Character predicts your future
2009-05-22
In 1991, when I ran the tape room at Warner/Chappell Music in New York City, I had an NYU intern named Nick Ruechel from Germany. He was a few years older than me, had recently moved from Cologne to New York, and seemed really driven to do whatever it takes.
He was a very hard worker, but also great at befriending the managers at the company. He put himself into the center of existing success (the company, the managers) and both learned and worked to earn his place in that world.
We lost touch for 17 years, but I knew he would be successful at whatever he chose to do. It was just in his character. He had the right approach.
So it was no surprise when I met him in New York this week, and we caught up on the last 17 years. He had thrown himself into photography, assisting increasingly successful photographers, learning everything he could, until he got the best possible job: first assistant to Annie Liebowitz for over three years.
Now he's a successful freelance photographer, specializing in portraits of jazz musicians. Happy and healthy. Of course. (See NickRuechel.com.)
We compared notes about our other colleagues at Warner/Chappell Music, and where they were 17 years later. Again: no surprises.
One manager, Jocelyn Cooper, seemed so clearly destined to rise to the top. She was very effective and just a little aloof, so that she really came across like a natural leader. Back in 1990, I could tell she was going to be very successful, and sure enough: she is.
Another manager, though he was a fun guy, seemed too moody and unfocused. Sure enough, he flamed out of the company, and is now bitter, unfocused and unhappy.
In March 2009, at the SxSW Music Conference, I was on a panel called “Artist as Entrepreneur”, with successful independent artist Rachael Sage.
The moderator was asking her about specific tips and techniques. How did she get the word out? Where did her big breakthrough come from? What was the key to her success so far?
At the end, I had to say, “I've known Rachael since 1996. She was the first artist on CD Baby. She's so driven, ambitious, and hard-working that she would have been successful no matter what industry she chose. It's her nature.”
(To be fair, I've noticed the same thing about myself.)
So what does this mean? It's just fate? Nothing you can do? You're either the successful type or you're not?
Of course not. But it's true that how you do anything is how you do everything.
Your “character” or “nature” just refers to how you handle all the day-to-day things in life, no matter how small.
And luckily, it's completely under your control, and seems to be a great indicator of future success.
i think too many people get caught up in how other people judge their character rather than developing their own.
I agree totally! And I just posted this one yesterday on Twitter. We spend so much time defining who we are by others which doesn't work, you'll only go downhill from there. Instead working tenaciously to learn who you are along, without outside definitions.
You can learn that by striving toward a goal or by hitting rock bottom, BUT once you know who you are down deep you hold certainty, confidence, security and that is what attracts me to any business.
Success is defined in so many ways, but what is the success that you want? If you don't know "YOU" how will you ever know?
Derek you are so accurate! Gloria Allred; most well known female attorney on earth; has had more hits/listens on my Judy Joy Jones Show then all the other hundred guests put together. Gloria is the most successful and driven person I have ever known. Gloria is doing her passion/calling 24/7; going 100% at it; yet many people never seem to get their dreams out of their head, and if they do; they don't go at it 100%! Gloria Allred recently helped female farm workers have the right be hired for the first time. Before, you had to be male. Her law firm won a lawsuit in their behalf. Gloria Allred's firm also won a lawsuit for older workers a company was trying to retire early so they wouldn't receive their full retirement packages. They will now! Reading her book; 'Fight Back and Win!'; what I remember most is 'You may not win; but try anway as you will have paved the road ahead for others that one day will win the cause you are fighting for!
Ms. Allred has taught me what applying all my energies can do; not thinking about doing it; but doing it!
I like this, but isn't success in the eye of the beholder? I bet these people put a tremendous amount of pressure on themselves and feel inadequate/unsuccessful quite often.
Attitude is Everything!
(along with perseverance)
Great article Derek. I just taught a class for my Artist's EDGE Membership (http://artists-edge.com/join) - The Art of Leadership. This is not about politics or even business - it's about who you are from moment to moment. The choices you make, the beliefs you hold, the level of responsibility you take.
One of the biggest traps people fall fall into is thinking that their ... Read Moremoods define them (as opposed to they define their moods).
You can build your character - if you're willing to do the work. It's very challenging making these internal changes by yourself, though. Because you can't see what you can't see. And very often our definitions of ourselves is like wallpaper - just below our awareness and in the background.
