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Friends from memory

2011-12-20

Here’s a great project, that will fill you full of gratitude and reminiscing:

Try to write down all the friends you’ve ever had - from memory.

No address book, no phone, no Facebook. Just memory.

Remember all those people you met and connected with that made a difference in your life. It’s amazing how many are still in your head.

There are some you’ll remember who don’t remember you. (There are some you’ve forgotten who remember you well.)

I did mine chronologically, walking through my life from past to present. These are only people I met in-person and spent at least a few hours with. What a trip.

Some are dead. Some might be. Some have changed their names. Some hate me.

Some day I’ll be dead, and this will still be posted. (A reverse funeral! The dead remembering the living. Wow.)

To those listed here: I remember you off the top of my head, think of you fondly, and you permanently affected me, even if we haven’t talked in years. If you find this some day when Googling your name, contact me to say hello.

To those not listed: Memory isn’t perfect. Sorry!

Comments

  1. charlie (2011-12-20) #

    ok, you're showing off... you've got a helluva good memory !
    Real friends aren't hard to remember. May look like a long list from the outside, but in my head it's just a nice walk through memory lane. -- Derek

  2. Aline Vida (2011-12-20) #

    This is an excellent idea Derek. Thank you.

  3. Dan JohnsonDan Johnson (2011-12-20) #

    What a unique, memorable and enduring post. I know when you post something it's going to be worth the time. You're on my list.

  4. Julian Summerhayes (2011-12-20) #

    What a wonderful and moving idea. I shall start on mine. We sometimes forget so many people who have helped or been influential along the way, and this is a lovely way to treasure the memory.

  5. Brian Zisk (2011-12-20) #

    Hello. smile

  6. amy (2011-12-20) #

    what a lovely idea! you won't remember me but we were introduced and chatted a few times at TEDGlobal in 2009. it was a random encounter that i've remembered.. your enthusiasm was inspiring!
    Hi Amy D! smile -- Derek

  7. Jody WhitesidesJody Whitesides (2011-12-20) #

    I feel honored to be remembered.

  8. Kelly (2011-12-20) #

    Wow... That's a lot of names... I spent a few minutes and struggled to come up with 20. Several of them I can't even remember their names... Either you are quite fortunate or I suck at interacting with people... Probably both...

  9. Timmy Riordan (2011-12-20) #

    Great idea Derek. Thanks for the inspiration.

  10. TimPermanent (2011-12-20) #

    What a lovely sentiment to share.
    Happy Holidays, Derek!

  11. SwaroopSwaroop (2011-12-20) #

    This is an interesting exercise for sure. Very relatedly, I keep a list of people that I want to keep track of and ensure that I stay in touch and keep learning from them, you can think of this as a personal CRM - http://www.gtdtimes.com/2009/11/26/a-creative-way-to-manage-your-friendships/

    Do you do something like this Derek? smile
    Smart! Great idea. -- Derek

  12. Mark Campbell (2011-12-20) #

    I've done this before without writing it down , and thanks to you , ink will flow .

  13. Dave Harrill (2011-12-20) #

    Derek... c'mon dude... it's just a thing. Life is only a short time. Love those that love you... that's all that's important. I remember many that don't remember me... You are nothing more than a burst of energy in that time. I can only wish that you continue to share your burst with those you know. Your list is only important to you.

  14. Jindou Lee (2011-12-20) #

    Wonder if there is a webapp in all this? :D
    Great idea looking through memory lane.

  15. Dave Harrill (2011-12-20) #

    And.... there were a few on your list....

  16. Alice Ong (2011-12-20) #

    This exercise would have me writing and scribbling for hours.... right now those hours are dedicated to getting my 80-100 Christmas cards out to friends smile

  17. Sinem Saniye (2011-12-20) #

    I will always remember our time at Midem fondly! What a great idea, this list.
    Hi Sinem! Me too. I had a crush on you. smile -- Derek

  18. Sheryl RakSheryl Rak (2011-12-20) #

    I have done this often, throughout mu life, and fill my prayer/meditations/good thoughts lists. It is quite awesome to explore, remember, re-vivify feelings for and about the people, pets, and other animals and plants throughout one's existence "this time 'round"...
    My card and letter-writing list (now email & facebook!!) have always been rather long...
    Thanks for your enjoyment and sharing of this process, Derek!
    Singingly, VOICING YOU! Sheryl at RakVocal~~ smile

  19. edA-qa mort-ora-yedA-qa mort-ora-y (2011-12-20) #

    I should include some people who I never actually met but would like to have contact me. Who knows, it might work.

  20. Derek Capo (2011-12-20) #

    Facebook has helped a lot in remembering these friends that we may have lost or the memory of and then when found in facebook we remember and think oh yea that was good times or bad times. Nevertheless Facebook has probably altered the quality of the list as being as pure as someone who never uses facebook because that means the memory is more of an impact to your life then a memory being refreshed by facebook. Haha just figured I would add food for thought
    Great point. I never really did Facebook. Most of my real friends aren't on it. Definitely more touching to see who you remember without tools. -- Derek

  21. Christian Pillsbury (2011-12-20) #

    I love this idea, what a great way to keep your life on perspective.
    I manage my most important professional relationships in a huge org chart (omnigraffle) so that I can always remember where I met someone and how that relationship connects to others. You come to see how certain people have an outsized influence on the growth of your relationships over time. This helps me be aware of who has really impacted me, even if it only took 10 minutes of their time.

  22. Willis WeeWillis Wee (2011-12-20) #

    Nice list and great thoughts. Have a great xmas, Derek.

  23. SharninderSharninder (2011-12-20) #

    Excellent idea but I'm struggling to come up with even 20 names! I remember their faces distinctly but just can't remember the names, like my best friend in nursery!

  24. Mash (2011-12-20) #

    Great Idea Derek.....now to my list...hmmmm

  25. Zeb Tracy Genius (2011-12-20) #

    Another great idea that is both inspiring and immediately useful. I keep thinking about your "co-op business model" (which probably could use a re-name).

    Derek, what is your main goal in these posts? Is it service or self-expression?

    Also...

    ...it's super ballzy to admit to Sinem that you had a crush on her. Awesome! *Also, her website is broken.
    I mostly only post things here that I think others will find useful. In this case, I thought others might like this exercise. Or at very least, the people I remember should know that I remember them, even if I don't know where they are anymore. -- Derek

  26. Neil EnnisNeil Ennis (2011-12-20) #

    Derek,

    Wow - what a great idea smile

    You said "Some day I’ll be dead, and this will still be posted. (A reverse funeral! The dead remembering the living. Wow.) "

    A Digital Legacy is an important thing. When you get a chance I'd really like to know how you have planned to ensure your domain remains registered permanently, and the server that runs your blog continues to host it, so that this post "will still be posted".

    Neil
    Good point. I don't have something like that in place, so thanks for the reminder. -- Derek

  27. David Strauss (2011-12-20) #

    wow. i consider myself a social person but I don't think that many names would pop into my head. i think i might try this exercise, but as it is 2am i think i'll try it later. lol. per usual great post derek. posts like these really make me think what life is about. to me it is about the people you meet along the way and especially the ones you choose to be connected to for extended periods of time. to love and friendship.

  28. Marina Muhlfriedel (2011-12-20) #

    Nice. Navigating dormant tributaries of our unique histories we remember, all the better, who we are. Always a good thing.

  29. Al Daniels (2011-12-20) #

    Thanks...even if their names are only written on my heart, great project!

  30. Marilyn Harris (2011-12-20) #

    Boy, my memory ain't what it used to be! But this exercise DOES give me pause... thanks, Derek!! And Happy Holidays!! XO - M

  31. Bettie Ross (2011-12-20) #

    Great idea, Derek. For some years I've been searching for many of my friends from days long past. Some I've found; others I haven't. I think I'll do this in a blog - with the hope that long-lost friends will read it and we'll connect.

    I wonder if the Internet will still be up and running in 20, 30 or 50 years, and what will replace it? And what will become of all of the data on the Net now?

  32. David Griffith (2011-12-20) #

    You're on my list without me having made one smile

    As I've added years so the quality of character matters more.

    'Burst of energy' doesn't really cover the effect we have on each other.

    Some people nourish multitudes by their very existence.

    We're unlikely to meet yet your sincerity, simplicity and depth crosses oceans of time and space.

    As we're generally uncomfortable with praise, please take this in the spirit of the moment ...... and now I'll get on with the next.

    Cheers, one and all

  33. Mike Laatz (2011-12-20) #

    Great idea, and I'm going to get onto it right away. While reading the comments, a thought occured to me. I've always regarded Christmas card mailing as a silly tradition, but I've just realised that putting a list of recipients together forces us to sift through our memories and haul out the names of friends who would otherwise be forgotten.

  34. Juan Plijnaar (2011-12-20) #

    Fascinating that we have mutual contacts as well

    Juan Plijnaar

  35. Ingenious Chris (2011-12-20) #

    And you know everyone's name. There isn't a single "that guy I met on the bus across Turkey in 1991 that had the most amazing story about overcoming setbacks, who never even told me his name."

    Isn't there anyone who made a lasting impression without being introduced?

  36. Thomas Martin (2011-12-20) #

    Great point. What makes us who we are? What shapes our memories, experiences, values? It surely is also things that happend to us (call it luck and fate) but I agree with you that it is mostly through the people we met that we grow as individuals. This reality rests with us - very personally. It's not in Facebook, LinkedIn or an address book. However, social media helped me a couple of times already to find and re-connect with old friends and refresh my memories. I wonder what would happen if you went back to your list and sorted not chronologically but by personal impact (adding family as needed). With few exceptions I would say that those people I met between 17 and late 20s are those that shaped me most: Teachers, girl friends, early colleagues.

  37. Shariq (2011-12-20) #

    Derek Whats the good of remembering them i am bit of confused kindly help me smile

  38. Chris JohnsonChris Johnson (2011-12-20) #

    very, very cool.

  39. Andrew TitcombeAndrew Titcombe (2011-12-20) #

    Great idea - maybe needed a few blanks for the friends who presence/effect is remembered, maybe even their face but the name escapes. It would be a bit like the Unknown Soldier then all of us could have thought "That one could have been me"
    P. S .YOU, Derek, are definitely on my list (and probably two of my sons) from the time we met you in Scotland a few years back on "Baby" business

  40. Kaleta Zozo (2011-12-20) #

    you are one of the people who affected my life in a positive way ...Kaleta ZOZOAFROBEAT.COM

  41. Setrak Setrakian (2011-12-21) #

    I am trying to find real friend in this jungle savage world.

  42. Glenford SmithGlenford Smith (2011-12-21) #

    Great idea. Thanks for the inspiration Derek. One Love!

  43. Ed Lackey (2011-12-21) #

    Hi Derek,
    Didn't see my name on the list :-P. You have had a great influence on my music over the years. It's ironic that you sent me this link. I recent lost 2 of my dearest friends (from the same family) of 2 different forms of cancer. I began to think about how time is the enemy of all things living. I was thinking about the people I've influenced in my life, and those who've influenced me over the years. I found it interesting that the same day I found out about the passing of my friends (who were like brothers to me growing up), as both had passed within the last 18 months. I was contacted by a girl I once dated in high school on FaceBook. Apparently I had influenced her life, and she had been trying to find me for a couple years. It's a great thing to have been influenced by, and influenced the many people who have touched my life. I always find your articles to be informative, and inspiring. Although I rarely comment, I felt it appropriate to comment on this particular article, as I've just done the very thing myself before ever reading this article. I'll always remember the many conversations you and I have shared, and will continue to be amazed at all you have accomplished in your life. Take care of yourself, and have a wonderful holiday. I hope to talk again with you soon. - Ed

  44. John Lesea (2011-12-21) #

    Great idea. Thanks.

