost my whole life just telling this and that about my future. Funny thing was that I never came around to my fruitions. This will def. be something I will live by.

  261. Tina Wu (2010-12-31) #

    very interesting post I always thought it would be the opposite, cuz I'd like to keep my words, so I don't tell friends' my goal unless I feel very confident that can achieve it. Isn't that give you extra pressure so you need to accomplish what you said?

  262. Dilip Maydeo (2011-01-03) #

    In Hindu Philosophy this is termed as 'Sankalp'on a personal front where the major achiever is secret yourself.This falls in very private domain like money,property,sex,health and knowledge.here ony you are responsible of the target ant its attainment.No one is really concerned and therefore to achieve it you have to keep silence about it.moreover if you announce it and do not achieve it you loose face.
    In public domain it may be worthwhile to declare your intentions if you seek support from those concerned.However if you are not very popular you are risking as you will create detractors and spoil chances for attainment of the objective !

  263. Fabian Gabor (2011-01-05) #

    I did not realised this before, but I felt guilty every time I told someone's my ideas about my next photography project. You have explained me the reason why I'm not accomplishing them. Thank you very much! From now on, less talking, more work.

  264. Dorothy Lauder (2011-01-08) #

    Like 260-Jason, I have been telling people what I plan to do then feel down when I don't, not to mention daft, cause other people know I didn't achieve it. Although, Jason, you just put youself right in it by telling us your intention of 'This will def. be something you will live by'.

  265. Matt (2011-01-24) #

    Dead on. Been suggesting this to new clients for years. For good support see Charlie Munger's 24 cognitive disonances- a speech he gave on the 24 reasons why people fail. Let me know what you think. M

  266. John Cards (2011-01-28) #

    Exactly the advise I was looking for today, Derek! Had a bad day and nothing moved forward when i stumbled across this blog entry. it suddenly made "WOW" and the message hit me in the face like a hammer.

    thanks for the great advice!

  267. Jackie (2011-01-28) #

    Yep, I know about this one first hand, having noticed this pattern over the last few years. The times I get the best traction = I don't shoot my mouth of about it.

    I've learned that:
    Ideas carry more momentum when kept in isolation.

    Thanks for reminding me of that.

  268. Raul (2011-01-30) #

    I completely disagree, Derek (despite the fact that I loved an earlier post of yours). In MY experience, telling people what I am planning to do establishes the guidelines of what I am going to do and puts me in the frame of mind that I need to accomplish the task. That's always been the case with me. And I'm a scientist, so despite that, I don't lend credibility to the study smile

  269. John Rumble (2011-01-31) #

    This is definitly food for thought.

  270. Jannah (2011-02-02) #

    this makes think hard! smile

  271. Justin Dudek (2011-02-04) #

    I would HAVE to review the literature on this... but I recall from my social psychology classes taught by Robert Cialdini, the Godfather of persuasion and influence psychology, and other members of his team at Arizona State University, that studies following people who publicly declared their desire to remain sexually abstinent until marriage, and had their declarations posted publicly at their high-schools/universities, concluded to find a significant increase in these subjects refraining from their pledged sexual activity.

    Obviously the self-reporting plays a factor, but there were other examples as well. Ultimately, the basis for this conclusion was on principles of Social Proof, Social Loafing, and Public Accountability; i.e. the more people that hold you accountable for a behavior, the more likely you are to comply with the group's perception of what is behaviorally acceptable.

    I don't doubt that some of the theory mentioned here holds true, that some "satisfaction" is gained from the public announcement, and thus less action might be taken. But it could ultimately depend on the context of the situation.

    For example: publicly declaring you are going to start a blog, and then failing, has less of a social impact on one's perceived identity as declaring "I'm going to remain sex free until marriage."

    So I feel, at this time, that it depends on how much the behavior pertains to an individuals personal identity and values.

    Can anyone with a background in Social Psychology add or detract from this? I'm curious...