Great post! I saw Star Trek last night and much of the character development was the opposite of what you say here. The characters were mostly all from some disturbed youth or past. Their success was almost haphazard. Spock was the studied one but he was steering the ship and crew into disaster. Only by exposing his flaw did the course of the battle change.
It bothers me because people think they don't have to work hard at something; that they can write their own rules. It's just not that way! Fine, they're your rules, but what do other people want?
A great book is "Talent is Overrated" and I think it validates your post. Oversimplification: Work hard and honestly at the right things, then you reap the rewards.
Success is relative. I think that waking up, finding yourself on this side of sanity, in fairly good healthy, humane, empathetic, kind-sprited, and looking forward towards the 'light' is success in its simplest form.
Yet, how many of us wake up everyday forgetting that very simple wonderful fact...rushing ourselves to move on to all the 'stuff' we do that preoccupies and distracts us from remembering the foundation block of our own human success: that we woke up, found ourselves once again on this side of sanity, in fairly good healthy, humane, empathetic, kind-spirited, and looking forward towards the 'light'.
Reader: I think you should hug yourself right now, for such a great accomplishment - one that you do flawlessly everyday, its a wonderful foundation. Now hurry up and get movin'....time's a wastin'
Success is most certainly "in the eye of the beholder." Character is an ill-defined concept and perhaps most important is the notion of 1)having a vision, 2) being committed to that vision, and 3) taking the effective action to make it happen. Additionally, allowing oneself the permission to ajust and adapt is also important.
this message deals with integrity ... which is, as i understand it, being the mindful act of alignment of your emotional core with your art/life ... regardless of outcome in the conspicuous sense, you can't lose, ever.
This is a great article! As an indie artist, I live by this rule in all that I do. You are what your heart says you are, and the heart speaks through energy and actions. Things get rough sometimes, but keeping the end in sight keeps us pushing forward, taking joy and peace along the way. Others can feel that.
After signing a bad deal with Island/Great Jones in the late 80s I decided to take control of my own destiny, and start speaking MY mind, rather than be unhappy. Sometimes my honestly, and quick responses can set people off, but I like getting it out there on the table and out of my head. Besides music, I became a studied luthier and now repair high end violin family instruments, doing mostly varnish and color (grain lines) touch up. Ah but it's still music at night ha ha!
my favorite line in this is: "how you do anything is how you do everything." I think being committed to consciously living in every moment, approaching every action and interaction with mindfulness and interest-This is your Life! (instead of trying to get through the boring bits to the big moments) affects your whole life in a positive way and in turn, the whole world. Living truthfully and allowing joy sweetens your experience and then you find there's nothing to complain about! I think living joyfully and enjoying what you do is success, regardless of whether the world recognizes you or not.
I agree with Esther. Only the individual can determine what is "successful" for themselves. We in America are obsessed with traditional monetary success stories and celebrity.If you're not highly visible in big media your not successful or you're just"pursuing" your career.It's a super archaic model that still dominates our culture and still is instilled into our DNA.The fact is everyone is on their own life path and own set course. Some folks may want,require, and need a more glittery high profile art life and some amazing artists might be content with just creating art and fishing on the weekends. To each his own.
Bill Mike/Minneapolis
p.s. we can also thank corporate media for feeding us one percent of the cool people and artistic activities that go on in each of our individual towns and cities.People are busy with family and paying the bills and don't have time to blog it 24/7 to find the nooks and crannies of coolness.
I agree with Ester's response. Quoting:"but isn’t success in the eye of the beholder?" End Quote.
Since for some, success may mean battling a disease and getting back to health. And for others it may just mean finding some water and food for the day. However, Derek does mention, Quoting: "Your “character” or “nature” just refers to how you handle all the day-to-day things in life, no matter how small." End Quote. And so I believe this was kept in mind when writing this article. So to keep this thread going, I would like to pose the question: What is your version of success?
Great Article Derek and you have been so successful with CD.baby to boot. More importantly you have created many opportunities for fellow artists. It is difficult this question of character. How would Beethoven have faired in todays world? His music would have been popular but his behaviour would have had the analysts doing cartwheels. Yet it was these very traits that give his music the core humanity which is its essence. It is about not giving up about having the resilience and determination to believe. "The higher the mountain the harder the climb"! So to everyone "believe and keep going" and to myself, "listen to your own words".
Derek, love reading ur blogs. You're a smart man.
Cheers,
CS
You left out two things: The crooks who will stop at nothing to ruin you if they see you getting ahead of them. An honest man doesn't have a chance.