  45. Glenda Standeven (2011-12-21) #

    Well, I'm sad I'm not on this list but happy that I'm at least on your FB friend and email lists!
    Hmmm, I knew we should have chatted longer at that club in DC!

  46. Alicia Bay Laurel (2011-12-21) #

    This IS the friend list time of year for me. I send handmade original holiday cards (I'm an artist) as thank you notes to people to whom I am grateful at the end of each year.

    I never spoke with you, but I saw you speak at a DIY Conference at the Egyptian Theatre in Hollywood in 2008. The business you founded and ran, CD Baby, radically changed my experience as an indie singer/songwriter/record producer for the better, not only by selling my CDs, but through your inspirational, simultaneously funny and very practical writing about touring and making CDs. I owe you a holiday card, or six.

    Happy Solstice, Derek!

    Alicia

  47. Cat. (aka Caterina Skiniotou) (2011-12-21) #

    I've read -can't remember where- that human beings cannot retain more than 1500 other human beings in their memory.

    I am wondering whether there will be someone to remember that many people...

    BTW, I find your idea excellent!

  48. Andy RenalsAndy Renals (2011-12-21) #

    Fantastic idea Derek and great timing, just before the holidays. I also enjoyed Chip's GTD comment. Thanks for keeping in touch. With best wishes to you and those dear to you. Andy

  49. Dr.Mani (2011-12-21) #

    Wow. Off to make mine - today!

  50. Rob Byron (2011-12-21) #

    This is a great thing to do at solstice time and remember our forefathers who paved the way
    Rob Byron

  51. Jennifer Yeko (2011-12-21) #

    I love the list but honestly, no one has that many true friends. True friends you can count on one hand, maybe two...

  52. Joey Chang (2011-12-21) #

    You are on my list.

    You said when you are dead this will still be posted, but that is assuming we will still have the web in the future. it may go away or get destroyed.

    but an interesting thought.

  53. DC CardwellDC Cardwell (2011-12-21) #

    I did that once! I was about 30 at the time and I realized that I was slowly forgetting about people from school days and couldn't just reel off their names any more. I'd already moved from Northern Ireland to Canada and in those days there was no Facebook and practically no contact with anyone other than my closest friends and family.

    I still have the list somewhere and I recall that it was a surprisingly enjoyable exercise.

    Glad to know that I'm not the only one to have had the same daft idea!

    DC

  54. Martin Simunic (2011-12-21) #

    Derek,

    Thanks

  55. Therese Hubrach (2011-12-21) #

    There are friends who touched me for a lifetime and some only for a part of it. Thanks for all and hello to all who will come in future smile

  56. JEFF HIBBARD (2011-12-21) #

    Derek, ive known a lot of people in my sixty years on the planet inluding
    Ozzy Osbourne when i played in the Approach with him, but about 15 year ago me and this college lecturer did a charity bike ride along the canals from birmingham to banbury, it was for a friend who had died from cancer, we raised about 200 pound, i was out of work at the time but what surprised me was that when we looked at the list of contributers, it turned out that i had more than the lecturer, i though it would be the other way round, but a lot of people ive played with and worked with i never got to know their surnames anyway, i remember meeting you at that pub here in birmingham town, prior to which, you asked me if i could recommend a pub here, thanks for suggesting facebook, one of the best things ive done, anyway a great post, people and places, memories...

  57. Ussi (2011-12-21) #

    I can`t find my name! You remember? I borrowed times 100 dollar to you ;-)

  58. Richy KicklighterRichy Kicklighter (2011-12-21) #

    I can't list them they might want me to pay them back

  59. zola (2011-12-21) #

    Thanks for sharing this meaningful and beautiful excercise. Aside form my musical career, I also do speaking engagements where I emphasise the importance of acknowledging the important people in your life during your lifetime - face to face, via email, phone, or on paper, in a letter etc.... Reaching out every now and again to thank someone for the impact they had on your life, for the lessons you've learned for the gifts you've received, expressing your love and or appreciation of that person in their lifetime too! The feeling of knowing you are thought of, appreciated and acknowledged is so powerful. I also encourage writing or recording one's life story - to leave as another legacy of love and learning. smile

    And Derek....you are SO on my list of people who have inspired me over and over again and continue to do so.... Thank you SO much for sharing who you are and what you know.

  60. Dave Hill (2011-12-21) #

    Fantastic idea, I did my list on the train to work. It was a nice trip down memory lane.

  61. Darren McGinley (2011-12-21) #

    It is amazing how many are in your memory. I have memory refresh with friends ive met almost everyday. Yet im always working, doing something, little time for being overly sentimental. But its amazing how someone can etch themselves on your memory like an engraving, even chidhood friends of 4 or 5, who have little developed as a person yet beyond words, experience and something in their soul, something fundamental in them that they dont even know, says to you, this person is important to me to never forget them. Pretty impressive list though.

  62. Mary Ann RosserMary Ann Rosser (2011-12-21) #

    OK, so my name's not on there, Derek...guess I missed another boat. LOL. It's interesting to me how many people walk into our lives, some for a very short time, some on the other end of that spectrum. I have 2 best friends, one with whom I've been friends for 30 years, the other for 20 years. Very different women, but in this situation, I'm the common denominator though they don't ever hang out together unless they're with me. Conversely, I have had friends I thought would be close to the end but "out of sight, out of mind." POOF! gone in a heartache...hurt feelings and all...shallow, self-centered perhaps. I don't know.

    My point is, I think there is a reason why some people come and stay, and another set of people leave. I've cared for them all. Perhaps there was something to learn from each of those that would be on my list. Maybe I learned it simply by being with them. Perhaps there was something I was meant to teach them and just didn't know the outcome. Either way, people need people. More important, people need friends.

  63. Vitold (2011-12-21) #

    Hi Derek ,
    Do you remember where we met ? Ever been to Brisbane ?
    Cheers

  64. George (2011-12-21) #

    Derek

    Love it ........on so many levels

    As you make this list you realize that it's this list that helped make you!

    It's as unique to you as your fingerprint or your DNA!

  65. George (2011-12-21) #

    Derek

    Love it ........on so many levels

    As you make this list you realize that it's this list that helped make you!

    It's as unique to you as your fingerprint or your DNA!

  66. Race Knower (2011-12-21) #

    Hi Derek, Its a bit coincidental that you have brought up this subject. Something on similar lines is happening to me. This year its like I am on automatic memory progression. I am remembering things from so long ago, names faces and places from when I was very little and I am amazed. Its like every day I unearth some memory so distant from such a long time ago, with the finest of details that I am startled. It seems like something is excavating things buried in my mind and its like it takes me there back in time.

  67. God (2011-12-21) #

    @ answer to 26.:

    a DIGITAL ETERNAL LEGACY INTERNET SITE! Please find a way to put it up and let everyone know.

    Thanks God

  68. Brian Austin Whitney (2011-12-21) #

    Hi Derek, a lot of your list will match my own as so many of the important people in your life once our worlds collided are the same for me. I have some very close friends on your list, many others who have crossed my path many times in meaningful ways. (Ironically, there's even one who just this week rebuked my own attempt at friendship because I dared defend another of your friends. My what a small world eh?) I am just thankful we're in this together! This idea is another compelling home run by you my friend!

  69. Andrea Gerak (2011-12-21) #

    Wonderful idea, thanks!

    I have been meaning to write a list of all my friends and contacts, past and present, but it seemed (and it is indeed) such a huge project that I just never could get around to do it...

    But most probably this would be the best way to start it. Could be a nice Christmas program...

    Facebook and other social networking sites did help me a lot though, to get in touch with my folks I have lost along the road. I remember once I was in a new country for a whole year, had only a basic contact with my family and only with a very few people I have known - was terrible! (On the other hand, I did get to know a lot of more people and got new friends).
    Then I came to live in yet another country where first I had NO any contacts at all, only my husband's family... and that was when I found a social networking site from my country, with hundreds of my old friends - awwww, what a feeling it was! smile

    And when I'll get around to write another list, of people who have inspired me, Derek you'll be on that smile

    Merry Christmas!

  70. Roberto EstreitinhoRoberto Estreitinho (2011-12-21) #

    Great exercise for each and everyone of us.

  71. nasreen (2011-12-21) #

    Thanks for the gift; what a wonderful idea!

  72. Luis M. Gonzalez (2011-12-21) #

    Hi Derek,
    Thanks for sharing and also for a bloody good idea/concept. This is almost a gratitude exercise, which at 54, does get long. The only problem with it, is that I see faces in my head and struggle to remember names. All good.
    Best,
    Luis

  73. Andre Bekale (2011-12-21) #

    Bonjour Derek!
    Votre memoire est bonne, c'est vrai que le temps passe de plus en plus vite, les soixante sont pas loin ! c'est une impression! En tous cas, j'ai des souvenirs autour des annees 1999 - 2004 : du nommé Derek Sivers et de la "ruche de musiciens" presqu'une famille! Les forums des artistes et tous les gars qui expliquaient aux autres des trucs nouveaux. Oui! des noms viennent mais ce sont des rencontres breves avec le travail, les copains d'Ampcast ou de tonos, mp3, des associations. Ah ! les souvenirs chaque jour est un souvenir...un concert de Fela Kuti, de Bob Marley... Merci beaucoup de nous ecrire, amities.

  74. Max Krivosheyev (2011-12-21) #

    Great idea, Derek! Thank you. Growing older our understanding of what happened in the past and impression from people we met transforms. Ideally we begin to see a broader picture. Very interesting experience.

  75. Lee Jones (2011-12-21) #

    Hi Derek,
    I wish I could say otherwise, but my list would be very, very short. In fact, one of the guys who was on my very short list, I just ran into him recently, tried to work with him, he did quite a number on me. He was one of the (2) guys I would have liked to help if I would have ever run into money. Needless to day, there is one less person on my list.
    Thanks for all that you do.

  76. Andy Bradley (2011-12-21) #

    Thanks Derek. Not sure how this is landing - maybe because my days are spent in nursing homes with folks who are deeply forgetful - all that matters there is now...and it is tough to find students of the present moment. So many gazing back or forward. Everything happens now. And I have my own challenges around 'digital distraction' - here I am on phone with daughter and friend eating pancakes downstairs - shouldn't I be with them rather than with a list of your friends and your thoughts?! Lots to ponder Derek, as always. You nearly decided to support our work by putting a call out to your crowd before - your spirit resonates with me. Andy

  77. Abigail (2011-12-21) #

    Stuck in bed with flu receiving this....not able to think much!

    So I will down scale your idea....to just a few people, my American history teacher who told me I could turn the world on its head! My English teacher who had us pretend the teachers were the pigs in animal farm. The priest who emanated love and showed me a badger set...when I was three....the neighbour who loved her baby and filled my world with light for a day!

    I am already touched, I feel my heart open...and all the possibilities that lie in a few moments of connection....a strangers hand holding mine with no common language when a man was trying to lead me to destruction, the knowing of goodness in touch....