  272. Pete HIll (2011-02-08) #

    What the .. ? You could have told me this BEFORE I made a web site with my projects listed. lol.
    http://www.petesprojects.com.au .... Oh well I will have to make them happen even sooner now just to buck the trend. smile - Hey thanks for the forum, it is really enjoyable reading the comments. Pete

  273. Frisco Plumber (2011-02-18) #

    Great information. I got lucky and found your site from a random Google search. Fortunately for me, this topic just happens to be something that I've been trying to find more info on for research purposes. Keep up the great work and thanks a lot.

  274. Brian (2011-03-02) #

    I wonder if this applies to entering in a journal? I don't tell friends my music project goals, but I do write about them in a personal journal. Wonder if I'm hitting the same "identity symbols"...

  275. Dziennikarze (2011-03-06) #

    I will take that into consideration. Thank you

  276. invisipics (2011-03-11) #

    There's another very good reason for not talking about your plans. Unless you have an extremely supportive family - thank your lucky stars if you do, because it's incredibly rare - and real friends, the effects of talking about plans can be absolutely devastating. Those close to you will almost always point out why you shouldn't go ahead with what you have in mind and come up with a thousand reasons why you should do nothing.

    Worse, what you say will be used against you at a later date - 'Remember that project you were talking about last year. You didn't do anything about that, did you? And I bet this one won't come to anything either.' etc, etc.

    Personally, I make it a point only to talk to my family about things that I've done, never about my projects. And if I can leave the news as long as possible, so that it's old news, then I will. Simple survival technique.

    Another very strange thing, particularly about families, is that because they've seen you growing up and think they know you really well, they can't believe that you are capable of doing anything outstanding. Another very good reason for shutting up until the CD or whatever is back from the factory.

    I realize that this may strike some people as sad, but the fact is that many of the people who should be on your team are often actually playing against you, whether consciously or unconsciously. It's indispensable to recognize the people you can trust and the people you can't. And then if you've got to talk about your project, you know whom to talk to.

  277. Erno (2011-03-17) #

    Woww! Thanks for this article! Now I understand everything. I absolutely agree because I feel like right now!

    Thx. for this. I will keep my mouth shot smile

  278. Glain Roberts-McCabe (2011-03-17) #

    I'm currently reading Kitty Kelly's completely trashy biography about Oprah. Apparently, Oprah was voicing her raging ambitions and goals from her early years...and look where that got her. Guess there's an exception to every rule. We run lots of leadership peer groups where people publically put out their goals and then talk the next month about how they did against them. From my observation, the people that put them out there are the ones that actually do make progress. It's the one's that don't seem to commit to anything specific that seem to end up 12 months down the road where they started. That's my 2 cents.

  279. Gayward (2011-03-30) #

    This is really true. That is why I am not telling my plans to any of my friends. Thanks for writing this article by the way. smile

  280. Nonoy (2011-03-31) #

    Thanks for this post. From now on I'd never tell anyone about my plans in the future, or even tell about some positive vibes. smile

  281. Bubba (2011-04-05) #

    I agree, but it also depends on the circumstances. I dropped out of college (it took me almost a decade to get a degree) because most of my relatives, friends, and co-workers put me down and made it seem like a stupid idea. Some of them caused me to doubt ability to get a degree (I'm from a small town). I just stopped telling people, became a kind of recluse, and prepared/started college without ever talking about it (unless it was impossible to hide). I had one jackass co-worker that tried to talk me into quitting college 2 months after I started. Much later he said one of the few regrets of his life was not getting a degree, go figure.
    So, I went to college agian and was always in the top 25%. I found people there to be more supportive and friendly about each other's goals, much more so than in a small town. I realized I did not have to hide my ambitions in fear that people would undermine and destroy them. I could share dreams and goals with my college peers, and receive encouragement and motivation.
    Therefore, it really depends on your environment. If you're around petty jealous people, hide your goals like it's Top Secret. If you're around people that encourage you, share your goals because they might have some good advice that can help you.