Also, success has nothing to do with who you are or what you know, it's all about WHO you know. I've seen many incompetents get jobs they couldn't do because they knew somebody who could get them the job.
Larry: though dark, you're talking about one of my favorite subjects. I highly recommend reading “The 48 Laws of Power” by Robert Greene. An honest man can deflect and defeat “crooks”. I have. And “who you know” is very true, so use it in your favor instead of grumbling about it. Know more people. -- Derek
I really needed to read this. Thank you for your character that wants to see others succeed.
Those in judgment are the guiltiest of all.
It's true that success means different things to different people. Some feel driven to have many things in life whilst some are happy just to listen to the birds singing. It's important to feel that you are being true to yourself above all else and to use your talents and gifts in the ways that feel good to you.
mindset too has a lot to do with character. Your character is not set in stone either. You can, if you have the courage to evaluate who you are and how you are being in the world, make positive changes toward success.
You seem confused. Is character everything - and if so is it as malleable as you seem to think it is?
Ryan: character isn't everything. Plenty of fuckups have become successful. But it's clear that character makes a huge difference. As for malleable: good question. I think we all have baselines that we're born with that may account for some of our nature/character, but the rest is completely under our control, and can be changed through mindset and hard work. -- Derek
amazing.,.. yesterday i went and saw Annie's photo exhibition in Berlin and watched a stunning documentary... I am still moved. And now reading your blog realize once again, how in sync we all are.
All the best, keep up your amazing work,
Kara
Malcolm Gladwell's latest book "Outliers" emphasizes how success is not just about innate talent or intelligence, but factors such as the generation you were born into, and the environment you were raised will influence a person's ability to succeed in a given field.
Gladwell also talks about the 10,000 hour rule, where you've got to put in about 10K hours to become an expert or proficient in your work. If you're going to put in that much time, might as well do what you love. Creating and working in a field that makes our heart sing might be the most important ingredient to success.
Laura: I think the "Outliers" example was more about people who become absolutely exceptional (the "one in a million" types) like Rockefeller, Beatles or Einstein. Some of those factors may be out of one's control (when/where born, etc). But I think this day-to-day character stuff is a great way of making the best with what you've got, no matter where or when. And can influence success quite a lot within those birthplace/birthtime grand-scale boundaries. -- Derek
Yup ...i feel the same way about about myslef.
to make a living out of writing music
To make a living promoting the artists on my new label.
I'm an artists 'Electromagnetic Impulses', following on from Derek's advice about setting up a record label, i went ahead and did it, now i have 2 goals,
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I love working to achieve both of these ends.
find a job you love and you never have to do a days work in your life....i'm lucky and i will suceed.
Thanks Derick..you rock !!
Jay
I like how you brought "character" and "nature" together in your closing lines. The entire article deserves a second reading when when viewed from this perspective.
...sharing a Nelson Mandela perspective...
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
best,
rada
I’m probably going to destroy this quote but I’ll try to convey the meaning.
It was Cary Grant or Clark Gable or someone like that who was being interviewed when a reporter stated. "Everybody we ask about you, says you are all of what you seem and more off screen. Normally we find the great actors have fatal flaws when they let their guard down, they are secretive or rude and aloof, sometimes mean.
His response was a little startling, He said (to the effect) "I was a little shy and kind of hard hearted, not very trusting and a little cynical, but I realized one day that’s not what I want to be and that’s not what I like in other people. So I took a look at the qualities I liked in other people and I formed a blend of these people. Since then I started acting like the people I’ve admired and I have been doing it so long now, I don’t know any other way to be.
Thank you for your info.I am honored.I am still babysitting my 2 grand kids at home but never give up.I will polish For Your Tomorrow CD to honor our heroes again.If you have so many good singers&artist..why dont you give them my CD or please give me their mailing address.I will let them sing FYT CD &honor our heroes.TY
(Note to Rada, your quote about "deepest fear being inadequate" is from Marianne Williamson. If you enjoy the quote you might enjoy other things she has written...)

There is something to be said for having and doing what we prefer to have and do. I think an indicator for character one might benchmark against or hold up has to do with how we comport ourselves and how happy we are.
What others can glean as indicators of character are often the facade we wear, a social mask, born form choices we make and conditioning we endured -- and what we project onto others as a result of our choices and conditioning.