    How we are broken open infinitely x

  78. Colleen LaRose (2011-12-21) #

    Impressed that you recall first AND LAST names! Whoa. It is important to fill our heads with our own stories, a much better way to spend our time than watching brain numbing tv! I wish we were sitting around a campfire and you were telling us about some of the memories you have of some of these people.... I love to tell little stories about things that have happened in my life...it is a gift to share who we are with others...not at all self-indulgent! Makes me mad when people say things like that to you..... You are suggesting a useful tool....and sharing a piece of who you are...and I applaud and appreciate both the reminder to fill our heads with happy thoughts and the reminder to take time to share ourselves with others! We share a deep appreciation of life! It is not just getting to the emerald city that is important to share....but the paths we have taken and friends we have met along the way who helped shape us into who we are that makes each of us interesting. I think when I make my list, I will categorize them into what I learned most from each of them...courage, information, heart, patience, piety, joy, etc. Then when I need to muster up some appreciation quickly (like when I am having a bad day)...I will be able to quickly recall these important memories as a resource. PS...why not share one favorite story of your life and ask others to offer their favorite story too. The glow of the computer will be our campfire!

  79. Matthew Checker (2011-12-21) #

    Great idea. We rely so much on computers these days, we tend to forget the power of our senses and memory if we are not careful. This intention is great here. One can only have a few close friends though, although many shorter deep connections are possible with those who are willing to share.

  80. Mike WyattMike Wyatt (2011-12-21) #

    Great Idea. Definitely will do this for myself ASAP.

  81. Helge KrabyeHelge Krabye (2011-12-21) #

    Great idea! The list proves that we are not alone, and that who I am, is a mix of what I inherited throgh my genes and people I met who influenced me in one or many ways. Perhaps in fifty years from now, we have understood that all humans are connected in much deeper ways than we believe now. Even our thoughts are connected. That will be the time when discrimination and cortuption will end, because we all know that it's meaningless?

  82. Zach (2011-12-21) #

    hi Derek, you can always bring something new in my mind, especially when updating your blog. I guess I will do the same thing tonight!

  83. Jack Vrooman (2011-12-21) #

    My "Three Closes Friends List"... Billy, Bill, Jim

    One died of coke. One died of rope. Jim used a gun.

    HAPPY HOLIDAYS!

  84. Stanley Chia Ding Li (2011-12-21) #

    Great idea to show appreciation to the people who have made a change in you, For Good.

  85. Kevin Gant (2011-12-21) #

    Thanks Derek! Your on my list, although we've never met. Because of the reason you started CDBaby, the way you sold it, and the several educational, inspirational, and timely articles you email us all....

  86. Lisa L. Gilliam (2011-12-21) #

    This is a wonderful idea and it could also be used as a group exercise or discussion (he counselor in me speaking right now). However, as a writer and vocalist, this could easily turn into a song as well. Thanks for sharing! It is always nice to be remembered, so remebering the many people who have been a blessing in my life would bring even more joy to the fond memories we shared. I love this Derek!!!

  87. RoJean Loucks (2011-12-21) #

    Derek, this reinforces my own belief that we're each important to those we come into contact with, whether we know it or not.

    During this past year, I've been able to reconnect with some of my friends from 50 years back, and it's been such a meaningful experience.

    Thanks for the nudge!

  88. Ellen Zimmerman (2011-12-21) #

    I love this exercise! During this past year, I reconnected with two friends I met 23 years ago at an IABC conference in New Orleans. They helped me get my new business off the ground - and I am so grateful to them! And based on the little bit of memoir writing I've helped people with, I think the idea of listing in the order in which we met people makes perfect sense -- because one memory leads to another and another, like ripples. Thanks for the wonderful idea.

  89. Vince Vielhaber (2011-12-21) #

    Derek, I don't know which I'm more impressed with; all the old friends you were able to recall (I can't remember anywhere near that many) or that you were able to spell all those names!

  90. Craig Werth (2011-12-21) #

    As soon as I saw your list mine started flowing in my head. Don't think I'll end up posting mine publicly as I think about the impact of leaving someone off AND I remember an exhausting number of people whether I could recall their names or not. But I do, throughout my life, try to tell people of their positive impact on me and of any of their gifts that I observe -- for anyone from family and friends to passing strangers. Easy to do and always rewarding in all directions. Thanks Derek, for so much positive energy shared.

  91. Ken Randall (2011-12-21) #

    Hahahahahaha I think your list is way longer than mine Marina V was one name I think I link with.... Will think of list at a latter time (: when I have more time (:

  92. John Bankson (2011-12-21) #

    Hi Derek,

    Great Idea... I am working on a project for my children that is similar but quite a bit more extensive... I created a several DOCS and Spreadsheets in Google Docs... within these are segments of my life... my memories, opinions, ideas, etc... then I gave them access to the Docs along with my wife and brothers. I also I created a timeline spreadsheet that lists all the years of my life, where I was, what years my children were born, etc. I lived in many places in the first 12 years of my life, including two stints in England... so I used this spreadsheet to help me unscramble some of the memories.

    The things that started me down this path was that when my mother passed away in 2009, I started to read some of the things she used to type on her old typewriter... her memories... and thought, what a great idea... I wish she had written more. She was a great resource of wisdom for me and I miss that.

    The thing I like about your idea is that it places these names into the line of sight of Google so that maybe some old friends can reach out to you... I am going to do that!

    Thanks! Happy Holidays to you and your family!

  93. Ken Cook (2011-12-21) #

    Your list spurred the beginning of mine Derek. I'm finding it interesting how one name sparks another...and then another from that same time period. They are not all close friends that come to mind.

  94. Bill Thurman (2011-12-21) #

    Hi Derek

    I write and publish a blog each week, and just lately I've remembered or written about old teachers or friends going back to the beginning of my life. You must have read my mind! smile No really, that's a great idea, and I want to make a list as you did - chronologically. Thanks again! Some friends come and go, but real memories are forever.
    Bill

  95. Sandy Spindler (2011-12-21) #

    How long did it take you to make this list? Was it 15min. ? or day's?
    Remembering for just a moment can be very meaningful as well.
    I work with people who who have Alzheimer's and (or) Denentia.
    It's very sad.
    We call it Daily Moments of Success ...
    They say that meditation gradually rewires your brain & over time produces very high frequency brain waves.
    Is this what you have been doing..?? lol

    Thank you Derek .. & Happy Holidays.

    Sandy
    Oh, this took hours! Kept going back and adding more. You remember one and it makes you remember the people you met through them, too. (Not meditation really. Just lots of memory-lane stuff.) -- Derek

  96. Joel Merzetti (2011-12-21) #

    What a great idea, especially at this time of year.
    8 was a pivotal year...I moved from a small town (where I knew everyone!) to a city where I
    knew absolutely nobody.
    I've always said, I would rather attend a grade 3 class reunion than any highschool or college one - 'cause us kids from 3 - we were all surviviors (sort of like a floatable Titanic.)
    Needless to say - that particular teacher is the most memorable - though I must admit, the names fade in highschool (perhaps because they were tuned out?)
    I like the old flames, flings and crushes.....recently saw a picture of my grade six class - wow. now I KNOW why I had that crush!
    But it's too bad - the random conversation with perfect strangers? - that one (I used to be a talkative taxi driver) would be a family bible-sized list all by itself....except names were never exchanged. I'd have better luck remembering where I picked them up and dropped them off.

    Funny thing - I used to wonder sometimes...how many of these guys would show up out of the blue (the past) if my name appeared one day in lights...........been a long time since I've thought that (perhaps because I'm too busy making new friends.)
    And yes - I'm a big believer in counting true wealth by friendship.

    cheers and best wishes,

    jp

  97. Jamie Barth (2011-12-21) #

    Small world - though not really a surprise. While you & I met only briefly once (at a music event), I know 2 of the people you've listed and 1 of the commenters, thiugh from very different paths. I don't believe they know each other, thoughit's always possible!

  98. Shawn Hebb (2011-12-21) #

    I find I do this quite often when I have time to just sit and let my mind wonder. I think of a friend of major influence in my life and I'll think of a situation, and maybe remember a few more people who where in that picture or movie...it just keeps branching out.

    Also lets me go back and take a look at myself from that time, if that makes sense...how I would have handled something differently, something I wished I did or didn't do. Some people you think were small players in life turn out to be the ones that introduced you to someone major... little cogs making the whole mess work... it makes sense when you look back, but you could never have planned something like that out....

    I'm babbling....

    Shawn

  99. Frank Tuma (2011-12-21) #

    From time to time I do this but I get too emotional in my discussions with my long friends and afterwards a little embarrassed about it. So there are big gaps in these episodes.

    Island Frank

  100. Georgy Rock (2011-12-21) #

    You - definitely BEAUTIFUL!
    thanks for the post.
    love & love,
    -g-

  101. cuneyt (2011-12-21) #

    not a single Turkish guy! You are missing something here

  102. Lot Saucedo (2011-12-21) #

    Wow ... Are you sure you were not inventing names or you just grabbed the White Pages ?? ;) What a great memory you have ! Thanks for sharing !!!

  103. Guy Leroux (2011-12-21) #

    Well my name might not have been there, but I did get this e-mail...

    Have a Merry Christmas Everyone...


    Musically Yours,


    Guy Leroux~^o^~ cheer

  104. Thomas Pecora (2011-12-21) #

    So I didn't make the list.
    I'm heartbroken.

    Thomas
    Tom Pecora! Yes, you should have made the list. My first and most-awesome guitar teacher. (Sorry I was thinking highschool friends for those years.) Good to hear from you. smile -- Derek

    Thanks Derek.
    All is forgiven.
    I think of you often and fondly.
    And I've ALWAYS been proud of you.
    You were one of the most gifted of the thousands I taught over my 30 years of teaching. I always knew you'd "surface" at some time in the future.

    Thanks again,
    Your over-sensitive Friend and once Teacher,

    Thomas

  105. J.J. Vicars (2011-12-21) #

    As we say in Dudeism, the religion of Lebowski, I dig your style, man. What a cool idea!
    Ah, Dudeism is my language. California native. Thanks JJ. -- Derek

  106. Fer IsellaFer Isella (2011-12-21) #

    Derek, how long did it take you to write 'em all down?
    A few wonderful hours. -- Derek

  107. Tammy Carson (2011-12-21) #

    From what I can tell from your posts and videos, you are a loving & lovable person. Keep inspiring the world, as you do!

  108. Chase Steele Greye (2011-12-21) #

    This was more than pleasurable to read. I have to do this as well. I think about this quite a bit actually. I once had a bag stolen in Florida thatched a book of about 300 names and addresses from my travels abroad. I did not have deep connections with these people, just mostly short term ones. I felt at that moment the universe was sending me a signal to concentrate on those that were impactful and close
    to me. So I forged on and now I can probably make a list as long as yours. This is powerful. People do make a mark on our souls in a big way. Good move brother! Let's connect soon.

  109. Marie (2011-12-21) #

    Merry Christmas Derek et. al., I am getting ready to travel so I don't have time right now to do the list - but I will over the holidays. Derek, I love receiving your updates ~ you are truly a blessing. In the meantime, Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, and blessings to all on which ever holiday you celebrate. PEACE & ONE LOVE.