  282. Kian McNaught (2011-04-13) #

    Walk the talk! That's the best plan you can come up with.

  283. Nan King (2011-05-05) #

    "talking is used to hide one's ability to act" - Jenny Holzer

    Absolutely true and amazing. Can't wait to go through the pdf you've provided (thank you, btw).

  284. Bill Bopeep (2011-05-09) #

    I disagree. I consider myself a man of my word so telling someone actually motivates me to get things done.

    If I already told someone I was going to do it then I MUST make it happen. It's a commitment that I have made from my perspective.

    It may not happen today or this year or maybe not even in five years from now but eventually it WILL happen as soon as I can get my resources aligned toward the goal.

  285. vidyaran (2011-05-25) #

    I too have somehow intuitively known this all along and I have several examples where I didn't speak and was able to achieve something or I spoke and didn't. Thanks for putting it in words, and convincingly smile

  286. Maci (2011-06-05) #

    haha this is so true. Whenever I open my big news and my personal blog that I am going to totally revamp my website, lose a couple lbs, or just get more gigs I seem to fall short of my goal. It's much better to announce things when they actually happen!

  287. Elizabeth Anne Middleton (2011-06-13) #

    Talking about your vision disperses the energy. Seeds need darkness and time to sprout and then grow. I remember an old song, "You talk too much," - sorry can't sing it for you here.
    Elizabeth

  288. Janis (2011-06-18) #

    This is so incredibly true -- the thing is, when you tell people, not only will they do the "Go you!" thing, but when you buckle down and start doing the work, those exact same people will start going, "Lighten up! You're taking it so seriously!" The same cheerleaders are now underminers!

    I did this when I started studying viola. I stewed on it for 6 mos, made sure I wanted to do it, and then just bought the thing, found a teacher, and said NOTHING. Now, over a year later and plowing my way through, I have told a FEW close friends, but I still do not talk about the day to day grind. I have a music diary blog, and have turned the comments off. Dealing with the rest of the world would suck away energy that I need to focus on the viola itself. Much better to just buckle down and do it than to get sidetracked either by criticism or premature applause.

  289. allem (2011-06-19) #

    My experience is same. Talking about goals, for me, is bad luck. But you can also keep in mind this

    http://blogtraffic4u.blogspot.com/2011/05/to-succeed-take-action.html

  290. x (2011-06-25) #

    I agree with Vishal, We're constantly asked why we play the style we do and what do we hope to accomplish(goals) as GP-101 and MadMouse Records and our opinions as to do we really believe we'll get there? Our answer is simply watch and see what we do. Then they'll be saying "Yes They Are!,moving forward and getting to where they want to be!" Furthermore, what if yo DO slip a little? Miss a date by a few days or even change directions a bit? As long as you are honest with your fans and yourself they see your honesty and keep with you ANYWAY !!

  291. x (2011-06-25) #

    I agree, but it also depends on the circumstances. I dropped out of college (it took me almost a decade to get a degree) because most of my relatives, friends, and co-workers put me down and made it seem like a stupid idea. Some of them caused me to doubt ability to get a degree (I'm from a small town). I just stopped telling people, became a kind of recluse, and prepared/started college without ever talking about it (unless it was impossible to hide). I had one jackass co-worker that tried to talk me into quitting college 2 months after I started. Much later he said one of the few regrets of his life was not getting a degree, go figure.

  292. x (2011-06-25) #

    I'm currently reading Kitty Kelly's completely trashy biography about Oprah. Apparently, Oprah was voicing her raging ambitions and goals from her early years...and look where that got her. Guess there's an exception to every rule. We run lots of leadership peer groups where people publically put out their goals and then talk the next month about how they did against them. From my observation, the people that put them out there are the ones that actually do make progress. It's the one's that don't seem to commit to anything specific that seem to end up 12 months down the road where they started. That's my 2 cents.