In the end if you "are" what you do, if you ever don't do something you identify with, then you "aren't". I know this from failed start-ups; losing jobs; relationships that failed; etc.
I gave some thought to what Derek wrote and this quote came to mind. I didn't memorize it, but it is in a file for handy reference
"To compose our character is our duty, not to compose books, and to win, not battle and provinces, but order and tranquility in our conduct. Our great and glorious masterpiece is to live appropriately... The most certain sign of wisdom is cheerfulness. - Michel de Montaigne"
May all of us be wise enough to be happy. This is a keystone to good character development. I think it begins with the courage to be yourself.
Nice that you talk on/in the "open forum" of posting on the intertnet..
You are ahead of the average internet music website and have proven to be a winner.
Keep it up...
www.peteslauson.com
Derek, why don't you write something about where you got your optimism which I presume came from your parents? What was it they gave you that was important to your success?
I enjoyed the Sammy Cahn story.
Peace!
While I often find your essays and writings spot on, I think you're traveling a tad far into self-empowerment la-la land on this one, Derek.
If your goal is to create great, lasting art, and not just ride some wave of look-at-me-I'm-great-positive-thinking all the way to "success" (whatever that is) - I think you need true depth. And that doesn't always come from this kind of pop-positive thinking. Being overly "confident" and "positive" can often be horribly contrived.
You need pain. You need self-doubt. You need self-flagellation and nagging existential turmoil. You need cynicism and perhaps even misanthropy. You need a drive to do the art itself that has little or nothing to do with external marks of "success."
Look at Kafka. Look at Hemingway. Look at Sylvia Plath. Ingmar Bergman. Look at Marilyn Manson, for that matter. Not exactly the kind of people who convey a pronounced and lasting positive outlook. But one can hardly argue with their real, true, actual artistic legacies.
I think you need to dare to be wide open to the idea of your own artistic inadequacy in order to produce anything good at all.
Do you think Leonard Cohen wrote the majority of his lyrics with "success" in mind? No, he wrote them because they were true.
As the Buddhist might say, "abandon all hope of fruition."
Them's my two pennies on this one.
I agree with this post, but you left out something important: when we behave "in character", that may not mean we will head into conventional business success. That's because that may not be natural for us or (really) desirable for us (no matter what the world tells us). "Character" can be such a loaded word, and it's too easy to read this post and think "Gosh, if I had real character, then I'd be a big financial success with thousands of fans." But if you don't wake up every morning, just burning with the desire to go marketing, then trying to do so would be acting "out of character" for you. Every one of us has to ask the question "who am I" and "what do I REALLY want", as opposed to "what do I only THINK I want"? Really, how do I want to live RIGHT NOW? Meaning, what action can I take on a daily basis, right now, that will give me joy to do? Stephin Merritt recorded alone in his apartment for ages before some friends passed his tape along to a record company. He acted according to his own character. The friend was a lucky break. But I don't think he'd have regretted one second of the time he spent making that music in any case. Simply, it was what gave him joy to do, and who can regret having a good time?
In Chinese language, there is a pictogram called shēn 身. It represents a pregnant human being standing up with one leg forward to control balance.
Anyways, this symbol means that the individuals are pregnant with their own self, they are responsible for themselves...
What a tantalizing and intelligent response to Larry's comment. I have perused those 48 laws of power, but found them so freaking depressing. I and others sure would like to know how you defeated the "crooks" in the (music) business. As for your point about knowing more people instead of grumbling about it -- brilliant! Thank you!
Good post and yes all very true. and in a way I think its like everything else. Word does get around and that is a good thing. I remember being at the Asbury Park Clearwater festival and Bruce(yes that Bruce)showed up and he did a few tunes. We got to talking and it turns out he knows the same people I know.....small world. So treat people like what you want to be treated. One never knows who is listening.
Besides that Hope all is going great Derek, dream on!
Still Pickin'
Bill
Derek,
Great post. I just placed a hold on "The 48 Laws of Power" with local library. Appreciate great reading suggestions.
One trait I possess that all who know me would tell you is persistence. Of course with age I have learned a bit about letting go. But with music I persist. Would love to generate more interest in my work, but I keep playing music and am slowly learning about marketing.
I suspect the people you are referring to also place learning with reading, experience, discussion, etc very high on the list.
Derek,
You have taken to your new endeavor "like a duck to water." Personal stories are great motivators, as well as, smartly written metaphors, similes and other devises used by Shakespear. I hope that you are finding a just reward in your effort to help musicians find a way to personal successes.