  110. Kate Taylor (2011-12-21) #

    Would love to have the time for this Derek! Can I send my to-do list to someone, as muck-work! This seems way more fun & inspiring ;) Great idea! X

  111. cathy grier (2011-12-21) #

    perfect.
    lately I've had spontaneous memories of friends and family pop into my head, you've given me a wonderful exercise to continue and contemplate.

  112. Peter MorinPeter Morin (2011-12-21) #

    This is what I did on Facebook. Alas, many who I wanted to find apparently don't want me to find them.

  113. Pete Berwick (2011-12-21) #

    Derek, you didn't forget your mom, did you?

  114. Karl Staib (2011-12-21) #

    I would have never thought to do this. I'm going to try this exercise this weekend. It will be fun to think of everyone who has influenced my life.

    I don't think I'll come up with as many as you, but that's ok. I'll try my best.

  115. Nadir (2011-12-21) #

    Forgot everyone on your mailing list)))

  116. Edie Foy (2011-12-21) #

    I did not make this list, but got the E-mail. I remember you Derek and you have been a great help in my music. Thanks for that and have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

  117. Alex LenkoAlex Lenko (2011-12-21) #

    Thanks for the reminder to remember and for the mentioning in the posts related to a person's online legacy. My family is going through the Hospice process with my wife's grandmother and legacy and memories are front of mind. I can only imagine how the pre-death grieving process will look in 50 years by having the traceable trail left on the web for loved ones to reminisce. I can only hope that the internet remains free and that my memory (noggin) stays intact.
    By the way, it's incredible when you put paper to pen the list of people who have made a lasting impact (really fun exercise)- Thanks!

    PS- the website listed is my wife's business, just launched. Thanks for the motivation and techniques set out in the video at appsumo and Anything You Want

  118. Troy WruckTroy Wruck (2011-12-21) #

    Very cool exercise in gratitude...thanks for sharing Derek!

  119. Mark Hermann (2011-12-21) #

    Derek,

    It's been a long time since I commented but what a great idea! I have to say that this will be a great excercise but the truth is when I get to the present with regard to people I remember who have had a profound influence on me, you're going to be right up there at the top of the list, no bullshit. Thanks for all your inspiration and truly original ideas. You rock!

    Happy Holidays!

    Mark

  120. Jason Paul Johnston (2011-12-21) #

    Derek: Many years ago I emailed you a question at CDbaby regarding my music and to my surprise you emailed back. It was a short burst "follow your heart and passion / be yourself" kind of response. But it made an impression - you never know when the small exchanges count. Thanks for taking the time! - Jason Paul Johnston

  121. JeffreyJeffrey (2011-12-21) #

    Yep...I have not done this on a blog...but may have to...yes...I have many, many friends from memory...too..thnx

  122. Eyal Yair (2011-12-21) #

    Derek,

    This is a wonderful idea!

    I think it will be nice to add (for each person on the list) a one unique thing that effected you most.

    Thanks! Happy Holidays,
    Eyal

  123. Jeff (2011-12-21) #

    I visualize friends and "enemies" and how we helped each other grow during my gratitude moments...it is amazing how long the lists can grow! :D

    We both attended a CGW with Steve Pavlina, you and I...and met other people who met you, but I don't remember meeting you Derek...next time I'm in Singapore (which would be the first time, but my wife is from Japan, so it could be a side trip some day), I'll look you up! :D

    CHEERS! and thanks for sharing...I want to meet a lot of folks on your list...

  124. Brian ArdingerBrian Ardinger (2011-12-21) #

    Derek,

    Thanks - Inspired by your work. Cheers and all the best this holiday season.

    Brian

  125. Gwen Adams (2011-12-21) #

    I did this a few weeks ago in a lonely moment, then decided to circle the names of those I felt still believed in me/or still would if we were in touch. As the circles grew, I went from feeling lonely to blessed. Also realized there were some uncircled that I still pour time into, and circled whose friendship I have neglected. Trying to adjust that.

  126. Ali SadeghianAli Sadeghian (2011-12-21) #

    Greetings Derek, this is a great way for remembering friends. But it is also a wonderful way to keep in touch with friends and keeping friendships alive.

    Good friends are hard to come by, so it is nice to cherish friendships that are meaningful and real.

    I, for one, am blessed to have friends like you who are wonderful and kind. Thanks for your friendship.

    Your friend,

    Ali

  127. lefevre (2011-12-21) #

    nice idea,
    I am hoping that I can one day make the time to make a list like this...
    would be interesting to see how many names I remember, although there are those people who remain nameless because we never exchanged names, but I remember their smiles or faces. Random encounters in coffee shops, book stores, subways, and music stores...

  128. Romain BoboeRomain Boboe (2011-12-21) #

    very interesting as an exercise in fact.

    It would have been just as interesting to read this list based on the year or age groups to understand the effects of variation caused by these interactions and their intensity according to the different period you have been through so far.
    Sometimes there are long in the wilderness where a single match can open many doors afterward.

    Thank you for sharing this experience Dereck.

  129. Karen von Winbush (2011-12-21) #

    Dear Derek - This is a great idea and a nice way to celebrate the holidays and life in general. Bravo ! I know I will try to follow your lead and do this exercise as well. Thank you for sharing !

  130. Clay Wilson (2011-12-21) #

    Dear Derek,

    I can't believe you can remember all those friends and names. Frankly in my life I've had very few true friends, and just about the only 1 I have is my wife Rebecca, but real true friends I honestly don't have any besides her. Most of the folks I remember most helped me in music immensely, and I'm very grateful to all of them. I always try to remember that whether someone approves of you or not it has nothing to do with one's own internal worth, so I suppose I have 2 friends. My dear wife and myself, but I wish the best for all human beings! You met Stephen King, too. He's an interesting man. I met him, too down in Sarasota, FL, and we lived at one time right down the road from him. I have a song that I would love for him to hear since the theme is similar to his story "It." I think it was the one I sent you, and you graciously listened to. I want to wish you and yours, Derek a Merry Christmas, and a happy, healthy and prosperous 2012, and what an interesting idea you have here. I hope many of your friends get in touch with you. Thank you!

  131. Fred Scott (2011-12-21) #

    you wrote this to hurt my feelings, didn t you.
    hahahahah, . most people in my life , I have night mares about..
    no there were a couple good memories, good to hear from you.

  132. Connected Isolation (2011-12-21) #

    Interesting Idea. I think I might do one of these on my blog. I was also thinking about making one for all the famous girls I like, just in case they read it ;)

  133. Clay Wilson (2011-12-21) #

    Hello again Derek,

    Lastly I wanted to say that you have been like a friend to me, but I guess in truth we're not true friends, because we really don't know each other that well, and I believe you really have to meet in person to become a true friend. But thank you for all the friendly things you have done for me.

    Most Sincerely,

    Clay Wilson

  134. Joel D CanfieldJoel D Canfield (2011-12-21) #

    In "Innumeracy" John Allen Poulos does some interesting math about shared acquaintances. While chances are pretty low that two random strangers who meet will share a common friend, the mathematical probability that, if we end up seated next to each other on an airplane, one of my friends knows one of your friends is nearly 100%.

    Perhaps our lists being posted online will allow for some cross indexing to see how we're all, not six, but three degrees apart. Can we call that "twice as close" ?

  135. Jeff Barkin (2011-12-21) #

    It must be extremely honorable for those listed, as you have accomplished so much in such a short time.

    I think that this exercise also helps us realize the importance and building positive relationships with others, sharing, and working toward making this a better world.

  136. angel tate (2011-12-21) #

    I'm sure the internet will be runnung 30 or so years from now. It might be used in a totally different way though. You know how technology is today. I'm sure that Alexander G. Bell never even imagined that you could walk around with a telephone the size of a long stick of gum hooked to your ear either.

  137. Gina SiderisGina Sideris (2011-12-21) #

    Terrific idea! The world is smaller now, and with all the communication channels available, it just makes sense to let people know you remember them.

    Thanks, Derek -- I have a new project!

  138. Jean-Baptiste CollinetJean-Baptiste Collinet (2011-12-21) #

    Meh. I'm not on the list.

    However, you're on mine. That goes without saying!

    I am really gifted at "forgive and forget", and I don't like to remind my past at all (for reasons beyond understanding, and because it is totally off-topic here!)

    It's hard for me to remind people. I don't even care about myself, so how could I care about others?

    Whatever. In the end your idea is a great one, as usual!

  139. Richard O. Burdick (2011-12-21) #

    I try to keep track of the famous musicians I have worked with:
    Notable performances coached by Morton Subotnick, Alvin Lucier. Performed with Joshua Bell, Moody Blues, Smothers Brothers, Dave Brubeck, Stephanie Chase,
    Kenny G, Captain Kangaroo, Eartha Kitt, Sherry Lewis & Lamb Chop, Luciano Pavarotti
    & many other famous classical musicians.

    Premiered (in Concert or premiere recording) horn solo or chamber music by:
    "Elaine L. Bearer", Aaron Blumenfeld, L. F. Dauprat, Ken Durling, Victor Herbert, Jon Ward, John Webber, and others

  140. Rich OppenheimRich Oppenheim (2011-12-21) #

    It would be an honor to someday be added to the 268 names that popped into your memory. There are apps that can do things on notice of your death (eg ifidie.net) You may want to start a movement to send good-bye messages on the day of your funeral celebration.
    Keep good ideas flowing, please.

  141. Tom Slack (2011-12-21) #

    Nice idea - will have to try it when I can spare the hours.

    Kind of reminds me of my own pet project, which is to list every musical recording that has had an impact on me through the years. (Seeing as how the first one on the list is Ain't Nothin' But a Hound Dog by Elvis Presley, this has and will continue to be a daunting task.)

  142. Silvia Silk (2011-12-21) #

    Derek, you are a remarkable human being. You are so "Big". You are full of wisdom, and have a wonderful way of thinking.

    I often think about people from my past, but I can't remember many of their last names. However, I always enjoy going back to memory lane.

    Thank you for sharing.

    Silvia

    Thanks for your memories.

  143. Silvia Silk (2011-12-21) #

    Derek, you are a remarkable human being. You are so "Big". You are full of wisdom, and have a wonderful way of thinking.

    I often think about people from my past, but I can't remember many of their last names. However, I always enjoy going back to memory lane.

    Thank you for sharing.

    Silvia

    Thanks for your memories.

  144. Julie Wiley (2011-12-21) #

    I have a running list in my mind always.

    Most of the folks that I really appreciate are the ones that remain nameless to me; the two elderly women from our little, tiny church in the Oakland District of Tacoma, WA that brought me a cactus plant in a ceramic pot shaped as a Victorian girl in full hoop skirt and corset after being released from the hospital at age 7 following a horrific bicycle accident, the nurse that took over coaching for my husband in the middle of the night when he needed to get coffee and I was just about ready to start another contraction, the man that picked up my mother and my four siblings all under the age of 7 after walking 5 miles into town, with all of our neighbors driving by and gawking - we still had another 5 miles to go - he loaded all of us up in his old 40's make car of some kind or another and took us to a bank so that my mom could cash a check that had just arrived in the mail from her mother in Texas so that she could feed her children.
    To those folks that have probably passed on in life, I say, thank you! I remember your kindness. I forever will be in your debt.