  293. Ben (2011-06-30) #

    I think this is very interesting. What works for me is a combination of talking (to the right people) and shutting up (around others). I think it's the knowing who to and who not to which is key. Putting my stuff out there has given me much in return, allowed me to contribute to others and get out of the my dangerous place on Earth, my head! Thanks for the great blog post.

  294. Adam Dorfman (2011-07-06) #

    I partly agree but partly disagree with this point of view - depending on the person making the statement.

    As someone who has made a career out of motivating successful sales people and teaching others to manage, I have seen time and again how "calling your shot" pushes one to work harder to accomplish a goal -- IF IT IS THE RIGHT PERSON.

    A person of high commitment and integrity is motivated by affirmative statements. They feel that, by making a statement that something WILL happen, it is their moral obligation to make it so.

    People who are not fully committed to accomplishing a specific goal or task can easily move away from the goal.

    If someone is really committed to something, writing down and talking about goals are integral steps towards taking action.

  295. Aman (2011-07-08) #

    Derek,

    Saw your ted videos and they are awesome. I have started doing what you have written in the article and I have noticed that I want to keep on achieving what I need to and before I would have stopped earlier so you are right.

    Thanks for sharing the idea.

  296. Aubster (2011-07-11) #

    If your "Im going to do" is in sync with your action plan then an announcement becomes promotion so you should definately announce it if that M.O fits. In the event that people have to support your notion then shut up because people are subject to change with out notice.

  297. cosmiccrone (2011-07-13) #

    In 1982, I quit smoking without announcing it to anyone. I didn't smoke again for 15 years. After smoking again for 14 years, 11 months ago, I did the same thing - I quite without telling - and am still quit. My rationale was that the expectations raised in the telling created anxiety for me that was counter-productive but this theory makes sense, too.

  298. Anna Cooper (2011-07-15) #

    I've heard of this before and it's a great reminder at present, as I know this happens to me all the time.

    Like many here, I think there's room for nuance here, as sometimes sharing ideas is what helps them develop, or in my case, I tend to come up with my best ideas in the act of conversation. I think what this phenomena is most closely tied to is when you share an idea simply for the sake of sharing it. Not because you need help working out a piece of it. Not because you need encouragement. Specifically when you're looking for preemptive validation... however unconsciously.

  299. filoaman (2011-07-17) #

    Talking about my personal experience: Since i'm very proud and sensitive to be ridiculous if i finally doesn't accomplish my goals and my plans after talk about this plans to other people, i prefer to fight with all my strengths in order to win than expose my failure.
    When you talk about your plans most people will tell you that you will never accomplish them. This must give you more power to fight for this plans.

  300. dave (2011-07-19) #

    We talk about doing certain stuff, but it's just displaced emotion - we never have any intention to actualy do it - this is the real lie. If you keep it to yourself,it must have meaning, because you were not trying to gain free social or psychological benefit from it in the first place; you were just going to do it. This was normal behaviour once.

  301. Alex Volkov (2011-07-20) #

    my first thought was "wow, insane", because I kinda always knew it, but now that I read it, the truth has realigned it self

  302. Ben Travis (2011-07-30) #

    Wow... I never would have thought that, but it makes perfect sense. Once your brain gets that good feeling from letting people know you're doing it, it's more satisfied, and you lose a lot of your motivation. Nice article.

  303. Elizabeth (2011-07-30) #

    I can definitely see where this point is valid, and how the results of the study came about.

    For my opinion on whether we should vocalize our goals or not, check out my website: http://elizabethyork.com/should-you-tell-people-your-goals

  304. Olivia Hoang (2011-08-08) #

    Cialdini's book "Influence:Psychology of Persuasion" actually implied that writing down something makes it more likely that you will accomplish it because you have physical proof reminding you of what you want to do. It acts to reinforce your beliefs and behavior. I'm not sure if there is a distinction between talking and writing, but sales people are often encouraged to write down their goals for that reason.