I'm enjoying your new Emails!
Have fun,
Al
With myself I have always found that the more obstacles I encounter the more driven I become.
As I once heard, "what blesses one, blesses all." It is a blessing that Derek shares what he understands in his heart with the world. Why most haven't figured it out is a mystery, but I "get" it and believe you create your future. Your thought, attitude and actions all work to create the reality you choose. Blessings, MelaniePhippard.com
i love this Derick. Never thought of it quite this way. We are the captains of our own ship..why we sail, how we sail, and where we sail is our choice. Stop whining. Stop wishing. Don't look back.
Do. Clock is tickin'...
I totally agree with this article. There is a quote I have always loved and it is posted on my desk so I see it everyday. It states, "There is no such thing as failure, until you fail to try again!" Just keep at it. Don't give up. I don't let things get under my skin. But I always do what makes me happy!
Geez, somebody should have told me this when I was 20. But of course, I wouldn't have listened.
Kudos to Robbi K!
Being a Independent Recording Artist I can relate to hard work, just getting it out their is not enough street teams are a good tool as well. It's like the saying goes what you put into something is what your going to get out of it.
Surround your self with greatness and awesome things will happen for you, the bottom line is how bad do you want it and are you ready to give up a few things to get it. I jam with some Bad Ass Musicians and they have taken me to another level of performing. Never give up on your dreams you have to dig down deep and just go for it.
Success for me is in the music, the dream and the audience... reflecting notes with appreciation... passing-on all the joy in playing for them... in a moment recorded in pure energy for all time and beyond us.
This life is a grace note of success in a symphony of growth in an anthology of common experience.
this is so damn important in whatever field we work and play.
Give me sound character any day over charming personality.
Character is the cake and personality the icing and this surely reflects their relative importance.
Developing character takes work and real effort over a lifetime - 'bah humbug' - say the bitter and the cynical.
The humourist in me says 'Too preachy' Probably so but the importance of this elusive 'thing' is where we derive real self worth. The glitz and the glam do not nourish because they lack substance.
Now ... where did I put my uppers, downers and disturbing elements
Yes indeed, this type of character and success consciousness can be grown into an individual. Just think of the stories in "Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill". It is irrelavant what you do, but to have that character and base is the most important thing. Do what you truly love and do it with character
I think you are all unhealthily obsessed with your own personal success. Apart from your disastrous foreign policy, which hopefully Obama will revise, this is America's greatest problem. It is a cauldron full of hyper-competitive atoms all trying to change their characters to win the game. In doing this you all become the same: you look the same, feel the same, think the same, act the same and create the same type of music. Compared to its creative heyday in the mid-twentieth century, American music is now the most boring, soulless and predictable in the world. Even independent music sounds the same as corporate music. When is the last time you heard a 6/8 jazz waltz in the charts? Same, same , same.
Following this 'self-actualisation' theory will give success to a tiny minority, cast the majority into a pit of permanent failure and eventually destroy your culture, which is already in a state of terminal decline.
I'm sorry about this. It's not my fault, so don't shoot the messenger.
Dear Derek:
Great article! How one handles the "small things" day by day builds one's character day by day and ultimately "you" become you through this process of character building. One of the things I have learned is what I call my UP Principle. Unrelenting Persistence! Day by day focusing in on what one wants to acheive.
Well, Vincent Van Gogh certainly would have appeared to the 'outter-material world'; to those without their 'third eye open' to be a complete looser..yet reading his letters to his brother Theo; Vincent predicted almost to the day exactly how long he would live as a painter. Knowing his calling; and sparing his body nothing; he lived his life as a saint (someone going beyond the 'me' into 'we'; wanting to leave us a few paintings as a gift for his moment in time. So if ever judge; we might be surprised to look ahead 200 yrs; and the very person who was 'dead to the world' during their lives; will now be a household name! Keeping my third eye open; my 'worldly eyes' knowing they are seeing mostly illusions; I dance onward and will oneday become a star which is the destiny of each of us!
It is amazing that I have found another link to your experience, in that I met Nick Ruechel in NYC in '06 at his studio, when My son Brian Lynch was being photographed for his Grammy Winning, Latin jazz album 'Simpatico": by Nick. Nick wrote a great paragraph also about Brian's talent, in the liner notes.
Nick took a photo or two of me with Brian at the same time he was concentrating on doing Brian's.