    Julie Wiley

  145. Annie Evans (2011-12-21) #

    Excellent exercise, I will take it up for myself...funny that I have 'sort' of done this from time to time and depending on the mood or where the memory is at the moment the list changes, while I will consolidate them, it is interesting to reflect on the differences in time and reflection. I haven't yet really, really concentrated on this and will - because it is a good idea and exercise. Please send along others as you think of them. Thanks, Annie

  146. Terry Kingston (2011-12-21) #

    Derek,

    This was a fun experiment; although I anxiously scrolled up and down through your list a couple of times and didn't see my name.

    Damn, I was kinda disappointed but it's amazing the people you did remember. On second thought, you should have not forgotten me since it's been less than a year we exchanged frivolous emails( I think about business stuff)

    Hopefully, if I keep a steady correspondence, I'll be on next years list...this is how tradition starts.

    Best wishes for the holidays & N Y.

    TK

  147. Chris Kalogerson (2011-12-21) #

    Include me as another of your Greek-American friends who treasure the gift of existence.

  148. Victor Johnson (2011-12-21) #

    Hey Derek,
    Congratulations on another great year. Is Mark Hemstreet at the top of your list the same person who owns Shilo Inns in the Northwest? Was he a business person you learned from/ looked up to? I've always been impressed with his operation, locations and independence.
    Thanks for all you do.

  149. Hadley Gustin (2011-12-21) #

    Wow, you're good! I think this just goes to show how truly valuable and important people are in our lives. I love that you did this completely from memory because that's what made it all the more meaningful. Happy Holidays!

  150. Richard Lucas (2011-12-21) #

    Great idea. The thing that would hold me back doing this is my dyslexic memory, and business colleague/friend boundaries. If I put anyone from my companies, then I start having to put others on for political reasons, and then it loses meaning. If I put no one from any of my businesses I start leaving people out who were very important to me in my life (plus I am sure I would forgot people)
    happy Christmas from Poland
    Richard

  151. Rachel Walker (2011-12-21) #

    You have a great memory and great memories Derek!
    Artists need freedom, and you were always gracious and encouraging to the less than norm.
    Merry Christmas Derek!
    Rachel

  152. Osman (2011-12-21) #

    Great, I always do the same and I thinking prove to give a phonecall them. Of course you have a long list Derek.

    Happy Hollyday and a very helpful 2012.

  153. Yolanda Roth (2011-12-21) #

    **HUGS**

  154. Robbie Kaye (2011-12-21) #

    Beautiful! Seeing some of your names brought me down memory lane too... and my time at W/C and New York... what a wonderful reminder, thank you! Have a wonderful holiday and thank you for being one of those people who have touched my life. Robbie

  155. Steve Kusaba (2011-12-21) #

    What does it take to make the list now? Or is it closed? smile

  156. Ted Sink (2011-12-21) #

    Though we've never met in person, I believe I'd put you on my list.

    Ted

  157. Juanita Whitfield (2011-12-21) #

    I love this, Derek and will do it too. What a great idea.

  158. Bayberry L. Shah (2011-12-21) #

    This is certainly a worthwhile exercise. It would be wonderful to go off to a cabin in the woods and start writing down names. It would be an experience of the mind, reconnecting with all those dear souls.

  159. Robert Van Horne (2011-12-21) #

    Hi Derek,

    May you continue adding names to your list for a long, long time. Merry Christmas!
    Robert

  160. Cazzy-The Alien Bluez DudeCazzy-The Alien Bluez Dude (2011-12-21) #

    We are all alwayz connected indeed

  161. Raymond Hayden (2011-12-21) #

    As usual, grreeeeaaaattttt idea Derek! Thank you for sharing...

  162. Mélanie Cantin (2011-12-21) #

    Johanne Plamondon and I have started a project in my village and the other villages around ours that we call Communitea. We invite people to make a card for someone who have changed their lives just by being there and being who they are. Its about gratitude and its about relationships that matters. We ask people to share their friendship memories over a cup of tea. Please feel free to spread communitea! I like to make a collage of images that represent the quality of being of the person I send the card to. I then call them, bring a special tea named friendship blossom and we have a lovely moment together. I invite them to do the same for someone else or all of their friends. Derek you would be on the go for a long time!smile I have friends overseas that I will send the friendship blossom to and their card and we'll take tea over skype! There is always time in my life for friendship. It is one of the very best think Life gives.. like nature and children its all about love.

  163. Mary Kathryn Johnson (2011-12-21) #

    If there was a way I could stream all the pictures inside my head into a blog post, that would be more useful in this exercise. I remember faces better than names, unfortunately. Could you write an awesome program that would allow me to connect with my Mac, and download images??? Then could you write a program to make it possible to Google images without names??? Well...maybe in 2013...

    Thanks for giving me a boost of gratitude for all the wonderful people in my life.

  164. Brenda Anna (2011-12-21) #

    Just went through your list of names, and didn't recognize anyone. I didn't really expect to; but you never know which of your current friends is connected with someone from your distant path.
    It's a great idea to make a list like this...a good activity for the year's longest nights with a cup of steaming spiced cider nearby.

    Thank you!

  165. Clara BellinoClara Bellino (2011-12-21) #

    Fun exercise Derek, gratefulness for all who entered our lives, love it! I travel a fair amount of different circles and sometimes add to that exercise all the people I've worked with who weren't necessarily there long enough to be my friends per se, makes me wish sometimes i'd kept a list, from having worked on movie sets. Talking with Elizabeth Taylor and having her smile at me and remind me of my grandma was a treat. And then I realize I can't document everything i do. But am very grateful for every person that values the moments we share. Being there when it happens and making the exchange with each one as significant and valuable as it can be is what I increasingly have learned I value doing. Time happens once.
    Happy Holidays!

  166. Charlie Sneller (2011-12-21) #

    Amazingly .... , that exercise also recalled the image of what they looked like the last time I saw them.

  167. Aliza (2011-12-21) #

    It's such a joyful thing to enjoy the nostalgia that this list elicits and to be thankful for the people that effect us.

    I'm very surprised as I read through everyone's responses, that no one has mentioned any negative effects Facebook has had on their "list."

    I'll preface this by saying, I am very active on Facebook. I post pictures of my children, share daily joys and struggles and articles like this blog post to my "friends".

    My Facebook friends consist of close family, daily friends, distant family, coworkers, moms groups gals, music industry professionals, and women I haven't seen since I was 7 years old.

    Over the last few years, there have been numerous times where I have thought of the list you described Derek, and I have decided to look up those people and "friend request" them.

    My experience reconnecting through facebook with people who have touched me has been one of mixed emotions. The memory of "my best friend from second grade.... who the lunch line lady called us bobsy-twins" was somewhat tarnished with reality. Thoughts of nostalgia that your "list" would elicit are replaced with the daily grind... annoying facebook "apps" and political discussions that you vehemently disagree with.

    I can't be the only person with such an experience. The obvious solution would be to get off facebook. I've changed my own response to this desire to look up old friends. I've mostly stopped doing it and I hope to keep that wonderful memory simply a memory from the past where it feels nicer.

  168. Randy Handley (2011-12-21) #

    I'm way too lazy and memory impaired to actually do this but Facebook would make it a walk in the park because even if they're not all actual friends, they would remind me of people who were. Remember a friend will help you move your furniture, a real friend will help you move a body.

  169. Eahoue (2011-12-21) #

    Zero. "No greater love can a person have for a friend than to give their life and put each other before self".
    There is a great difference between *friends* and those who are friendly. I am grateful for all who have treated me with kindness and love. But, you are asking me to find *a needle in a haystack* while traveling a thorny road.
    No one is at fault as most people give as they are able and I thank them for that.
    Peace

  170. Mary Murphy (2011-12-21) #

    Derek,
    What a cool activity! Thank you for sharing. I cannot imagine anyone "hating" you; perhaps some envy you? But I guess hate is a fact of life and sometimes we never know when someone hates us. I am not comfortable with hate, but i am all about love, and you, Derek, seem to have a lot of it to share.
    Bless you. Have a wonderful Christmas and a blessed new year. You deserve it!

  171. Mike Pailthorpe (2011-12-21) #

    Thank you for suggesting a new way to feel grateful - I've started my list.
    Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
    Mike

  172. Lee Cutelle (2011-12-21) #

    An interesting idea.....I'll give it a shot

  173. Fran Schultz (2011-12-21) #

    Derek - This is sooo cool. You are on my list for sure. So true that some will remember us and others will not and some will hate us too. Then there are those friends who will always remain a friend and be your friend forever. This time of year is when the list seems to come out and we can't help but take notice of it and reminisce. Wishing you a beautiful season of recollection and a holiday season you'll cherish forever.

  174. Shawn (2011-12-21) #

    Love this! Each person we meet turns us into who we will and can become. Thanks for sharing, Derek.

  175. Betsy Grant (2011-12-21) #

    This can be done in many different ways - ie - include THINGS and EXPERIENCES I am grateful for like the book I read, or the person I never met, but who's music, or words, or art profoundly affected my life. Then we can run a list of other personal experiences that may be no one but ourselves can appreciate, but which brought about development of being or expansion of consciousness in some way. And finally - how about the gift of life itself?

  176. Kylie Dunn (2011-12-21) #

    Really enjoyed this one Derek. I've been feeling a bit nostalgic for some of my old friends myself of late, but have not been able to track them down anywhere. Maybe doing this activity will help me remember some of the others so I can find a way to relocate them.
    The interesting thing would be what people would have you on their list and how they align with yours. I think that it is a truism that we sometimes have an impact on people's lives that we never even realised, and they will treasure our friendship more than we did theirs. It would be fascinating to know the people you may not realise who fondly remember you.
    Another thought provoking share Derek.

  177. Steven Cravis (2011-12-21) #

    Reminds me of one of the Eckankar exercises (though much easier than this one) of looking back on your day, at night before going to sleep, and remembering three positive things that happened in that day.
    I'll try this late on.
    Wow, I'm amazed at how many names you remembered, Derek!

    Steven

  178. Lynn Julian (2011-12-21) #

    A boyfriend made me make a LIST of EVERY GUY I EVER SLEPT WITH...not fun at all. It turns out half of them were highly regrettable (if I bothered with regrets) one night stands during a drunken year spent trying NOT to deal with the death of my partner...OUCH.

    This list will be MUCH MORE FUN...SUPER IDEA!

  179. Warren Senders (2011-12-21) #

    I'm still here, Derek. I'd love to talk sometime...and if you ever want to sing together, give me a shout.

  180. Craig Brown aka SoundaCraig Brown aka Sounda (2011-12-21) #

    Derek… Fascinating food for thought. To think about it, indeed…. I can remember quite a few people. Although my list might not be as long as yours.. laugh.

  181. Dom Goold (2011-12-21) #

    cheers. this is a concept i have noted.
    i may apply it. or may not. i'll have to think about
    it first. but my current phase as a contemplative
    hermite is coming along quite nicely and things
    are nice and peaceful now...