  305. Abdul Khan (2011-08-10) #

    Finally, an article with some credible justification, I was getting so fed up with people sending me links to 'The Secret' and theories of the laws of attraction.

    Thank You

  306. ch (2011-08-18) #

    I'm definitely in the "Now you tell me!" group. Sounds like good advice, but how do you undo it??? I have a couple of great projects I'm working on that i talked about in order to commit myself publicly and now... not so much! Any suggestions welcome.

  307. BC (2011-08-18) #

    I'll give it a try. Since high school I'll start a project and never finish it. Start a book and never read it. Come up with a business idea or product and never get started. The only thing I've really completed was giving birth twice - had no other option! So I'll go get started on that quilt right now! I'm trying to figure out why I'm like this..

  308. Steve Lerato (2011-09-09) #

    Everytime I hear someone regurgitate these words I send them back to this post. I argue with myself about this question a lot. But in the end I'm the observer. Listen more than you speak.

  309. Steve Lerato (2011-09-09) #

    I try to keep my mouth shut about goals im trying to achieve but i often find myself letting the word slip to at least one person. I find this really helps for getting some motivation to stay on task when I start to get side tracked. Having a person to ask you about "how your goal is going" is essential to making me stay focussed.

  310. Jo'hanna (2011-09-10) #

    This was the greatest support to my own feelings about this all along. I have always told people about the goals I have desired to accomplish and practically every goal has failed,or if I did accomplish them, they didn't last very long. Just making a crazy little quilt,or loosing weight, or going to school for reflexology.... the list goes on. Not one has been accomplished. I can't tell my husband. He sends off the "energy" that second guesses everything I do. Sooo, from here on out, I shall put firmly bridle the tongue to a greater degree. Thank you so much for this info. Anyone out there is more than welcomed to connect with me. jojo.4790@gmail.com

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  313. Jovica Ilic (2011-09-18) #

    I decided to listen to this advice, and I created http://www.autoplaydisabler.us I could say that I'm on a half way, but anyway, I already achieved many goals about this project, and I am sure that I would not achieve so much if I was telling to someone about this project... Thanks Derek!

  314. Fiona (2011-09-29) #

    I agree to this whole idea only partly. My thoughts are on my latest blog post- fiona.elimisha.us

  315. Benjamin McDonald (2011-10-07) #

    Hmmm...I love the way you turn things on their head. As a half introvert, I love this idea because it vindicates my private side. As a half extrovert, I appreciate the focus on sharing for the right motivation. That is the key, I believe. As someone learning to stand tall and not be afraid to share myself authentically, I also have to acknowledge the importance of discerning when it is necessary to share in order to be true to myself, and not shrink into smallness.

  316. The Confessant (2011-10-07) #

    hmmm, that was a good read..
    take care..

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  317. Steve Light (2011-10-14) #

    Hey Derek,
    Really enjoyed your TED talk. I notice that I boldly announce, a lot of the time, what I am going to achieve and 9/10 times it doesn't happen, so I will learn to shut my mouth from now on.

    Cheers
    Steve

  318. Mehrdad Shoja (2011-10-19) #

    It was very useful
    I've experienced this mindset... Exactly right
    tanx

  319. Chez (2011-10-24) #

    i tend to announce my plans. Im so talkative. I better zip my mouth then.

    Chez
    connectivedigg.com

  320. Shannon A (2011-10-28) #

    I loved the article, there are lots of people that talk about things they want to do and then there are people that actually do the things they want to do. Great perspective. I think it like the Matrix, "there is a difference between knowing the path, and walking the path."

  321. Deb (2011-10-28) #

    I agree. I can think of a couple of examples of having this exact experience, which definitely left me feeling discouraged about the whole goals process. Now I'm ready to give it another try, without sharing.

  322. Abnehmen (2011-10-29) #

    I couldn't agree more with this. I too share things I tend to do probably in order to get approval and motivation. I'll keep my mouth shut from now on and I believe I will get much better results.