I have not had the pleasure of seeing him again, but would welcome it. --As I may have mentioned I plan to go to see Brian and his wife Marissa on June 8th in NYC. (Brian is a trumpeter, as you may remember)
Again, thanks for your excellent work in furthering musician's realities and dreams !
Marti Lynch, Vocalist/Songwriter/ Recording Artist
Dear Derek,
I totally agree with you. Character influences everyone's future. I believe that if you have a goal, make positive thoughts about that and try as hard as you can in order to manage it, but without being anxious, then you can succeed.
Hey Derek!! I was thinking about you this week and so it's nice to hear your thoughts to us! I agree that people who are diligent, single themselves out of the crowd just because of their persistence, but I think there is more to it then self motivation. Sometimes the soup of life is thicker and takes more ingredients...
In a band, everyone is considered, and for love of others, sometimes the timing of success?? is moved. You may have all these traits and passion, but your personal future is dependent on others as well. So then you do have to believe and have faith..just this something inside of you that won't let the dreams go..And true, some things ARE just meant to be.
"And luckily, it’s completely under your control." is a contradiction. However I like your article and agree that you must take pride in not only your work, but pride in your existence.
great news keep'em coming
As a teacher for music business at UCD I see students come into an 'Intro to Music Business' class who are asleep, pissed off, don't give a damn, and believe there is nothing that they can do to change their lot in life. Of the 100 or so in that class some make a fantastic turn around by the time I see them again in the fall of their 2nd year. Many have told me that part of the reason for that turn around is getting a positive message about ways to succeed in the "biz" side of music. And sometimes I think that is all it takes to get somebody on what James Brown used to call "the good foot" Hey!!!! You gota, gota gota have it! And, in many ways that is what CD Baby was/is all about -- your "can do" it attitude. If teach it, if you preach it, not all will get it, but you would be amazed at how many do... keep it coming Mr. D
Another manager, .... seemed too moody and unfocused. Sure enough, he flamed out of the company, and is now bitter, unfocused and unhappy.

I think caracter is part of your succes, to me succes is not only the drive and determination to get what you want, but also to be a human being in everything
you do.
This means sometime's alow yourself beeing moody, ore feel unhappy about things in your live.
I've seen people heading up to their goals and go straight into an emotional colapse.
They forgot to take their emotional human side with them.
So to me balance is alway's important in creating your own succes.
By the way today i am very succesful in a financial way and i can say.. YES I DID IT AGAIN.
Although nothing really matters in this world, at all, in the grand spectrum and scheme of life itself, we're all meaningless beings getting ready to pass on to the abyss in time, after leaving our miniscule mark on the pavement of this planet. So, why not make the best of it and not take life so seriously...have a good time. Let's go for a ride and try to challenge ourselves while we're here. Most of us are here for the same reasons...life's' achievements and successes or as much of it that's attainable. Remembering, that our attitude toward life is everything, so we must try to accept the good and the bad that life has to offer us all without preponderance. We have a choice each day; to wake up with a smile or a frown on our faces. And yes, charachter shall predict the future along with drive and ambition but only as long as we're afforded our health and well being and determine it to have value in our lives.
great 3 posts! thnx!
Work is great if you 'work smart'. However if you make the same mistakes over and over again, then working can lead to all kinds of problems. Unfortunately education for today will be proven eroneous in the future. It seems to be a never ending viscious cycle that THE LORD devised to punsh mankind for eating the apple.
I don't think it's all character. It all depends what you do. If you live in an environment where creativity and depth is not the norm you might be successful at being recognized and moving some sensitive listeners, if you do music for example. However you might not make a whole lot of money. So, it all depends what success means to you. There are other factors beside character in making success you don't mention. One is charisma.
Part of the fuel is having a sense of purpose and also not being distracted..set your goals and not be afraid to attain it. Moodiness..everyone has..but at the end of the day..it's not the storms that define if you'd make it, it's how well you stir to your destination despite-off of it.
- Vivian Khor
Composer, artist
Derek, thanks for writing this blog! It comes at a perfect time for me as I teach this old dog new tricks.
We describe how a person handles setbacks and failures in everyday life as that person's character. We are often puzzled by the success of average talent and the seeming lack of success of the gifted. I am learning that the difference is in how we explain to ourselves our own failures and setbacks. If we view these bad events pessimistically, we become depressed and fail to act. If we have an optimistic view, we are able to move forward. How am I getting smart about his?