  182. Mort Weiss (2011-12-21) #

    hello derek, i can remember the people that made a difference in my life (for the better ) and have seven fingers left. of course there are friends -and then there are aquaintances. of course back in the day i was so f**ked up most of the time -i didnt know who-where-or what i was----these days if im not sure, all i have to do is look into a mirror and see some one who really cares looking back at me-----no reflection on your list. enjoy the moment-and each breath---dont see the glass as 1/2 full or 1/2 empty--but as filled to the brim and over flowing with good energy. best, mort weiss

  183. El aka Gene (2011-12-21) #

    on a certain socio/cultural level, if i have influenced a great many others through my art, how could i possibly know how many friends i've had?
    i'm a people person and always have been. instinct and observation tells me there's a reciprosity to that whole human interaction process. as for
    'friends i can't see'... if high-profile cultural projects originate from sources other than where they are alleged to originate from, 'true origins' can have a great many friends who have entrusted their respect and adulation with the wrong entities. that's not necessarily a bad thing for, in principal, i believe in the better humanitarian application of creative commons. i do not, however, believe the work we have given up freely for the common good of all should be plagiarized and exploited 'for profit' by those with no sincere belief in the creative commons. conspiracy theories abound, but the karmic truth behind all matters will be revealed eventually. i don't really believe i've ever met my best friends and may not until much later. as is, the lionshare of the names i recall from the past 60 years are recalled with sublime affection.

  184. Fred Aguilar (2011-12-21) #

    a wonderful idea and exercise in humility.. thanks for the inspiration

  185. Brian Barber (2011-12-21) #

    Love the idea. Afraid I wouldn't be able to come up with half the number of names you have. But that's not even the point, is it. The point is to see the mosaic of relationships that have influenced us all through the years. And though they may have slipped out of our world and recollection, their impact is with us, enduring. Thanks for the thought, Derek.

  186. Holly O'ReillyHolly O'Reilly (2011-12-21) #

    I think of friendship as a relationship built on trust, mutual respect, and something (or things) in common. I have literally thousands of acquaintances, as I'm sure you do as well...comes with the territory. But friends, throughout my life...I can count on both hands without using all fingers. (You are on my list, too. ;-)

    But by your definition, this project would probably take me more time than I have left, so I will likely start reverse chronologically...

    I like it.

  187. Diana LongDiana Long (2011-12-21) #

    Hi Derek,
    Love,love,love this. What a treat to re-remember friends + the memories.

  188. David Ross (2011-12-21) #

    You are an interesting cat. Fabulous idea. Bravo!

  189. Robert Lazaneo (2011-12-21) #

    I may try this just to see how many names I can come up with. Funny thing is, so many people you may have had a relationship with in the past, for alot of them you're best left in their past. Trying to connect after many years doesn't always work out either you've changed or they have. The things you used to have in common just aren't there any more.

  190. Elise Bialylew (2011-12-21) #

    "And even if you were in some prison, the walls of which let none of the sounds of the world come to your senses - would you not then still have your childhood, that precious, kingly possession, that treasure-house of memories? "
    ~Rainer Maria Rilke

    Inspiring idea...it's amazing how much we hold in that head of ours...as information becomes more and more accessible I wonder how our brains will adapt...is their a limit to the memory stores...

    People like mandela, aung san suu kyi, Ingrid Betancourt (http://wheelercentre.com/dailies/post/ae202c364de4/) must have used their memories and imagination frequently to survive and remain grateful and inspired...

    Thanks Derek,
    May 2012 be filled with material that remains forever rich and timeless in your memories

  191. Patrick Killelea (2011-12-21) #

    It's a nice thought, but perhaps a slight invasion of privacy.

    Hmmm, does Facebook let you see friend lists if you're not a friend? I guess it does.

  192. Adina Othman (2011-12-21) #

    Great idea! I always believe the past make you what you are. Also help you get back to basics what are the important things in life

  193. Ahmad Nadimi (2011-12-21) #

    Greetings Derek,

    Thank you for this noble and fresh idea for this holiday season.

    Blessings of light and love, Ahmad

  194. Jimmie Landry (2011-12-21) #

    Is it ok if I copy and paste your idea on my site but with my remembered names ?
    Of course! Go for it. -- Derek

  195. Naldo Keith (2011-12-21) #

    I do stuff like that I have often tried to go chronologically. But I do even think one thought after another, it's more of a bombardment of fragments of memories. More like a riddle that has been solved but no one understand. Is that clear? I would ask myself as I reflect on how many people have affect my life! I will try again soon! Sounds like FUN!

  196. John Parker (2011-12-21) #

    Hey, where's my name, Derek!? LOL! I want on. You are a great guy and I really like your blog style. Thanks, too, for taking time to explain this very blog page setup to me, a regular old free subscriber, a few weeks ago--- unheard of in the internet marketing world.

    Maybe 5-20 years from now I'll make your list. That would be cool. For now I'm delighted to be on your email list. Thank you.

    Your list idea sets me to thinking about other kinds of lists. The other day I was thinking about those who've gone on before...that I hope will be there to greet me on the other side...an interesting list in my head right now.

    Happy Holidays!

  197. Angèle LubinAngèle Lubin (2011-12-21) #

    Derek, used your super cool idea and listed teachers I've had who impacted my life by the experiences they provided me. Great to think about them again.
    Merry Christmas and Happy New Year ¸¸.•*¨*•★

  198. Katherine Kiang (2011-12-21) #

    I love this great idea, Derek! I do remember many people who've made a difference in my life. Sometimes, I wonder if I've made a difference in someone else's life. If it can be like the movie, "It's a Wonderful Life" -- on days when we are down, it would be nice to know how we have made a difference in other people's lives. I'm thankful for all those who came into my life. Merry Christmas and all the best in 2012!

  199. Gaurav VazGaurav Vaz (2011-12-21) #

    Hey Derek! firstly, fantastic idea! and I saw that my name made it to the list of people smile - You made a big difference in my life, and were a BIG part of how I ended up making a career for myself in the music industry!

    So thank you! and one day, we should revive some of those old projects.

  200. Ken LaDerouteKen LaDeroute (2011-12-21) #

    Derek,
    I don't even know you really - except for what I've read about the way you lead your life and business. Yet, you remain a very influential and inspiring person for me. I'm grateful for the knowledge you impart from your mind to mine. Many Blessing to you and yours this season.

  201. Ziv Azmanov (2011-12-21) #

    Hi Derek,

    Thank you for sharing this nice idea. Besides been a great memory exercise it's also an interesting way to review our lives.

    I think we can learn something about ourselves when we review the connections we've made (and those we didn't) in our lives.

    Thanks,
    Ziv.

  202. Bliss (2011-12-21) #

    Derek- I do make these lists too! Sometimes I re-do them just to keep remembering. It's a wonderful walk down memory lane. You're such an inspiration to many...thank you.
    ...to those who thing Derek's list is just important to him, think again...Whether you know the names on his list or not, Derek has placed a seed of "inspiration", and THAT friends, family, and countrymen, is a gift! Smile and be grateful!

  203. Jan J.P. van den Wittenboer (2011-12-22) #

    all the best for 2012

  204. Greg Jensen (2011-12-22) #

    Many paths cross ( some for only few seconds )
    all of them significant in some way. Even if it's not
    a formal meeting maybe just a smile or a hand across the shoulder. All have touched my life,
    I thank you, and remain grateful. Greg Jensen.

  205. Bill Saxman Bodell - AMC (2011-12-22) #

    Great Idea Derek. I must do something similar before It's too late. Wishing You and family many wonderful Christmas and New Year greetings.
    Bill.

  206. Nicholis Paul Washburn The "ENCOURAGEANAIRE" ACTS 11 (2011-12-22) #

    Derek "CD Baby/Host Baby/MuckWork",
    Merry Christmas, Happy Hannukah, Blessed Channukah and Seasons Greetings to you and your Loved Ones too!!! I have never Forgotten meeting/talking/connecting with you and your Genuine Heart to Encourage others to Discover their Creative Gifts at the 1st Los Angeles CD Baby Mixer in 1991 with my client, Michael Darby and Smile and reconnected with Dave Tough and Shannon Hudson *Pepperdine Alumni Classmates* and even David Martin of Getitplanet.com and a close Mentor that is still very strong in my Life! One of my Favorite Memories was when I asked for your Business Card which was the most "Original" I had ever seen in my Life because you had Escaped the "Box" and Defined your own successes, ablilities & passions of the Mind, Body, Heart, Strength & Spirit! I also Admired that you Videotaped every person that attended and made mine and everyone's attendance "History Making" as well as a "Butterfly Effect" to Spark our Hearts to be Unstoppable Top 1% World Changers who were First, Grassroots Visionaries, Pioneers & Revolutionaries!!! May you continue to Celebrate your Entrepreneurial Creative Gift of "UNIQUENESS" Now, Always & Forever!!!~The "ENCOURAGEANAIRE" ACTS 11

  207. Carey B Grant (2011-12-22) #

    Hi Derek,

    Thanks______
    Puts things in a better Perspective.
    I can see read the Road Signs more Clearly
    Hope !

    Tom Petty: " A Face In The Crowd "

    Carey

  208. Glen DiCrocco (2011-12-22) #

    Good project. I've done this mentally at times, specifically with the names of coworkers at specific jobs from long ago. For the past five years, I've been compiling a recap each December of the year's most memorable experiences with a brief description. It helps me put the year in perspective and to hold myself accountable to what it all amounted to. I also list favorite music, films, books, the single best day, best dinner, and the saddest moments as well. Where possible, I link to photos and videos. I send it only to a few close friends, one of whom compiles his own version of the recap.

  209. Emery Jeffreys (2011-12-22) #

    I'm making my list. You are on it because the way you make me think about opportunity. Instead of being unemployed, I went into business for myself. You gave me some great advice.

    To all of you making yor own list: How many of the people on your list would add your name to their list?

    I don't want to be on anyone's list just to be on the list.

  210. Patrick and Christina Purcell (2011-12-22) #

    Very cool and fun Derek! Merry Christmas!

  211. David WilliamDavid William (2011-12-22) #

    This is why folks admire you Derek! It's not just the trip down memory that is useful, but the reflection on how all of these people helped to influence and create who you have become. It can be a humbling experience to realize we are made up little bits of all the people around us.

  212. Matt Guterres (2011-12-22) #

    What a great idea Derek. I think i'll eat some mushrooms and write up my list too!

  213. Curtis Warner Jr. (2011-12-22) #

    What a great "exercise"... beats the heck out of going to the gym. Even though I'm not on your list... I'm obviously on some list... otherwise I wouldn't have received this. It's always good to touch base with you. You've definitely changed lives. My best regards to you and your family for all things going forward.

    Curtis

  214. Sarah Mark (2011-12-22) #

    This is awesome!! GREAT idea. Will do this! I'm going to share it on facebook (with credit to you). Perfect season too, for remembering those who we've known and who have known us.

  215. Rokk Lattanzio (2011-12-22) #

    Derek, Interesting exercise but it would take me weeks just to compile the list... not bragging but I can remember hundreds if not thousands of people I have spent time with and in most cases I can remeber their full names (or at least the first name if that's all I was given). Ironically most of the names I cannot recall are usually associated with one night stands but in most of those cases I remeber the experience and conversation in detail ;)

  216. Vance Branch (2011-12-22) #

    Nice blog i can relate to this but can't remember all the names lol! My memory is fading. Great job!

  217. Alex Beguin (2011-12-22) #

    Such a great exercise to do in a time where so much of our memory is done for us with speed dial, facebook reminders and contact lists.
    Thank you for reminding me that every contact entry and profile page links to a real person who has affected me in some way.

    Happy Holidays Derek!

  218. Joseph de Dominicis (2011-12-22) #

    Hi Derek,
    What a wonderful idea.
    Thanks.

  219. Jean-PierreJean-Pierre (2011-12-22) #

    How interesting, I think I'll try this. Did you get to send this to anyone on your top of the head list?