  323. Marilu Boyd (2011-10-29) #

    Couldnt agree with your article more and I do understand about people talking about things they want to do and not actually getting them done. Complete or not, there is many times that we want to hear people say if it is a good idea or not. Kinda like a self re-assurance. I do agree with doing it vs not doing it.

  324. cynthia holmes (2011-10-31) #

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  325. Incomplete Concept (2011-11-01) #

    This is an interesting take on the research and I agree with your conclusions - in certain situations. However, the parameter that you did not explore or identify is whether or not your goal is a individual one, or one that is bigger than you could ever complete on your own.

    I can understand how your theory works for personal and individual goals, but whenever you need to build a team to create something bigger than you could have achieved alone, then obviously keeping your goal to yourself will make it seem way more daunting, provide no opportunity for outsiders to hold you accountable for actually following through on your ambitions and there will be no support structure to assist you to move towards achieving it. In addition, you will be unable to attract the skills and talent that you need to build the team required to achieve the goal. I think this is a very important concept that you have neglected in your conclusions.

  326. Stuart .D (2011-11-07) #

    If I had a dollar for every time I heard someone say they were going to quit their job....

  327. Mike A (2011-11-08) #

    Truely awesome article and great point of view. This makes complete sense where some people will do things and others will talk about doing things. Its almost like its what you are going to do vs what you talk about doing.

  328. Leda Rose (2011-11-09) #

    I have had a sneaking feeling that my "Brilliant Writing Career" has never materialized because I get an inspiration for a fiction, a short story, and then I talk to someone about it. And in speaking about it, as yet a half formed idea in some ways, I begin to doubt its value, its message, so forth. Sort of like your cartoon message about holding back our ideas because they seem ordinary.

    I am at your site because your message on that topic really hit home with me. I want to read everything on this site now! HELL YEAH!

  329. Taylor Andrews (2011-11-14) #

    Truly inspiration point of view if you are doing trying to accomplish things on your own. However in a group setting and environment where you need to share your ideas so everyone is on the same page, your goals need to be expressed in order to make things happen.

  330. John R (2011-11-16) #

    Thanx for a very informative website. What else may I get that kind of info written in such a perfect means? I have a project that I am just now operating on, and I've been at the look out for such information. Definately gives you something to consider when it comes to goals and making things happen.

  331. carlos (2011-11-21) #

    I believe teams can fell into the trap of team-identity self satisfaction: "oh, we are so creative together blah blah". I have seen many teams under perform, and I believe this research will apply to teams too.
    Yes, complex ideas require team work, but the way out is explained by Derek at the end: just make sure that the idea creates discomfort somehow. Asking for "kick my ass if I don't do my part and I will hit you if you don't do yours" is the way to go.

  332. Laila Moysey (2011-11-22) #

    I really enjoyed your TED talk and this article. I am inviting people to NOT share their goals on the post I wrote featuring your TED talk and I'm also linking to this very informative post. (It should be posted by Nov...oh wait! I'm not going to tell you. I just really need to get this done so kick my ass if I don't, okay?) (my blog is www.lailamoysey.com)

  333. Andrew (2011-11-30) #

    Perfect! I've had great business idea my entire life. I learned it from my Father. None have manifested. Yet.

    I never understood why I wasn't reaching my goals.

    This is going to help me tremendously!

    Thank you SO much!

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  335. anonymous (2011-12-14) #

    Thanks for the sensible post. Me & my friend were just preparing to do some research on this. We got a book from our local library but I think I learned more from this post. I am very glad to see such magnificent information being shared freely out there.

  336. Patricia Gosline (2011-12-15) #

    Thanks for the sensible critique. Me & my friend were just preparing to do some research on this. We grabbed a book from our area library but I think I learned more from this post. I'm very glad to see such wonderful information being shared freely out there.

  337. SSM (2011-12-17) #

    So what do you do when you've accomplished your plans? Whats the best way to share it and how do you get the most viewers of your finished product?