I am reading a great book by Martin Seligman in which he entertainingly presents the research to back up this theory as well as a series of exercises to help you change how you view bad events. It is called Learned Optimism. How to Change Your Mind and Your Life.
According to Seligman's research, having an optimistic explanatory style is the key to persistence and success. And it is learned.
So he teaches the reader how to change from a pessimist style to an optimistic one. Now that's reason for hope!
Because as a friend pointed out to me the other day when we were talking about being aging artists and "cracking the whip" to get work done, "One of the things about getting older is that I just can't persecute myself with the same level of enthusiasm."
I'm laying down my whip and learning a new way.
Janet Metzger
Singer~Actor~Voice Talent
hOW BEST TO PROMOTE MY bLUEGRASS CD.i DO NOT DO LIVE SHOWS.I AM A MEMBER OD CD BABY.
Thank you for your comments Derek. Success is how you feel about your life. I am always trying to do things that seem out of reach to me. As an immigrant from South America, as a teenager I was a High School drop-out, but now I have a Masters in Business and an RN license running a large medical unit, I was an officer in the US Army, and created a Record Label producing music... and the beats goes on.
Thank you again!
Oscar
OMC RECORDS, LLC
www.omcrecords.net
thanks derek. you always have such amazing words of wisdom. you have helped me stay inspired for so many years. ten to be exact.
thanks,
simone
there is some good info in just about every reply, lots of good info. I feel very successful as an artist, and proud of my music which I write and play from my heart, but, the business is harder for me to understand and I agree with one of the post above about corruption is tough to deal with. I hope everyone that is deserving should make it but sometimes it doesn't work out that way.
The truth of who and what we are,
to rise above the flatterer,
When Macbeth assumed he would be "king",
he was truly out of character!
The truth of who and what we are
to rise above the flatterers,
When Macbeth assumed he would be "king",
he was truly out of character.
here is something I posted on a cdbaby blog today.I want to trust but its very hard sometimes:
(I agree with everything 1 through 11 but there is something thats bothering me that somehow needs to get fixed.How on earth can anyone prove how many digital downloads are sold. How can I prove that itunes, cd baby etc. actually sell what they report.I was looking at my accounting today on cd baby and it said they owed me $96. something, then I checked 10 min. later and it said $5.something, then it changed to $13 something and then to $20.81. I trust cd baby but seeing the figures jumping around like that bothered me .This is a desperate world and there are people that can't be trusted. There has to be away to validate downloads, a system, a digital code, someway to validate every sale made so that people who spend a lifetime working hard can be sure their getting whats due.I trust cd baby but its asking to much to trust everbody in every company. The industry needs some verifiable way of keeping account for every sale big or small.)
I believe in myself but there are so many in this world that can't be trusted.Some times good people get taken advantage of how do we deal with that?
Wow all I can say great comments by all. Yea its wonderfull to know myself so well now. I was negative a bit like Larry. I also tried to please every one else once too but all thats gone. On the Success... if money is the only aquirement I think thats the view of most. Then happiness does not require money and lots of times money does not create happiness. What a nice bunch of people you all are a great campfire circle...
I was wondering one day how did I start my own business. My father had been self employed since I was a little girl. I said to myself I do not want to be self employed. I did not want the hassle. Once I had an opportunity to become a full time entertainer I jump at the chance. My love for singing was so great that I forgot what I had said. Now I am so glad that I get to travel and sing. I love singing songs like Route 66, Summertime, Fear an original, and What is this thing called Love. Now I am playing the piano something I always wanted to do. That jump has been so wonderful even though I have paper work and phone calls to make.
I enjoy your comments. Personally, I can be very inconsistent. Sometimes people would look at me & say she will succeed at anything (I even have some written references to prove it). There are days I am just burned out & unfocused. And other days everything is great & I am excited & moving forward. So, I would chose to be successful at everything, but my emotions & brains don't always go along. Perhaps One Day At A Time is the very best motto....
I'm confused, Jocelyn Cooper is 29. In 1990 she would have been about 10, given the month. How did you know then that she was going to be great? Are you sure that that is the right Jocelyn Cooper? Am I the only one confused?
OH! nevermind, she was the 40 under 40 in 1994 I believe...I wanted to make sure I was reading the right person, it is!
Character is a must, but making good business decisions is even More. a person has got to know when to say yes and when to say no.