    Also, what inspired you to do this?

  220. Mary Sarah (2011-12-22) #

    A smile of YES.....as I opened this e-mail.
    As I linger somewhere between the moment and the knowing...
    I think connection is all that we have.

    I love this "exercise," as it reminds me of how many people's lives we touch, or touch ours.
    This matrix of WE!

    smile Happy, Joyful 2012

  221. Charles Nwabueze (2011-12-23) #

    .
    Hello, Happy New year Derek!
    Quite a great project indeed, & that of gratitude to God....and reminiscing....yeah
    ....nostalgic...at times yes. I think we all do to a certain degree have good memories of people who walked into/ through our lives leaving behind traces that shaped us somewhat at some point in time.

    However good this project may be, it must said that the Christian should do so objectively because the Bible says to him who is born again that all things have become new and the old things have passed away (2 Corinthians 5v17). This involves all that belongs to the past. We should reminisce it not if it belongs to the old you. In christ we unlearn what we learned before which didn't serve any purpose for our existence. In addition, the memory that's and that will bring blessings when recalled is the memory of the righteous (Proverbs 10v7).
    Certainly the works of the good people you've met are worth recalling. It was quite an interesting project again from you. Thank you.


    Merry Christmas to you all.

  222. Karina Zhunussova (2011-12-23) #

    Thank you for the idea, Derek! Remembering all my friends and people who influenced or inspired me fills my heart with appreciation.
    You are a generous person, sharing your warmth and energy. I wish you Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

  223. Clinton Baney (2011-12-23) #

    Great idea, Derek! It's a great way to count your blessings by remembering people in our past and the stories that go with them. Thank you for sending me this post! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

  224. John Braheny (2011-12-23) #

    Derek, wonderful to see how many on your list are, and have been important in both of our lives. Our stories will continue to be woven together. Blessings to you and your list.

  225. Olu Badejo aka TheOMan (2011-12-23) #

    Great idea, I actually do this often (I'm a sucker for reminiscing and nostalgia). I don't write down the names so I'll do that next time around. When I come up with a name of a person that I know I haven't spoken to in years, I make it a point to track them down just to say hi. I'm not always successful but when I am I usually at least get a hi back and more!

  226. Tarleton Brooks (2011-12-23) #

    I love you Derek. You are a gift to the world : )

  227. India Holden (2011-12-23) #

    Thank you for the great idea. I can't wait to use my Christmas vacation to take my own walk down memory lane again. I did it last when I completed the first draft of my manuscript, wanting to remember the shoulders upon which I stand and acknowledge their owners ;).

  228. Nina GomesNina Gomes (2011-12-23) #

    Blessings to you and yours.

    What a wonderful gift. How to be grateful for all these people in my Life no matter how slight the encounter.

    Thank you.

  229. Ian Bruce (2011-12-24) #

    derek
    you forgot steven cravis. you forgot ian bruce who has offered to piss on your feet at least several times...

  230. Roy Jaleco (2011-12-25) #

    Ah, Derek, I would love to have a memory like this! But truly, you are blessed to have so much in your list and surely even more that you have yet to mention.

    And now, to start my own.....

    Have a Happy Christmas!

  231. Rachel Michaeli (2011-12-25) #

    Thanks, having my own Sgt. Peppers' sleeve. I shared your gift.

  232. Eddy (2011-12-25) #

    Love how you worded the intro. A few years ago, I started having some memory issues. It is mostly due to my epilepsy meds, bus some of it is due to my lazy mind, I'm sure. We've discussed my total lack of recall of how to read music or even how to play the instruments I used to play, after my seizure, and how it was years later until I even realized I had lost that ability... so, I was curious about what else I was forgetting...
    I tried to list everybody I knew and gave up due to sadness.
    So many were dead... I had forgotten so many names, and SOOOO many were out of touch. None of my current circle of friends could even find the ones I really wanted to get back into contact with. So, I quit. It was not a pleasant experience for me, then, but, it is one that I may need to revisit one day.
    As always, you inspire.
    -E

  233. Albert McDowell (2011-12-26) #

    merry chirstmas and a happy new year

  234. Jordan Lee (2011-12-27) #

    From time to time I pop up like stuck toast (overdone, but still hot) You've become one of the most important influences in my life and it's only fitting to drop a line now & then to let you know I'm a better person for having known you.

  235. Debashis Ghosh (2011-12-27) #

    Such a wonderful way to remember friends!! smile !!
    You are truly passionate and creative and an inspiration for me!! smile !!
    God Bless You.
    Merry Christmas and have a very Happy New Year!!

  236. Karlos Knott (2011-12-27) #

    Derek

    Your suggested exercise was a fantastic and thoughtful Christmas present. Thanks and have a great New Year.

  237. Ely (2011-12-27) #

    Boy Derek!...Great idea and unbelievable memory. My father could have put a list like that together...but he had a photographic memory which was his curse...being at Pearl Harbor during the attack. How long did it take you to amass your list? Allot of folks that I met or remember from days/years gone by...I only remember their first names!

    Anyways, a great mental exercise and a tribute to your forward thinking and those souls that have touched you and you to theirs....I am sure, mostly positive. It is amazing how many people that one meets in a life time.
    Keep us musing and alert to life's bounties.

    Keep vigilent in exploring life and passionate on sharing.
    I hope that you and yours had a wonderful and Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year!

  238. roy povarchikroy povarchik (2011-12-27) #

    A great idea.
    certainly raised some smiles on my behalf as I thought of some good friend I thought I forgot about over the years.

  239. Lisa Maxwell (2011-12-27) #

    You can't get much greater than Derek. What a beautiful concept. And so simple.

  240. Justin CamputaroJustin Camputaro (2011-12-27) #

    Great idea Derek. One question, as you thought this out, how did you define friend vs. acquaintance? We have all had many pass through our lives, how to define who makes the "friend" list is always a tricky question. Is it on time known, impact of interactions had, or some other universal truth?
    I was defining it as people who I spent good face-to-face time with, (at least a couple meals together), and still remember our conversations well. Some people make a big bonding impact in a short time. Some stay just-acquaintances for years. Hard to draw that line. -- Derek

  241. Rebecca DeMarco (2011-12-27) #

    first time responder. Thank you so much for all your great advice. I love this and I will use it to the best of my ability. Best of New Year's!

  242. Samnang ChhunSamnang Chhun (2011-12-28) #

    Great idea for keeping in touch with friends.

  243. David Rosen (2011-12-28) #

    What great process to go through... I always love to look back at each friendship and how it shaped who I am today. I always find myself taking a little bit of what I like about each friend and making it part of who I am.

  244. Carl Decuir (2011-12-28) #

    carpe diem!!! a truly better eulogy, "the dead remebering the living"...

    and so to the mississippi delta gal, Terri, that gave me a daughter who is now 14 there are no words 2 express the love in my heart for our journies and creations... "skinnydipping in paradise", is a song built upon our young lives of real high love... it is our latest recorded song and thanx 2 Derek Sivers it lives plays and grows at ww.cdbaby.com/redeyecarl4 !!!!

    cheers!!

  245. Sekrett Scilensce (2011-12-28) #

    Wait,

    Your not getting ready to bite the bullet, aye?

    Neat idea, and f*ck -- I didn't make the list (but if you're sticking around then never mind, I have time).

    I shall do that one thing that even you will say, "Damn. That's cool."

    If I bite the bullet, I was posted here.

    Might seem odd, but I miss your interpretations. Regardless, stay as well, and when you feel like it, write us all a song about where you are.
    Getting ready to die? Yes. Expecting to die? No. smile -- Derek

  246. Dave Reynolds (2011-12-29) #

    my dreams seem to get in the way of my memories.

  247. Sam Dougherty (2011-12-30) #

    I recieve countless forwards and emails each day that get deleted in batches, some from good friends. I always make sure I read your post. It's never a waste of time. And this excersize is a great way to walk through the past and present. My start in music was a rough ride. It was 7 or 8 years ago (maybe even longer) when you made things much less stressful as I developed my web presence. Your insight and thoughts in business and life in general have always been helpful. We have never met in person, but I do appreciate you. Keep it comming!

    Happy New Year!
    Sam

  248. Will Ezell (2011-12-30) #

    Derek - GREAT idea - thanks much! Always love your posts, and appreciate you keeping me in the loop! You've had a blessed life, and the people on your list are blessed to have known such a great guy!

    Best to you in 2012!! - Will -

  249. Cheryl Catherine Smith (2011-12-30) #

    I'll never forget Kevin and I having both you and Tamara Nile over for dinner when you were here in Vancouver Derek, and how beautifully open you were to accept the invitation. I'd never met Tamara prior to that night, (although she and I are considered "local artists".) I felt that it was a good evening with good company as well as intriguing and interesting conversation ~ your humility and depth of knowledge graciously shared is admirable. If you recall we chatted quite a bit about "relationship" and not long after you were announcing your marriage! For me, life is a wonderful set of experiences and adventure, filled with "chance" meetings and sometimes brief connections that help to enrich our journeys. I am glad I invited you to dinner. I am also glad that you accepted the invitation. So thank YOU for your lovely contribution to my own life experience Derek!
    Namaste,
    Cheryl ox

  250. Sim Saran (2011-12-30) #

    Gratitude - what a beautiful, powerful and magnificent practice and gift! Thank you for the exercise and example. With love, Sim

  251. Alison Williams (2012-01-02) #

    What a fantastic idea. It was a lot of fun remembering good and bad. I have just uploaded a song to start the New Year - From me to you (a love song to the world). As the song says, I'm sending all my love to you. I would be delighted if you could look at it.

    http://youtu.be/jnPfgWeS33E

    Very Best Wishes to you and your family for 2012. May we all find love, peace and happiness this coming year.

  252. Wendy DeWitt (2012-01-02) #

    Keep your notebook handy when doing this. Could release an avalanche of creativity.

  253. Heidi Sivers (2012-01-02) #

    At what point does your sister get to appear on the list. I know I'm there smile

  254. Mark Whitty (2012-01-02) #

    Dear Derek,
    Thanks very much, you have a million friends and deserve them all. Richard had a gig for a big jewish thing in Melb Xmas day, Hahnaker? Please excuse spelling. He said it was a huge deal! He set up the AV gear for speeches, singing, all that. Killed them, they want him back for more things later.
    I played at Docklands Melb NYE, agent from TempoTalent there.
    Did "I've Found A New Baby"
    (1920's Clarence Williams tune). Killed her !

    Tempo send Musos all over OZ and Asia. Good!
    Lovely money!
    74 on 4th Jan, don't feel old, playing well, even blowing nice horn.
    Thanks again for all your help in the past, you are a very good person.
    Mark The Mad Muso Of OZ.

  255. Patrick FoleyPatrick Foley (2012-01-03) #

    Cool idea, Derek. You definitely make my list of people I've met who had an outsized impact on me in a short time.

    All the best,

    P

  256. Sirish Kumar (2012-01-03) #

    Hi Derek,

    Wish you and Saj a wonderful 2012! Great way to show people to reflect as we march ahead! We have exchanged emails. I did meet you at INSEAD entrepreneurship for one minute . Hope to become your friend soon.

    Cheers
    Sirish

  257. Lyndie Blevins (2012-01-04) #

    I've been thinking about this since your post. It does remind me of my Facebook, as people come to mind, I send them a friend request. I did this a couple of times over the holidays. You might need to be careful, the 'twins' might be after you next.