  338. Collen Jones (2011-12-17) #

    Fantastic article. I had never considered this but it's absolutely true (for me).

    Love this site, Derek. Thanks for showing me.

  339. inguis (2011-12-20) #

    remarkable article! and it's approved!
    i saw my friend who's tweeting about their plans, at the last they did nothing at all, it's a nonsense.
    thanks for sharing it to me.

  340. JoyAriss (2011-12-22) #

    I like the helpful info you provide in your articles.

  341. jim (2011-12-27) #

    Look , everybody . You dont talk your intentions to everybody. But for me , I believe firmly because it has worked for me talking to some good guy or whoever you feel comfotable to only reafirms your committement to the project . It re inforces it to your mind and gradually solutions to the challenge come about and with time it works . Trust me it worked/s for me.
    But also remember wrong guys can and will put an end to your project if they get a sneak peak.
    Gd luck. just weigh and balance OK ?

  342. Annie Andre (2011-12-28) #

    Hmm,
    telling people has always helped motivate me. Especially when people get down on me about it. But i think if you really want to be accountable, you should tell someone close who will actually keep you accountable. Not your mom who is going to say "NO". Someone who will help you stay away from you 100th french fry cause you are trying to lose weight.

  343. christopher (2011-12-28) #

    i followed you guys this is a real sure thing, i had feeling about this because i have been into it , but m not gonna be the same

  344. John Shakes (2011-12-30) #

    Awesome Post and thanks for the information. This is a very interesting take on a persons goals and talking about your goals. I would love to see some more input about this and some of the questions that have been asked on the replies.

  345. Steve Anson (2012-01-01) #

    Brilliant post. It's the 1st of Jan today and I'll be keeping my New Year's Resolutions to myself this time!

  346. Richard B. (2012-01-05) #

    Great Post and keep up the good ideas. I think this goes out to a lot of people that start talking about what they want to do, but never actually do it. Hmmm makes you wonder, there are actual do ers and actual talkers. Cool concept..

  347. Andrew (2012-01-09) #

    I love when research lends credibility to an idea that seems so counter intuitive!

    So you should frame your business goals in the same way I presume, as not yet achieved, have to share them with your team though.

  348. Joseph Yakoski (2012-01-12) #

    I really enjoyed the post and the information. This makes you wonder about all the people that talk about what they want to do vs what they actually do.

  349. Mark Nolan (2012-01-16) #

    Thanks for this article and the links to test research. I see this happening all the time but if you point it out to anyone they don't believe it. Maybe because somehow it feels counter-intuitive. Now I will just point them to your article and hope it helps them. Thanks again.

  350. Eric Right (2012-01-17) #

    I like the idea of announcing or telling people about your goals and making them actually happen. A better idea that has been proven time and time again would be to write your goals down with a time frame in order to complete those goals. No need to talk about them all the time..

  351. Robert Stetson (2012-01-18) #

    Great article write up and information and this is a very true statement that you should not talk about all your goals. Instead you need to just go out and try and accomplish your goals..

  352. prashant deb (2012-01-21) #

    There are only two kind of people :
    1. one who gets motivation from others i.e , by letting others know the intention which make them to prove.
    2.second a person who is self motivated

    you are telling your goals to some one when you want to prove someone what you are....
    and ,
    when you are not telling your goal to someone you are proving yourself...

    so proving oneself is more satisfying than satisfying someone....as it is said "Know Thyself"

  353. shaili from top 10 hindi songs (2012-01-28) #

    Seems true to me....
    the problem the same I promise too much and less that i can accompalish... so better i should remain silent before that thing is actually accomplished.... thanks

  354. Trevor Boie (2012-01-31) #

    Thanks for another good article!

  355. Robert Strickland (2012-02-05) #

    Very good information about your goals and the need to express those goals and how likely they are going to happen by not acting on them and just talking about them.

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