  258. Alex Ryan (2012-01-05) #

    I haven't got time to do this at work, but will be sure to do it once i get home. Will be interesting to see how many names i can remember from over 10 years ago.

  259. Michelle Scott-Chiodo (2012-01-05) #

    Wish we had met face to face so I could put you on the list I am making. Loved your book. Miss talking to you. Business is incredible. Regards and happy future to you. Michelle

  260. Ash Angelo (2012-01-06) #

    Very interesting post Derek! I put together my own list after reading your post and its interesting how many people you actually remember once you sit down and think. I remembered a friend from 30 years ago that I haven't seen since then. I don't remember his last name so there is no way for me to even search him out.

    How long did it take you to compile your list? Were you able to remember everyone's full name or did you need to look some up?
    I remembered the full names for all but 2 of them. Took a few hours. I kept remembering more the next day, and adding to it. -- Derek

  261. Ofer Ben-Noon (2012-01-07) #

    Hey Derek,

    I really like the Idea.
    It is a wonderful exercise for the mind, and it shows your friends that you appreciate them smile
    It also gives us some time to analyse our life, kind of a pit stop...
    Think of the good things, remember of lessons we learned from the bad ones. I like it!

    I am still young, my list is still short, and I still want to achieve half of what you have attained in your life before my pit stop, so for sure, I will do it in the future smile

    Stay in touch,
    Ofer

  262. Guy Gorman (2012-01-08) #

    Derek,
    I'm a teacher, and one of the things I keep in mind is that students won't remember what I teach them as much as how I treated them. I think that your ability to remember so many friends illustrates this idea in a general sort of way.

    Thanks as always for sharing your thoughts.

    Guy

  263. Gordy Boy (2012-01-08) #

    watched your video at a friend's place (uncommon sense) & looked you up, inspired. you seem like a beautiful & humble spirit & i wanted to thank you for sharing your ideas & philosophy with us all. it's truly remarkable the way you wound down CD baby & wish there were more people around who're like you.

    as Dave Allen (Irish comedian) used to say at the end of his shows, may your God go with you.

    all the best

    G

    P.S. Forest Gump is one of my all-time favourite movies! ;-)

  264. trauringe (2012-01-10) #

    What a great idea. That is quite a list. I did mine as well, but I stopped writing the names down after a while :D I don't even know everyones last name. especially the easy ones. Weird ones I still remember.
    That was fun, thx.

  265. Patty Rayfield (2012-01-10) #

    You have an amazing memory Derek, wishing you continued success

  266. Mel (2012-01-10) #

    LOVE THIS!!! I will try this right now. It might prove to be interesting since I'm tired...

  267. Kay Seamayer (2012-01-11) #

    Derek...I'll be 72 tomorrow...I'm still writing and recording songs... I put my first album with you on CDBaby....You were so encouraging...kind and I always felt wise way beyond your years!!!! I've enjoyed keeping lines of communication open with you all these years.... receiving your pearls of wisdom and continued encouragement and excitement about life and live. I'm working on a new career, motivational speaking...and have created a place for the songs I've written.... Thanks to you, for being so caring..... The thought...and the list you made is further testament to how
    much PEOPLE and friends mean to you..... I love that ...appreciate it......I'm glad to have known you..... You'll certainly be on my list of favs, for sure! (not everyone starts a new music career at 51.....and you were always so supportive and encouraging!!)

    Congratulations on all your successes! Continued blessings to you, my friend!

    KC - Kay Seamayer
    KC Singin and Swingin

  268. nightwings (2012-01-15) #

    ...Oh, there will be more memories! Still on for lunch in France in 5 years? Working on getting those years down, big dreams don't die, especially with awesome, and sincere judgement. Thank you for keeping the fire burning when some of us get burnt out. You will never cease to inspire and I will always consider you a great friend smile

  269. Alexandre (2012-01-16) #

    Good idea!!!

  270. Anth G (2012-01-16) #

    Like it!
    I'm good with faces but was terrible with names in the past. Learning now and surprisingly easy. This game could be like scrabble for me, very tough...

  271. Jim Vilandre (2012-01-16) #

    Hey Derek! I want to take a minute to say thanks friend! You have had a very positive place in my life as well. Thanks for the years of inspiration! God bless you my friend. Jim Vilandre

  272. Tamal (2012-01-17) #

    Hey Derek, I love this idea, putting down the names of my friends. Right now all of my friends I can see them on my facebook list but I will need to find time to put together a list and find them again in my life.

  273. Kat ParsonsKat Parsons (2012-01-17) #

    So lovely! Honored to be a part of your list....you are a part of mine!

  274. Joyce Dollinger (2012-01-17) #

    Thanks for thinking of me! I am so thankful I met you all of those years back. You are a true inspiration, a pioneer and your friendship means so much to me! xox

  275. Jen (2012-01-18) #

    Awww I am honored! I love that Tom and I have been married almost 9 years (remember the day you wore a TUXEDO?!?!) and you still remember me as Jen Drobny.

    Hope you and Saj are doing well. We hope to introduce you to the newest Chernaik soon smile.
    The tux wasn't the funny bit. It was the yarmulke taped to my bald head with double-stick tape. smile -- Derek

  276. Sabhiya Soomro (2012-01-19) #

    Great Idea! i'll try it too and see how many people can i remember. . .
    Thanks Mr. Derek

  277. Jay Cooper (2012-01-21) #

    Hi Derek,

    Love the idea - I was amazed by just how many people I had forgotten about along the way.

    It reminded me of lots of great people and times.

  278. Sebastian MarshallSebastian Marshall (2012-01-22) #

    I've got to step my game up!

  279. James (2012-01-24) #

    Great post - I must admit that the first place I'd turn to is probably Facebook but this sounds like an interesting little exercise to try without the usual tools!

  280. John Kerecz (2012-01-24) #

    Great idea & post ~ I am on the forgotten list but I am going to rib Noel Ramos about being on the list next time I talk to him! smile

    As always thanks for sharing!!!

  281. Janel Sturzl (2012-01-25) #

    You're on my list Derek! smile My memory for names has never seemed the best, but I at least remember a face and what the person did for me. If I make my list like that, it will be much like yours: Memory Lane. smile

  282. khalil (2012-01-27) #

    add me to that list, your mentee that made a million
    dollars through your ideas

  283. sandy lane famiglietti (2012-01-28) #

    To have a friend is a great fortune.

    To lose a friend is the greatest of all losses.

  284. Sarah Fimm (2012-01-29) #

    smile

  285. James Hind (2012-02-14) #

    Would be interesting to know what proportion of people's Facebook friends they could name. Probably as low as 40%

  286. Gen Berthault (2012-02-24) #

    I really like your exercises for students of life, which we all are whether we like it or not! The exercises keep me from sleeping through class.

  287. Noel RamosNoel Ramos (2012-02-24) #

    Nice to be remembered D! You most definitely make my list as well, it's been an honor to know you.

  288. Jessica (2012-03-03) #

    What a beautiful act! I'm sure all of those people were touched by you as well. It is amazing to be someone like I sure you are, Derek, that enriches people simply because they have known you. This occasionally occurs post facto - such as with a celebrity who comes out of nowhere (I went to high school with Madonna!) . It's quite an interesting event - to touch people after leaving their physical presence.

  289. Mindy Williams (2012-03-03) #

    Lovely idea. It reminded me of a quote from my favorite book, The Urantia Book:

    Train your memory to hold in sacred trust the strength-giving and worth-while episodes of life, which you can recall at will for your pleasure and edification. Thus build up for yourself and in yourself reserve galleries of beauty, goodness, and artistic grandeur. But the noblest of all memories are the treasured recollections of the great moments of a superb friendship. And all of these memory treasures radiate their most precious and exalting influences under the releasing touch of spiritual worship.

  290. Alex Ryan (2012-03-12) #

    Another great idea Derek!

  291. Ed Duane (2012-03-12) #

    Thank you!
    In my, meager, ill mothered, soon 71 year old, opinion, we are, none of us, "self made!" We are, in effect,the sum total of our life's experiences! I have just had occaision to compile a roster of names, for an associate, of young men I schooled with, at age 10 or so! What a trip! Along with names, came teachers, counselors, coaches and such a plethora of places, times, attitudes and incidents, that, were I a different person, t'would have been quite fearsome. Yet it occured to me, that each of theses people, places and incidents, to some degree or another, is responsible for who and what I am today. It is, I might add, a more humbling experience than humiliating! Here all these years, I had considered that "I did this all myself!" Quite possibly, there are a few things I've yet to learn, in what's left, of what I so laughingly call "my life!" You are a treasure, my friend, and you are definitely "on my list."

  292. Michael D Walker (2012-03-16) #

    Hi Derek,

    I really like the idea you came up with here but I'd love to see you take it one step further and write down at least a line or two about why or how that person impacted you and/or what you remember most about them.

    Not only would it be great to get some glimpses of wisdom from you AND them this way, but it'd probably trigger a bunch of other memories that are locked away.

    Thanks!

    Michael

  293. Roy Marvelous (2012-03-16) #

    What a lovely idea. It's a great exercise in gratitude.

  294. Nikki Hornsby (2012-03-18) #

    But we chatted a bit awhile ago about Sammy Cahn who's name I missed seeing on your list ...sad... You know his writing partner Jimmy Van Huesen (Chester Babcock) would be on mine. Someday when I have time I've got to try one day and make my memory list as you have accomplished so well. Congrads!

  295. Andrei Olaru (2012-03-21) #

    Nice idea ... but my list is definitively shorter. Seems that you had a leader attitude even when you where kid, by being very popular ... ;)

  296. David Haynes (2012-03-22) #

    What an amazing idea! I wonder how many people will stumble upon this page when Googling their own name. (Come on, you know we all do it.)

    I'd love to see a followup post if you reconnect with any of these people!

  297. Steigerhouten (2012-03-23) #

    Its a huge list... But yes you have got a fine memory. That's a great idea to recall your old memories!!

  298. Renee Frances ConnRenee Frances Conn (2012-04-02) #

    Good old fashioned common sense courtesy to remember people from time to time. Thanks for the reminder!

  299. JakePitersen (2012-04-12) #

    That is an amazing thing to do - it brings back so many memeories - AWESOME!

  300. Ed West (2012-04-13) #

    So if we didn't make the list it means you have known us so long it has slipped your mind? I remember helping you with the lyrics to Freefalling in Orono, Maine and hanging at your house in Woodstock, New York with my then 6 month old daughter (now almost 14 now).
    Ooops! Hi Ed and Lisa! Of course I remember you. smile -- Derek

  301. Larry Hinty (2012-04-17) #

    It's ok if you don't remember us, the little crazy micro-label from the hills of the midwest!

    We'll never forget you and your personal words and advice you gave us so freely even from the early days of CdBaby!

    Six albums and two super-singles later, we're still there! MadMouse Records is more of an educational launchpad now for young hopefuls.

    I teach music and the studio experience to kids who would otherwise not get a chance to and are serious about learning.

    Great to hear from you again! Sorry for the late reply, but I thought of you today and thought I would check in!

    GP-101 & The MadMouse Records Family
    Hopetown House Studio
    Mellow Cherry Media Productions
    "Electronica from the Hills of the MidWest"

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